No support from my dad (vent)

acgemt · Dec 17, 2004

Well, I finished my second to last semester today with a big relaxing sigh, and I should be happy but I'm not. I am so frustrated with some of the things my father says to me on the phone. I called to let my parents know that I finished my semester today. He asked how I did and I said I think I did alright, but it was pretty difficult. I only needed a 62% on the final to still make a B in the class (which I am happy about). And all he has to say to me is "Well, just remember that when you think you have done all you can, there is always room for improvement...and just remember people interviewing you will ask for your GPA." I mean God, can't I get the least little bit of support!!???:angryfire I don't get any financial support from him. I work 36 hours a week in an ICU, plus clinical days, plus lecture days, and god forbid I have time to get groceries and run errands. What do they expect from me?? Am I the only one out there with this problem and what can I do to get it through his head to cut me a little slack. :crying2:

mom2michael, MSN, RN, NP · Dec 17, 2004

Been there and done that....just know that you are doing your best and everyone else can......well.....you know.....(fill in the blank here). :rotfl:

Congrats on doing well this semester and good luck to you :)

mom2michael, MSN, RN, NP · Dec 17, 2004

Been there and done that....just know that you are doing your best and everyone else can......well.....you know.....(fill in the blank here). :rotfl:

Congrats on doing well this semester and good luck to you :)

kesneysmom · Dec 17, 2004

NOONE will ever know how hard it is except your classmates. It wont do any good to attack him. I might just say " I am doing my best and I am happy with myself". FYI I have been a nurse for 8 years noone has ever asked my GPA !!!

kesneysmom · Dec 17, 2004

NOONE will ever know how hard it is except your classmates. It wont do any good to attack him. I might just say " I am doing my best and I am happy with myself". FYI I have been a nurse for 8 years noone has ever asked my GPA !!!

MandyInMS · Dec 17, 2004

I know what you mean...my Dad is a very negative person..seems nothing has ever been quite good enough..you just have to make your own happiness and don't expect to get it from them..sad but true..does get to me sometimes when the people who are supposed to be your biggest supports are the ones who try to drag you down...be proud of YOURSELF!!! you have accomplished a lot :)

MandyInMS · Dec 17, 2004

I know what you mean...my Dad is a very negative person..seems nothing has ever been quite good enough..you just have to make your own happiness and don't expect to get it from them..sad but true..does get to me sometimes when the people who are supposed to be your biggest supports are the ones who try to drag you down...be proud of YOURSELF!!! you have accomplished a lot :)

RainDreamer, BSN, RN · Dec 17, 2004

I'm sorry your dad is being like that, I can relate. My dad's always been hard on me about my grades. You did great though! You know that and that's all that matters. But I know what you mean about just getting some support from him, I've realized it's just not going to happen though from my dad, he'll always be hard on me about grades. Like kesneysmom's said, only your classmates know how hard it is! Only other nursing students know what it's like .... NO ONE else can ever know and sometimes it makes it frustrating and lonely, but hey, we're here! We understand. Vent it out to us, you know that you did great, working full time and getting a B, you did awesome!!

RainDreamer, BSN, RN · Dec 17, 2004

I'm sorry your dad is being like that, I can relate. My dad's always been hard on me about my grades. You did great though! You know that and that's all that matters. But I know what you mean about just getting some support from him, I've realized it's just not going to happen though from my dad, he'll always be hard on me about grades. Like kesneysmom's said, only your classmates know how hard it is! Only other nursing students know what it's like .... NO ONE else can ever know and sometimes it makes it frustrating and lonely, but hey, we're here! We understand. Vent it out to us, you know that you did great, working full time and getting a B, you did awesome!!

giada23 · Dec 17, 2004

I know its hard to do one of the hardest things in your life without the support of your family, but remember why you are doing this. You're doing this for you. Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader in life, and just keep on pressing on. In his own little way I am quite sure your father meant well. Our parents have very high hopes for us sometimes and when they give advice, they don't know that they can be a bit over bearing. Just remember that this is your life don't ever hold anyone responsible for your happiness, especially when you are accomplishing something big in your life. You can choose to be angry, or you can choose to be happy. Decide to be happy anyway, love yourself, and celebrate your accomplishments. My mother is a nurse herself, and she has told me plenty of times that she doesn't want me to become a nurse, she wants me to be a lawyer. She has never helped me do anything, and I felt that she should considering the fact that she allowed her husband to physically abuse me which resulted in me in being taken out of the house at the age of thirteen. She still stayed married to him despite what he did to me. She never appreciated anything that I accomplished, and I have spent years in and out of therapy as a result. You know what helped me out though? I started to celebrate my own accomplishments and I became my own cheerleader. I decided I was going to be happy no matter what my mother said. I knew that I was doing the best that I could, and I wasn't going to let my mother take that away from me. Keep doing what you are doing, you are doing a phenomenal job. I am proud of you if its any consolation, so keep up the good work, and don't allow the actions of others to steal your joy!!!!!! :p :p

giada23 · Dec 17, 2004

I know its hard to do one of the hardest things in your life without the support of your family, but remember why you are doing this. You're doing this for you. Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader in life, and just keep on pressing on. In his own little way I am quite sure your father meant well. Our parents have very high hopes for us sometimes and when they give advice, they don't know that they can be a bit over bearing. Just remember that this is your life don't ever hold anyone responsible for your happiness, especially when you are accomplishing something big in your life. You can choose to be angry, or you can choose to be happy. Decide to be happy anyway, love yourself, and celebrate your accomplishments. My mother is a nurse herself, and she has told me plenty of times that she doesn't want me to become a nurse, she wants me to be a lawyer. She has never helped me do anything, and I felt that she should considering the fact that she allowed her husband to physically abuse me which resulted in me in being taken out of the house at the age of thirteen. She still stayed married to him despite what he did to me. She never appreciated anything that I accomplished, and I have spent years in and out of therapy as a result. You know what helped me out though? I started to celebrate my own accomplishments and I became my own cheerleader. I decided I was going to be happy no matter what my mother said. I knew that I was doing the best that I could, and I wasn't going to let my mother take that away from me. Keep doing what you are doing, you are doing a phenomenal job. I am proud of you if its any consolation, so keep up the good work, and don't allow the actions of others to steal your joy!!!!!! :p :p