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I am dating a guy who's mom was fired 10 years ago from where I work now. I am wanting to work in the unit she worked in because it's where I always wanted to work, but there are people there who knew her back then that are still there today. I have no idea why she was fired...the only thing I know was that she dated some doctor's there. I am just concerned that if nurses start to find out who I am dating they may consider me an extension of her....and I really do not want that to happen.

I actually asked someone if they knew who she was and he said yes with a serious face and didn't say much else. It was a little awkward. Maybe I am overreacting about this situation?

hilarious, i don't see it as a big deal, it was 10 years ago. the worse she could have done is kill a patient, doubtful if she's still a nurse. she probably got canned for screwing around with the docs (but i'm sure they gave some other reason), i see it happen all too often, the docs don't get fired, they just get fresh meat to replace the old meat.

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Some things are best left where they are...in the past. You'd do well, to let things alone.Why borrow trouble when it's not yours?

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Specializes in ER, Trauma.

IMHO; it happened before your time. If the subject comes up, you know nothing about it and don't want to. You just want to be judged on your own merits.

Keep that attitude and you'll gain respect. Never forget that in any new job certain people will be your friends right away. 6 months later you'll have a completely differant group of friends. The second group of friends will last forever.

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I agree with the rest. Let the past be the past. If anyone else brings it up, simply say, "That was before my time . . . and I'd like to keep it that way."

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Specializes in COS-C, Risk Management.

While I'd like to be all Pollyanna about this, I have actually been in this situation. My former mother-in-law was employed in the same hospital system about 20 years before I started there. I found out several years later that she was not well-liked, and was told (again, many years later, after I'd already moved on) that she was asked to resign every position she ever held in that system. Her daughter also worked there and made a bad name for herself as well. So when I turned up, also carrying the family name, even though I'd already married and divorced the son, I was painted with the family brush. I hope that the OP never has to deal with it, but in a small town, a lot of things that were "before my time" became an issue. Thankfully, I've moved back to my own hometown and no longer have to deal with the issues caused by that family.

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The more of this thread that I read, the more I want to know what this nurse could have done that ten years later people still give out negative vibes about her. It must have been juicy gossip at the time.

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Specializes in Health Information Management.

In a small town, you don't exactly have to be an axe murderer or the, er, "town bicycle" to be a topic of gossip for ten or fifteen years. Honestly. My MIL was an RN at the community hospital in my hometown. My husband is estranged from his parents, and my MIL has gone around town telling everyone she has X-1 number of grandkids (because our child doesn't count due to the estrangement, which was very well founded, believe me). Guess where we STILL get the ultra-cold-shoulder routine from virtually all the nurses and a lot of the support staff whenever one of us has to go in for a test or an ER visit? The whole thing has been a done deal for close to ten years! Small towns can be very closed and insular. It doesn't take much to set people who grew up in the town, have tons of relatives in the area, and have worked in said facility throughout their entire professional lives talking.

OP, good luck. Just keep your mouth shut and be pleasant but firm if it ever comes up ("I'm not really sure what you mean, and honestly, I don't really think it's any of my business. How is the patient in room X doing?") - and ignore it if you overhear people discussing the situation behind your back. Eventually the dust will die down and your good work will quiet the gossip queens.

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Specializes in LTC.
The more of this thread that I read, the more I want to know what this nurse could have done that ten years later people still give out negative vibes about her. It must have been juicy gossip at the time.

I'm with you on this. To OP, when you find out, report back, will ya?:lol2:

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thanks for all your advice. I don't know exactly what happened but she still has her license. I think it has something to do with dating doctors...married ones...at work? not sure...

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You shouldn't be ashamed of something that had nothing to do with you...If you do marry your boyfriend, I say take his Last Name and be proud of it :) If anyone happens to ask you about your MIL then tell them it has nothing to do with you and that it's none of your business; tell them if they have anything to say or ask then they can ask her about it, not you. I'd just leave it at that....

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