No support from my dad (vent)

[acgemt]

Well, I finished my second to last semester today with a big relaxing sigh, and I should be happy but I'm not. I am so frustrated with some of the things my father says to me on the phone. I called to let my parents know that I finished my semester today. He asked how I did and I said I think I did alright, but it was pretty difficult. I only needed a 62% on the final to still make a B in the class (which I am happy about). And all he has to say to me is "Well, just remember that when you think you have done all you can, there is always room for improvement...and just remember people interviewing you will ask for your GPA." I mean God, can't I get the least little bit of support!!???:angryfire I don't get any financial support from him. I work 36 hours a week in an ICU, plus clinical days, plus lecture days, and god forbid I have time to get groceries and run errands. What do they expect from me?? Am I the only one out there with this problem and what can I do to get it through his head to cut me a little slack.

[SarasotaRN2b]

Unfortunately, it doesn't matter how well you do, family at times are not your biggest supporters. I think that we spend so much time trying to get approval from those close to us that we forget the most important person...ourselves. Be proud of yourself and if you know that you are only going to get a lukewarm response, don't bother. If they ask why you are not sharing with them, be honest and tell them that although you wish they would be proud of you, it is more important that I am proud of me!

[SarasotaRN2b]

Unfortunately, it doesn't matter how well you do, family at times are not your biggest supporters. I think that we spend so much time trying to get approval from those close to us that we forget the most important person...ourselves. Be proud of yourself and if you know that you are only going to get a lukewarm response, don't bother. If they ask why you are not sharing with them, be honest and tell them that although you wish they would be proud of you, it is more important that I am proud of me!

[wonderbee, BSN, RN]

When I stopped looking for approval from my parents is when I finally got it. Go figure.

So now that you know that nothing will be good enough, don't give him the power to rain on your well-deserved parade. You might simply tell him when he asks in the future about your grades that you did well and learned a lot. If he doesn't pick up on that subtle hint, give yourself permission to say you don't wish to discuss the subject of grades on principle. Talk about your grade with people who can appreciate all that went into getting it.

[wonderbee, BSN, RN]

When I stopped looking for approval from my parents is when I finally got it. Go figure.

So now that you know that nothing will be good enough, don't give him the power to rain on your well-deserved parade. You might simply tell him when he asks in the future about your grades that you did well and learned a lot. If he doesn't pick up on that subtle hint, give yourself permission to say you don't wish to discuss the subject of grades on principle. Talk about your grade with people who can appreciate all that went into getting it.