Rude nursing comments - page 4

After reading the post about whether spouses were in the medical field, it reminded me of a comment that my husband made to me that to this day he regrets. (It was over 5 years ago.) I had been an... Read More

  1. by   almostrecruited
    Stevielynn having "SAHM wanna be" by her pic got me thinking. Nurses and SAHM's (stay at home moms) are sort of in the same boat. Both seem to be underappreciated, stereotyped, and disrespected by so many in society. I have had the privledge of not having to work & be home with my kids for the past 7 years. I have gotten so many rude comments like "Oh God I'd go crazy being at home with kids all day long with nothing to do!" " Aren't you bored??" "You are too smart to be just a housewife" BLAH BLAH BLAH My favorites are the I'd go crazy being home with my kids all day" and the boredom comment. My usual response is a smile followed by" Well, I'd go crazy worrying about my kids being taken care of by someone else while I'm at work all day" I've encountered a few people (most were other women) that had the attitude that SAHMs should be taking on several extra responsibilities, or filling up all their spare time with extra work (volunteering at schools , etc) in order to "really contribute to society" Since when is being a fulltime parent, raising your own kids, and taking care of your own home, not contributing to society? Sorry, a little off topic, but it just got me thinking... Especially now since I am facing having to work, and continuing my education. I am excited about nursing school next year, but I will also miss being that full time parent. It's also getting difficult to brush off the comments I am getting "Oh that's great you are finally doing something" GRRRR! It is also nice to see that someone (especially a nurse, which is what I desire to become) respects my current job title (SAHM), and wants to have a job like mine
    Last edit by almostrecruited on Aug 19, '03
  2. by   traumaRUs
    Golly - what rude people.
  3. by   Rapheal
    Originally posted by azgirl
    A dear friend, 66 years old, recently said she did not know why I went to school for four years to get a two year degree because her neice just took one class while in high school and is a nurse.
    I too have heard this type of reply. I have had dome people ask me what I do and when I tell them I am an RN they tell me how their neice, or grandaughter took this up in high school and is a nurse too.

    My neice used to tell everyone she was in nursing school but she was really in a vocational program to be a CNA. She was dropped from the program because she was "abusive" to patients.

    Too bad the public does not know the true role of nursing. If they knew that we were responsible for addressing their labs, questioning unsafe med orders and other things perhaps they would be less inclined to throw hissy fits when they are brought a flavor of soda that they don't like or other such nonsense.
  4. by   colleen10
    I just wanted to add that I am starting my first semester of nursing clinicals this evening and have started reading my "Nursing Fundamentals" Book.

    In the first chapter which discusses the history of nursing, nursing orgs. and education, etc. there are a whole two pages of pictures of nurses with various patients - children, laboring mothers, elderly, etc. There are about 6 total. Under each picture is a negative quote such as "How can handle all the death and disease and watching an elderly patient die, I would never do that" and then there is a nurse response in quotes "When you see the joy in a patients eyes from doing the smallest task that means so much to them or when you comfort a patient and their family in the last hours of their life, then you will know how." This isn't word for word as I don't have the book right in front of me but it's the jist.

    I just thought it was good that this was in the book as it seems so many people receive negative comments when told that you are in nursing school or are a nurse.
  5. by   8ntth
    The rude comments can hurt! As nurses I think we are more sensitive than the general population so we're more upset at the rude comments. I really think all professions have rude - crude remarks made about them, but out of either jealousy or ignorance. Do we respond in the same way when we know why the comment is made? Instead of getting angry it's an oppurtunity for providing education.
    It reminds me of something I heard a long time ago. "What do you say if someone calls you a refridgerator?" "Well, I laugh, I'm not a refridgerator"
  6. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Whether or not someone is a nurse, respect needs to go all around.

    At a nursing home i worked at as a housekeeper, for the first 3 months, i had a CNA who referred to me as "the maid", "oh housekeepergirl!!! Ha HA HA", "hey mop queen", etc. with the pathetic bullcrap like that. I tried one time to reason with HER by saying "My name might not be stamped on my nametag in large letters, but it says -------, and here i also wrote it on this index card in large letters for future reference". Another week of the belittle namecalling ensued, so i went to the DON, which was the next step up and told her what was going on and how it was making my job something i wasn't looking foreward to.

    The next day she called her in the office, and said "this is wasting my time. I should not have to tell people HOW to respect EVERYONE, but in this case i have to. Judging by your resume, you've done private duty in houses that included cleaning and such, so do you think this gives you the right to treat others like crap? If so, you can get your last check this week, or you can learn to be respectful of everyone, because i am not dealing with any people that let licenses, trainings, and certifications go to their head."

    I loved that woman .

    But thanks to that incident, i remember what it was like to be considered "doing nothing but sitting on your ***" or as the low woman on the totem pole. No one i work with, or who might work for me will ever have to hear that kind of insult from me.

    Correct, Eleanor Rooselvelt once said "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." The key is not to consent.

    As for the disrespect from patients, i'll have to take that as it comes.
  7. by   Spidey's mom
    Almost Recruited . . . thanks for the comments about stay at home moms. I had children to raise them myself and I'm working (under protest) part-time now. I'm very fortunate that my inlaws take care of my son two days a week at their ranch, where he has a great time. Raising children is challenging but it is not boring. If you are bored, then, as I say to my kids in the summer, it is your own fault. The nursing image suffers from the same kind of stereotyping as SAHM's and actually teachers, emergency workers, etc.

    Just don't stand for it.

  8. by   tommycher
    I am an LVN, I work on Telemetry in a hospital. The LVN's here do ALL the same work as RN's, EXCEPT hang blood and be charge. I cannot imagine being unable to start IV's or IVP's. I cannot recall all the other things that were mentioned earlier that LPN's elsewhere are unable to do, but if you cannot take total care of your patients, including IV therapy, is that really nursing? If I had to rely on an RN to do my pt's meds, the RN would have no time for her pt's!! I love being a nurse, and the RN's on my unit tell us LVN's to get our RN because they recognize we do the same job as they do, but do not get the same pay.
  9. by   almostrecruited
    Raising children is challenging but it is not boring. If you are bored, then, as I say to my kids in the summer, it is your own fault. The nursing image suffers from the same kind of stereotyping as SAHM's and actually teachers, emergency workers, etc.

    Just don't stand for it.
    AMEN to that. I've never been bored being a SAHM, or parent. I don't have time to get bored. I'm too busy doing my job, taking care of my kids, and the rest of my responsibilities. That's why I find it obnoxiously rude when other women ask me if I am bored sitting at home all day doing NOTHING LOL! The rudeness and arrogance of others is present in all "careers" I see I'll be facing a new kind of stereotyping when I become a nurse. That's okay, I'm a seasoned pro at ignoring, and sometimes correcting shallow, arrogant people. Good luck to you stevie, in becoming a SAHM.
    Last edit by almostrecruited on Aug 21, '03
  10. by   flashpoint
    I used to work in the ER as an LPN...we had an LPN in the evening to assist the RN with vitals, meds, etc. One night when the RN was busy working a code with the code team, a lady came in with a "cold for three months." She also stated that she wanted to be seen by a REGISTERED nurse..."not one of those **** little pretend nurses" and a DOCTOR...not a PA who was too stupid to make it through medical school. The PA and I triaged her to the waiting room, even though we had beds available. He offered to see her right away, but she said she'd rather die than have a "flunkie" treat her. Five hours (and seven ambulances) later, she left...
  11. by   ainz
    I have heard my share of comments, the most common were "when are you going to medical school" and my all-time favorite, "you mean you are a male nurse?" Most of my time in staff nursing I was the only male staff member, everyone else was a nurse but I was a "male" nurse, like it was something really weird, and of course, I was accused of being gay.

    I didn't really get much of the "just a nurse" comments because being a "male" nurse, like that made me a better nurse or something. But I have heard many many very negative and rude comments to other nurses by patients, visitor, and doctors.

    I don't think the general public realizes how much of their care is planned, coordinated, and carried out by nurses, nor do they realize how much physicians depend on nurses.
  12. by   S.N. Visit

    I couldn't have said that better!
    We sound like we are both folllowing the same path!! I've been a sahm for 8 yrs and starting my first class of pre-reques this wed.
    Good luck in your adventure
  13. by   tattooednursie
    I had a nurse tell me that my best aint good enough. I thought that was mighty rude.