nurse mom on the other side of the bed

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Specializes in Med Surg, Parish Nurse, Hospice.

i am a nurse mom on the other side of the bed. i got the dreaded call that my 20 yr old daughter had been in an accident friday night. wrecked on a four wheeler, not wearing a helmet, wearing flip flops and had been drinking.thank god she is alive. she tore up her knee pretty bad and has road rash all over. will be in the hosptial until monday on iv antibitoics. i can't seperate the nurse and mom in me. gave her a bath and washed her hair this am and everything i did hurt or was wrong. she is at the hosptial that i had worked at for along time, some staff still know me and others don't. her care has been great and the care in the er wonderful. i still feel like i am in a daze. thank god for how lucky we are.

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Specializes in ICU/PCU/Infusion.

I'm so glad your daughter wasn't more seriously hurt! Thank goodness you are there to be able to help her. I know it can be difficult to be mom when your kiddo isn't being very agreeable, but just hang in there. She'll come around. :)

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Specializes in Tele, Acute.

77,

So sorry about your daughter, thank God she is not seriously injured. Maybe this will be a wake up call for her. I will pray for yall. C

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Specializes in LTC, Psych, Hospice.

((77))

Yes, that is a VERY hard place to be. My youngest was in a bad car wreck a couple of years ago (drinking) and it is VERY hard to draw the line between mom and nurse. He's o.k. I will say a prayer for you and your daughter.

Sharon

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Specializes in Peds, Med-Surg, Disaster Nsg, Parish Nsg.

I feel for you. I was in the same predicament a few years ago when my daughter was in a terrible MVA in which she was seriously injured and her roommate was killed. It is so hard to be there and see the injuries and the pain through the eyes of a nurse and a mom. I'm sure your daughter is taking out her frustrations on you because she is comfortable with you. It's hard though because you are trying to do things for her to make her feel better. You are tired and worried and it's difficult to deal with her right now. But hang in there. You'll get through it. One day she will look back and see how fortunate she was that she wasn't hurt more seriously or killed, and that she had a loving mom who helped her through a very rough time.

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Specializes in or/trauma/teaching/geriatrics.

It is hard to be in your shoes.

Hang in there even if it takes a few years.

Your family is truly blessed to still have your daughter.

Someday when she is not angry she will be so grateful to have had her own nurse by her side without having to have turned on a call light.

It is almost easier to be" the nurse" when you need to be "mom".

Sounds like your daughter is already having issues with losing some of her independence.....................this too shall pass.

You will all be in my prayers!

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Specializes in ER, OB, Med/Surg,.

It is so much harder when your patient is your child/grandchild. My thoughts and prayers will be with you

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I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. My prayers are with you both.

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Specializes in Cardiology, Oncology, Medsurge.

bravery in action is to be there when family hits it bad. good for you to hold your ground and be there even when "everything you do is wrong!" who knows? your daughter might see the light and become a nurse after all. '''-)

ps. lucky is the daughter who's mom washes her road rash with love and tears!

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Specializes in LTC / SNF / Geriatrics.

I too have been there, done that. My son was in a MVA last October - his Ford Taurus sideswiped a semi-truck. He's a miracle. I was able to lay aside my "nurse" roll and be mom, (as a nurse I know how staff freaks out when they find out a family member is a nurse and I didn't want people to act differently because of it) I did tell the ICU nurse that I'm an RN, but know absolutely nothing about ICU work as I've only worked in LTC - she was very gracious and told me if I had any questions to ask.

The road to recovery has been long, but he is alive and will make a full recovery - and that is my prayer for your daughter - a full recovery without any lasting effects, that she will come to realize how fortunate she is to have a mom who loves her and especially I pray for strength for YOU, mom, you will need it - seek the peace that only He can provide and trust in Him that all will work out ok. Take care of you so you can help take care of her....

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Specializes in Peds Cardiology,Peds Neuro,Pedi ER,PICU, IV Jedi.

jrbl77...

I'm sorry to hear of your daughter's accident, thank goodness she wasn't more seriously injured!! Someday, when she's all grown up and much more mature she'll be able to look back and see what a wonderful mother she has.

Keep your chin up, Mom.

vamedic4

;)

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It's hard being on the other side. You know too much and your hands are tied. So glad your DD will be okay. Some of us aren't as lucky. I wouldn't wish my experience on anyone.

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