New Grad, Transfer? Help Please!!

netglow, ASN, RN · Jul 15, 2011

I think you are a wonderful person for allowing them to move in with you. However you are so very lucky to have the opportunity to work where you are working. My opinion is that you need to keep your job and leave it up to the mother of those kids to find a way to have them taken care of in her absence. Remember always, they are her responsibility. I just don't want you to get "killed with your own kindness".

DemonWings · Jul 15, 2011

I dont know if it would look "bad" per say, but your unit has invested precious time and effort to train you specifically for your unit, so if you leave they will again have to train someone else, and I dont think the powers that be would be happy about that. I agree the mother of the kids needs to find out what to do for them, and for Gods sake do not let her leave three young kids at home Alone for hours!! Thats illegal!! what if there was a fire and they were stuck inside? Sorry it just makes me horribly anxious thinking about what "could" happen. I have two small kids and know how much trouble they can get into if left to their own devises. Stick with your job, you are blessed to have it:)

Please dont feel I am being harsh, You sound like a very kind person who will do anything for your family

lsk40 · Jul 15, 2011

You are doing enough by just letting them stay with you 3 little kids could be a handful I wouldn't change my job let their mom do that I would never ask anyone to do that for me

nohika · Jul 15, 2011

No offense, but those are HER kids. She should be the one that has to accomodate them. As nice as it is for you to do it, they're not your children - they are HER responsibility. She is just as capable of figuring things out.

Sorry if that sounds harsh - they're not your children. You shouldn't have to give up a job that likely pays more than hers (just a guess) that just finished training you because she can't afford childcare. Look into WIC and other options like that - if she has to move in with you guys, it's possible that she qualifies.

JenniferSews · Jul 15, 2011

I have to agree with Calinurse11. You're lucky to have a job as a new grad. It's not going to look good to request a transfer so soon. Managers have heard every good, solid reason in the book to change to days or move units, I assure you. The mother of those children needs to find a way to make it work, not a new nurse with a new career in this job market.

cindyloowho · Jul 16, 2011

I would want a year of Tele experience just because it opens up your whole career with future options. Go to work in a derm office and you'll still be considered under experienced if you want a change later in life.

Double-Helix, BSN, RN · Jul 16, 2011

I agree with the other posters. Not only does leaving right after orientation look bad, it also pretty much assures you will never work on that unit again and Derm seriously limits your options for the future, as most places are requiring a year of a acute care experience for many positions.

I think it's amazing that you would consider switching jobs for the sake of your sister and her kids. It really shows that you have a great heart. However, you do need to think about yourself and your future goals as well. What are you going to do when you sister moves out and you are stuck in an office job you might not even like?

It should be your sister who is trying to find a job that allows her to be at home with her children. It's great that you are helping her out by giving her a place to stay, but you shouldn't have to bend over backward for her. Giving up your home, your privacy, your food, your electricity and water, AND giving up your job? No way. Be honest with your sister. Explain that if anything were to happen to her children while they were alone at your house, both of you would be liable. Tell her that, if she wants the kids to stay with you, she needs to either be home with them or find someone to watch from the time she leaves for work until your husband is home from work. There are low income assistance programs that could probably help with child care costs.

dudette10, MSN, RN · Jul 16, 2011

I agree with the others, although I think you are a a great SIL for just asking the question.

To avoid duplicating others' posts that I agree with, I have to ask who was watching the kids before? Could that arrangement continue?

Double-Helix, BSN, RN · Jul 16, 2011

Oh, I just realized it is your sister in law and not biological sister. Maybe you have a great relationship with her, but that's all the more imporessive in my book. In that case I would recommend you first discuss the situation with you husband and then have him speak to her about it.

Good luck!

Been there,done that, ASN, RN · Jul 16, 2011

I think this is a moot point. Most facilities require you to stay in any position for 6 months before a transfer is possible.

You are doing enough, letting her move in. Her kids, are Her problem.

CharlieTaco · Jul 16, 2011

I agree with everyone else about this not being a problem you should have to solve, it is her responsibility to take care of her kids. Your manager is not going to be happy at all and will probably not let you transfer. Most hospitals won't allow transfers for a year or longer. And i'm sure your not the only nurse you would like to work in the derm clinic for those hours. You are still a new grad so you will be last on the list of applicants and your manager will having nothing nice to say about the applicant who wants to quit her position as soon as she got off orientation. And she probably won't like you after this request if you stay on the unit bc she knows your probably looking to leave asap.