I am a new grad (May 04), and passed boards July 1st. I have 2 kids ages 8 and 3. My son is going into 3rd grade and we just signed a modeling contract for my daughter. I have no desire to start working. I applied at USC and got offered the position as a Trauma nurse and turned it down because I want to stay home with my kids. I feel they need me now.
Am I crazy or do others have the same concerns. I feel I worked so hard to get this degree and now I don't want to use it right now. I will maybe feel different in about 4-6 months. My family thinks I 'm crazy
I don't understand where all the waitings lists are. I have applied to several schools of nursing and have been accepted every time and I am no scholar.
We have no waiting lists in the LPN to RN programs here, or the RN to BSN programs. But long lists for the RN or the LPN programs. This is in western Florida. :)
sheesh. all of a sudden we're going to be hypervigilant about staying on topic.
yes, we all know we should but it runs 50/50 with any or all of the threads on this board re: 'staying on topic'.
i think we should all practice what we preach.
You quoted meso I presume you were speaking to me. Not to get defensive, but I'm certainly not one to preach that we have to stay on topic, am I?
I merely acknowledged it was off-topic because someone above me did, and to aknowledge to the op I was having a side conversation. I'm much more liberal in the idea to let threads develop as they may as long as no personal attacks are made.
You quoted meso I presume you were speaking to me. Not to get defensive, but I'm certainly not one to preach that we have to stay on topic, am I?
I merely acknowledged it was off-topic because someone above me did, and to aknowledge to the op I was having a side conversation. I'm much more liberal in the idea to let threads develop as they may as long as no personal attacks are made.
NO NO NO!!!!
tweety, my apologies.
i was NOT talking about you at all re: getting off topic.
the only reason i responded to your post is because i was agreeing that yes, it was a good point...kind of reiterating what you said.
again, my apologies for the misunderstanding.
it did irritate me that suddenly, some were urging us to stay on topic.
and i made a general statement about "all of a sudden we're going to start pushing this?"
I agree with the poster who said that it would be hard to get a per diem job as a new grad. I don't know of any hospitals that will hire a new grad for anything less than 20 hours a week. Most of the orientation programs are full-time for at least a few weeks, and after that most employers seem to agree that you don't really get into the grove of hospital nursing as a new grad if you're working very part-time. I've seen it happen on my unit - the newer part-time nurses seem light years behind those who jumped in and stayed full-time.
BUT...I do think that maybe a doctor's office might be a good idea. This is a way to stay current on at least some areas of medicine, and to keep up some clinical skills. Either a doctor's office or maybe a clinic of some sort. Those jobs often require a little less intensive orientation as compared to a hospital and the hours would be much better for childcare. I know quite a few nurse-moms who chose this route and it worked out pretty well for them - most only work 1-2 days a week. Plus, when the kids go to school full-time and they might want to go into hospital nursing for a change of pace, at least they've been working as a nurse in the meantime.
I want to thank everyone for their positive opinions, but now I have to answer a couple of comments.
First of all, I had my son when I was a senior in High School. I went to a JC to get all my pre-recs out of the way. When I applied to nursing school, I got in right away. I went to an all girls private college and got my BSN-Rn, and PHN. During my last semester my DH left us because it was too difficult for him. Mind you I had my daughter after my first semester of Nursing school and took a year off. So now I am raising my 2 kids by myself, and luckily with a settlement from when I was younger (which only last for a couple more years), helps me to just get by.
I am very involved in my kids lives (den leader for cub scouts, vice pres of PTA, team mom for baseball, on the board for my daughter play groups, etc). When I start working, I will have to work nights, which I have never done before. I would gladly do it and have every intention of working someday, I just don't think me working all night and then sleeping all day is going to allow me to have any time for my kids. I will always be tired, like it sound every nurse is.
I did mention I signed a modeling contract for my daughter, but it is second to my having a job. I do think my main concern will be when I start working, I am going to have to work days for the training. I have no one to watch my daughter and wouldn't be able to afford it until after I start working for awile. And I have a hard time leaving my daughter with someone she doesn't know.
Maybe I do sound like a spoiled brat, but when you grow up in the abusive life I did (and I am sure there are alot of you), where my mom left when I was 5, I feel it is imperative to be there for my kids.
I hope I answered any questions or concerns anyone had, if my ask again and I will answer.
Tara, no need to get defensive. Even if you didn't have an abusive life, I would still respect that you're putting your children first in your life and you certainly didn't sound like a spoiled brat either. Good luck in whatever you do.
and after that most employers seem to agree that you don't really get into the grove of hospital nursing as a new grad if you're working very part-time. I've seen it happen on my unit - the newer part-time nurses seem light years behind those who jumped in and stayed full-time.
This topic interests me(that newly-grad part-time nurses don't learn as fast or as much as full-time nurses). Why is this? Theoretically, in my mind, they should be able to learn as much.
Maybe because they(part-timers) don't adjust and get as comfortable in the new environment whereas full-timers are forced to adjust quickly and find and get used to their niche?
I want to thank everyone for their positive opinions, but now I have to answer a couple of comments.
First of all, I had my son when I was a senior in High School. I went to a JC to get all my pre-recs out of the way. When I applied to nursing school, I got in right away. I went to an all girls private college and got my BSN-Rn, and PHN. During my last semester my DH left us because it was too difficult for him. Mind you I had my daughter after my first semester of Nursing school and took a year off. So now I am raising my 2 kids by myself, and luckily with a settlement from when I was younger (which only last for a couple more years), helps me to just get by.
I am very involved in my kids lives (den leader for cub scouts, vice pres of PTA, team mom for baseball, on the board for my daughter play groups, etc). When I start working, I will have to work nights, which I have never done before. I would gladly do it and have every intention of working someday, I just don't think me working all night and then sleeping all day is going to allow me to have any time for my kids. I will always be tired, like it sound every nurse is.
I did mention I signed a modeling contract for my daughter, but it is second to my having a job. I do think my main concern will be when I start working, I am going to have to work days for the training. I have no one to watch my daughter and wouldn't be able to afford it until after I start working for awile. And I have a hard time leaving my daughter with someone she doesn't know.
Maybe I do sound like a spoiled brat, but when you grow up in the abusive life I did (and I am sure there are alot of you), where my mom left when I was 5, I feel it is imperative to be there for my kids.
I hope I answered any questions or concerns anyone had, if my ask again and I will answer.
Tara
Man I feel like I'm on defensive mode
tara, your story is one reason why i say you never know what a person is going through or what they have been through. when people don't have a complete picture about a problem, it is easy to assume things. anyway, you don't have to feel obligated to tell us everything about you. this is a bb for nursing advice and hopefully some of your questions have been answered. my heart goes out to you because being a mom is one of the most important responsibilities in the world and none of us know what deck of cards life will hand us tomorrow and then suddenly we have to make difficult decisions. God bless you, and stay encouraged :)
Tweety, BSN, RN
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We have no waiting lists in the LPN to RN programs here, or the RN to BSN programs. But long lists for the RN or the LPN programs. This is in western Florida. :)