No support from my dad (vent)

FocusRN · Dec 17, 2004

Well, I finished my second to last semester today with a big relaxing sigh, and I should be happy but I'm not. I am so frustrated with some of the things my father says to me on the phone. I called to let my parents know that I finished my semester today. He asked how I did and I said I think I did alright, but it was pretty difficult. I only needed a 62% on the final to still make a B in the class (which I am happy about). And all he has to say to me is "Well, just remember that when you think you have done all you can, there is always room for improvement...and just remember people interviewing you will ask for your GPA." I mean God, can't I get the least little bit of support!!???:angryfire I don't get any financial support from him. I work 36 hours a week in an ICU, plus clinical days, plus lecture days, and god forbid I have time to get groceries and run errands. What do they expect from me?? Am I the only one out there with this problem and what can I do to get it through his head to cut me a little slack.

My dad is the same way,about evry aspect of my life. That is why I keep communication with him to a minimum. I remeber when I got a b on an algebra test in high school. I was so proud because I had been having a hard time in that class. All he said was " A, b, and so what a b is an acomplishment now?" From that statement you'd think he was a scholar in high school :rotfl:. NOT!!!...

FocusRN · Dec 17, 2004

Well, I finished my second to last semester today with a big relaxing sigh, and I should be happy but I'm not. I am so frustrated with some of the things my father says to me on the phone. I called to let my parents know that I finished my semester today. He asked how I did and I said I think I did alright, but it was pretty difficult. I only needed a 62% on the final to still make a B in the class (which I am happy about). And all he has to say to me is "Well, just remember that when you think you have done all you can, there is always room for improvement...and just remember people interviewing you will ask for your GPA." I mean God, can't I get the least little bit of support!!???:angryfire I don't get any financial support from him. I work 36 hours a week in an ICU, plus clinical days, plus lecture days, and god forbid I have time to get groceries and run errands. What do they expect from me?? Am I the only one out there with this problem and what can I do to get it through his head to cut me a little slack.

My dad is the same way,about evry aspect of my life. That is why I keep communication with him to a minimum. I remeber when I got a b on an algebra test in high school. I was so proud because I had been having a hard time in that class. All he said was " A, b, and so what a b is an acomplishment now?" From that statement you'd think he was a scholar in high school :rotfl:. NOT!!!...

CHATSDALE · Dec 17, 2004

you have been getting some good advice...i know that sharing good news is half the fun but we are here and your classmates know how hard it is sometimes to just squeak by

be noncommittal about school...i know how much of your life it involves but other people just do not see it...

keep one foot in front of the other and they will be out there bragging when you graduate..and we will too

CHATSDALE · Dec 17, 2004

you have been getting some good advice...i know that sharing good news is half the fun but we are here and your classmates know how hard it is sometimes to just squeak by

be noncommittal about school...i know how much of your life it involves but other people just do not see it...

keep one foot in front of the other and they will be out there bragging when you graduate..and we will too

mauser · Dec 17, 2004

I am 47 years old and my parents are the same way. I got an 89% on my midterm and was very upset. The head of our nursing school told me to not mention a grade to my parents, just say that I had one of the highest grades in the class. They were thrilled.

As was said before, no one understands unless they have been a nursing student.

WE love ya!

mauser · Dec 17, 2004

I am 47 years old and my parents are the same way. I got an 89% on my midterm and was very upset. The head of our nursing school told me to not mention a grade to my parents, just say that I had one of the highest grades in the class. They were thrilled.

As was said before, no one understands unless they have been a nursing student.

WE love ya!

jaimealmostRN · Dec 18, 2004

Congradulations on doing a great job Acgemt!!! You are 75% a nurse as someone else posted! I have a dad who constantly makes negative comments on having children. First, umm I'm his child so whats he trying to say? LOL, second though, I look at him and see how his whole life is dominated by work and not just to pay bills, he has more than he needs and still can only think about having more. I know that my life will be dominated by love, family, a job I love, and friends...you did an excellent job and just realize, thats your dad's problem NOT YOURS!!!! Happy holidays!

jaimealmostRN · Dec 18, 2004

Congradulations on doing a great job Acgemt!!! You are 75% a nurse as someone else posted! I have a dad who constantly makes negative comments on having children. First, umm I'm his child so whats he trying to say? LOL, second though, I look at him and see how his whole life is dominated by work and not just to pay bills, he has more than he needs and still can only think about having more. I know that my life will be dominated by love, family, a job I love, and friends...you did an excellent job and just realize, thats your dad's problem NOT YOURS!!!! Happy holidays!

LadyK82 · Dec 18, 2004

I know how you feel. I decided that I wanted to be a nurse and when I told my dad he said "A nurse? Why? You'll just be wiping people's butt's for the rest of your life." He said I needed to go into insurance b/c they make a lot of money. Not to offend anyone that may have anything to do with insurance, but I wanted to come home from work feeling proud and knowing that I made a difference. Chin up! As said in earlier posts, only nursing students really "get it". Don't stress yourself out trying to impress others and striving for acceptance from someone who obviously doesn't want to give it to you. A nurse is a VERY admirable career and it is very hard.

If nursing was so easy, everyone would be doing it.

LadyK82 · Dec 18, 2004

I know how you feel. I decided that I wanted to be a nurse and when I told my dad he said "A nurse? Why? You'll just be wiping people's butt's for the rest of your life." He said I needed to go into insurance b/c they make a lot of money. Not to offend anyone that may have anything to do with insurance, but I wanted to come home from work feeling proud and knowing that I made a difference. Chin up! As said in earlier posts, only nursing students really "get it". Don't stress yourself out trying to impress others and striving for acceptance from someone who obviously doesn't want to give it to you. A nurse is a VERY admirable career and it is very hard.

If nursing was so easy, everyone would be doing it.

CarVsTree · Dec 18, 2004

You've gotten great advice so far and here's my suggestion.

Live and let live. You cannot and will not change your Dad. So accept him for who he is and don't expect accolades from him. I get none from my father or his life and expect none. I just tell them I'm doing very well and leave it at that.

If you try to make your Dad act a certain way, you'll drive yourself nuts.

BTW, congratulations and GREAT JOB!!!

CarVsTree · Dec 18, 2004

You've gotten great advice so far and here's my suggestion.

Live and let live. You cannot and will not change your Dad. So accept him for who he is and don't expect accolades from him. I get none from my father or his life and expect none. I just tell them I'm doing very well and leave it at that.

If you try to make your Dad act a certain way, you'll drive yourself nuts.

BTW, congratulations and GREAT JOB!!!