nurse lost baby to SIDS

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I am an LPN and mother of five. On OCT 11 I lost my 3 month old to SIDS. No warning. No sickness. He was extremely strong and vibrant. Just had a check up two weeks prior. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them? I hated my nursing experience due to the fact that as soon as I found him that morning I knew he was gone and I could do nothing about it. I haven't gone back to work yet and I am terrified to. If anyone else out there has been through this please talk to me.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved and precious baby. I cannot fathom the deep pain you and your family must be going through. I would never be so bold to even *think* I could now. All I can do is offer my condolences to you and to offer my thoughts and prayers.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. You will do it in your own way and in your own time.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Specializes in IM/Critical Care/Cardiology.

I am sorry for the loss of your child...

if it helps..time will help you heal.

It's always hard to take the nurse cap off and put the mom cap on when we are nurses. You have so much support here.

Prayers,

Sharona

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Specializes in Triage, MedSurg, MomBaby, Peds, HH.

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Please accept my warmest best wishes for you and your family. This has been a terrible shock and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

:scrying:

Michelle

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Specializes in Med-surg; OB/Well baby; pulmonology; RTS.

I'm so sorry about your son. (((Hugs)))

My son died at 12 days of age 5 years ago, but not from SIDS: he died from CHD. It is agonizing to experience a child's death no matter how they die. It breaks my heart to hear of other parents who have to go through this. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

I was afraid to go back to work too after B died-just thinking of all the questions that people might start asking or dreading the things they would say and my reaction. I was also afraid if everyone started hugging me I would never make it through my shift-don't get me wrong: I didn't mind for people hugging me but it was going to be hard enough just being there.

I asked a close co-worker to "spread the news" that I didn't want everyone coming up to me and hugging on me when I first arrived that morning and that if I did happen to start crying, just give me some privacy.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

I am so very sorry! You and your precious family will be in my prayers.

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Specializes in Psych ICU, addictions.

I'm sorry for your loss.

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Specializes in MED/SURG, ONCOLOGY, PEDIATRICS, ER.

i am so sorry about your loss...i'll pray for you and your family. :icon_hug:

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As the mother of a baby who just turned four months old my heart fell to my feet when I read your post and words won't begin to describe the feelings I have for the situation you've gone through.

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I am an LPN and mother of five. On OCT 11 I lost my 3 month old to SIDS. No warning. No sickness. He was extremely strong and vibrant. Just had a check up two weeks prior. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them? I hated my nursing experience due to the fact that as soon as I found him that morning I knew he was gone and I could do nothing about it. I haven't gone back to work yet and I am terrified to. If anyone else out there has been through this please talk to me.

I know exactly what you are going through, I lost my 3 month old to SIDS on the same date 3 years ago! (wow) It will take time for you to adjust and that's okay. Everyone will tell you that they know what you're going through because they lost their brother, mother, etc.....It's not the same people!!!Some things I would like you to know, please go to a therapist, I tried to tough it out and didn't go and I regret it now ( I'm not going now b/c I feel like it's too late:o) but do see someone and talk about your feelings. And be honest with yourself, don't put on a front for anyone, sometimes I had to cry and scream in a room by myself, that's what made me feel better....see what works for you.... Stay strong sweetie, everything will work out;)

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Specializes in Home Health, Geriatrics.

I am so very sorry for your loss. It always seems unnatural for a parent to lose a child. There are no words I can say that will take away the pain you are experiencing, but just know you are in my prayers, thoughts and I am sending out an extra big hug just for you. Please let us know how you are faring. You are a stronger woman than I am. God bless you.:icon_hug:

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Specializes in Cardiac, ER.

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even begin to imagine the pain of losing a child. You and your family will be in my prayers. Hang in there,.your kids need you,..I do hope you have a supportive group of family and friends at this time.

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Specializes in Telemetry/Med Surg.

I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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