Are married women bullied less at work?

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Are women who are married less likely to be bullied than a single woman with no kids??

It's a line from a movie. And being asked to work extra is in no way, shape, or form bullying. It's a necessity at times. Perhaps you didn't mean that the way you wrote it, but your post does indeed imply that you believe being asked to work extra is bullying.

How is a person supposed to know its a quote from a movie? Thank you for explaining it but to be fair it does sound like that poster is trying to call me out specifically on using the word "bullying."

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How is a person supposed to know its a quote from a movie? Thank you for explaining it but to be fair it does sound like that poster is trying to call me out specifically on using the word "bullying."

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Oh, for pete's sake. It's from The Princess Bride, and probably one of the best movie lines ever written/spoken.

Sorry to offend.

The first part of my post was directed at what you wrote. The second part was directed to the world in general (or rather, the Allnurses World that overuses the word "bully" until it's lost all relevant meaning).

I think if I hear the phrase "lateral violence" one more time I might punch someone in the throat (yes, that was meant to be ironic).

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I think quoting movies is right along with using text speak, I had no idea what you were talking about either. I haven't seen a movie in probably 20 years, and don't have a functioning TV....so let us not get lost in media land quotes trying to be amusing.

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I keep using that word? Do you even know me? Have you even seen me in a thread? I'm sorry if you're trying to use "you" in a general sense. Make it clear.

And I didn't say it was bullying per se. I was responding to OP who asked if marrieds are bullied at work. I said "maybe bullying..."

Get your facts straight and don't accuse me of things I haven't said.

The Princess Bride. Go watch it.

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I think if I hear the phrase "lateral violence" one more time I might punch someone in the throat (yes, that was meant to be ironic).

Just ask them to work an extra shift instead. :)

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I haven't seen a movie in probably 20 years, and don't have a functioning TV....so let us not get lost in media land quotes trying to be amusing.

The Princess Bride came out about 30 years ago. :)

Funsucker.

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I think quoting movies is right along with using text speak, I had no idea what you were talking about either. I haven't seen a movie in probably 20 years, and don't have a functioning TV....so let us not get lost in media land quotes trying to be amusing.

I've never seen the movie (and many others that popular phrases come from), but I knew about the quote because of how prevalent it is.

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I love that quote.

I never heard it before I came to AN.

It's inspiring. It strengthens. I could most definitely see myself adopting it as my mantra.

Unfortunately, it's just not true.

It can be true, you simply must not give another person that kind of power over you. Why should you let someone else's opinion affect your self esteem. When I was young, I used to care too much about being liked and now in my old age I have the freedom of not caring. I come to work and do a job and do my best to get along, but I don't go out of my way to socialize outside of work with my coworkers and don't really care what they think. If someone is rude I think to myself I would never spend time with them outside of work anyway so who cares! I'm doing my job, getting paid to work with them, but don't have to be friends with them! Depending on the situation I may stand up for myself or I may ignore and disregard a rude comment. I don't let others define me as a person. When you are confident and assertive bullies will stay away from you. They are looking for someone who is vulnerable, who they can hurt. If they don't get that reaction out of you they will move on to someone else.

I dealt with bullying as a new grad and this from an LPN with pathological jealousy that I was an RN and she was not. I didn't stop her from going to school and getting her RN. My insecurity as a new grad and being new made me an easy target for her hostility. She made my life a living hell trying to turn many of the regular staff against me and this because I had the RN job and she didn't. While she was successful in turning others against me and creating a hostile work environment I didn't let her win! I outlived her and the clique she was a part of disbanded and is no more. In fact LPN's don't even work on the floor anymore and she got demoted to a tech and left at that point. I don't believe I will ever be a victim of bullying again because of the strength and self confidence I possess now! I'm no longer that insecure new grad trying to prove herself!

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What if the married staff are generally older than the single?

As we get older, many of us gain confidence. A confident nurse is a less vulnerable target for bullies. Becoming a mother taught me a big lesson in assertiveness and how to squash bad behavior in others immediately.

I love this and believe it to be true with all my heart. I don't know what it was about being in my 30s, but it's like I am comfortable in my skin, I don't need to impress anyone, and I'm free to disagree, although I do it respectfully.

I do wish people would learn the difference between being bullied and someone just being a jerk.

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Princess Bride!!!!!!! I should have read the rest of the thread before commenting. Inconceivable!!!!!

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Why do you ask, OP?

Because I feel that my marital status plays a part in getting bullied. I had a older woman in the nursing program approach me and say "men don't date girls like you"…this was out of the blue. I was minding my own business when she said that. And then the other girls in the program talk about their boyfriends/husbands/kids a lot and well…I don't. Not in a relationship nor do I have kids. This makes me easy prey. I thought if I was married or had kids I would fit in a lot more & not get bullied or ostracized.

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