Negativity?

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Whats going on people?

I've been coming to this board for a while. There have always been debates and even some heated discussions (which can be stimulating and even productive). Lately I see far too much flaming and just plain meanness (that are neither pleasant to read or serve any good).

first post I click into, someone complaining about spelling???? wtf?? why do you care how someone else spells?

next post, people flaming because they think the thread violates HIPAA, again why do you care? I mean if you are concerned by it don't post info you aren't comfortable with but don't flame others.

next post I read, people blasting the poster because they are upset about the bosses pet. all the responses I saw were nit picking little points and passing up the real reason the person was upset.

Come on people, this is supposed to be fun. If we wanted stress or to be nit picked, preached to or flamed we could all just go to work where we at least get paid for stress. Ease up on each other. The people that come here are all our peers and yes sometimes we are going to disagree or even argue but flaming just to flame isn't cool.

Please don't try to say you are trying to educate or right a wrong because your not helping anyone. The only thing flames or corrections do are to gain a small stroke to your own ego at the expense of others. Not to mention the fact that it's just plain tired and old.

Please remember that the people on this board are just like you and you wouldn't like others to flame or correct you would you?

Specializes in Critical Care, ER.
Originally posted by 3rdShiftGuy

Yep it's the flame wars that get the most action and are the most fun sometimes. There are people who you see mainly in the negative threads and not in the others, so some people must actually enjoy it. Then there are those who like to deliberately start threads that will get heated. :chair:

Geez I hope I'm not one of the negative-only people. I feel guilty about losing my composure in some of the political threads but the baiting just gets to me after a while.

Wish I hadn't asked! It would seem that Pres. Clinton did some good things during his term of office, but how sad that such a mandatory requirement is necessary. I suppose that such a dysfunctional system would need constant (and disruptive) adjustments.

everyone doent need to worry over loosing their"composure"....gosh....if we didnt want others opinions we wouldnt post.........and we are not always going to agree.But......thats not neccessarily negative...........its expressing your point of view......and sometimes you may feel a "STRONG" opinion on something.When I post I want honest opinions......I am not a nurse newbie.....nor are the majority that post.......and together we have a enormous wealth of knowledge......that can benefit all of us.But that doesnt mean we have to be joking ALL the time.....or AGREE ALL the time.;)

First off I have to say that I think posting this topic was only asking for another flame war. People don't like being critisized. And basically that is what DayRay was doing. Yes the more contraversial threads get more attention because everyone wants to put there two cents in. I enjoy coming to these boards though I don't post much. Even with all the negativity.

The way I deal with posts that bother or annoy me is to ignore them. If you feel compelled to post, go ahead and post but don't get mad that there is too much negativity. No one is making you read the negative posts. You can usually tell by the subject of a post whether it is going to become a flame war. Just stay away and don't complain.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
Originally posted by bluesky

Geez I hope I'm not one of the negative-only people. I feel guilty about losing my composure in some of the political threads but the baiting just gets to me after a while.

Nope don't feel guilty. Some people though you won't see for a while and suddenly you see them in the negative threads. I noticed it more after the big exodus of last year, some came back briefly but only in threads where things were heated. But it still happens.

Me, I'm all over the place, and can't help but jump into the fire whent he flames get hot. :chair:

Sigh, I think many have misunderstood what I was trying to say. Oh well Ksarah.... =P

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
Originally posted by Dayray

Sigh, I think many have misunderstood what I was trying to say. Oh well Ksarah.... =P

Perhaps that's true, but were you open-minded enought to understand what some of us were saying?

I'm not sure maybe, I guess some people saw or choose to see this as a statement about negative vs positive subject matter. Or took it to be a complaint about people disagreeing with each other/ expressing negative feelings.

If you read it again you'll see that what I was talking about were the posts with page after page of spelling corrections and/or people going off about some minor point of fact not central to the post.

Some examples:

poster: I went on a river trip down the missisipi.

reply: It's Mississippi you fool! you must not know what you are talking about because you can't spell!

then follows 4 pages of people talking about spelling.

another example:

poster: What does everyone think about the 1952 ruling about such and such

reply: it was 1951 you fool! ~ followed by 50 lines explaining why I'm smarter then you~

then followed by 10 pages of people trying to decide what year the ruling was

In a way thats the same thing that has happened here. It seems that some have changed the subject of the whole thread to be something they can disagree with.

Some people chose to focus in on my statements about fun or recreational conversation and stretched that to mean a whole lot of stuff it was never intended too. If you look back at most of the posts I've made on this board you'll see that I very often disagree with others here and that I very much enjoy a heated debate. I don't however enjoy seeing posts get taken over by people complaining about spelling and I am willing to bet that others don't either.

Specializes in Oncology/Haemetology/HIV.
Originally posted by Shellsie

guys, i think if you get your feelings hurt by someone correcting your spelling you need to grow a little thicker skin......hehe

i could care less that i spelled HIPAA wrong and someone corrected it....it's just a message board right?? :D

and for the record i think there are plenty of valid "medical" discussions" going on....ive actually come here to ask all you guys for help finding information :)

~jumps off my little soapbox~

Agree with this.

I could care less about one or two spelling/grammer mistakes. But when the spelling is atrocious, the sentences/paragraphs run on into infinity, and everything is typed in caps, it makes it hard to read and the point is difficult to understand. Then said poster types about how "professional" that they are and how hard that they are working to fit in at their workplace - well, they are proving the point about how unprofessional they are and how unable to fit in.

However, I rarily complain about spelling/grammar unless it is completely awful.

And people do need to get a thicker skin. Not everyone is going to agree with you in this world. If you freak and get the"Nurses eat their young"attitude whenever some makes a comment that you do not agree with, well you are not going to last long in the world....much less in Nursing where every dept is to rip you to shreds (not even counting other Nurses).

And if you complain about your poor treatment by a manager/fellow nurse, stick to the point and complain about them. If you bring in an irrelevant issue like "and s/he doesn't have kids" in your post, indicating an attitude of "they should have less rights" - you are asking for us to comment on it. Why even bring that up? If you do not bring that up (and there was no reason to), it will not be commented on.

Carolina (who has worked 8 out 10 of the last Christmases - often switching with others, so that they can spend time w/kids - but almost never gets Hannukah/Yom Kippur/Passover off because the breeders don't give back in return).

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

Dayray, I understand. But I do think you're exaggerating a bit. This board hasn't been overtaken by page after page of negativity.

But just because it doesn't bother me as much as it does you doesn't mean you're not allowed to express how you feel.

As the crown prince of typo and misspellers I don't mind being corrected about stuff. But for a poster to be rude about and make me feel stupid, then that's a bit much. Thank goodness I missed those threads you're talking about. Some people I guess in order to make themselves feel good and feel important need to point out the errors of others.

Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
Originally posted by caroladybelle

Carolina (who has worked 8 out 10 of the last Christmases - often switching with others, so that they can spend time w/kids - but almost never gets Hannukah/Yom Kippur/Passover off because the breeders don't give back in return).

:roll But seriously-remember-"there are no victims,only volunteers"...and "They'll only give us as much as we'll take"...Drop a few hints to the breeders about the Jewsih Holidays and if no-one offers to trade I guess you'll be off Christmas....

I understand about the covering for breeders thing. Of course some parent co-workers are so great and so reliable, it is a non-issue. So, no flames, please.

Not bashing all parents just the *one* whom I currently work w/ who uses her kid an excuse all the time.

I have a co-worker who pulls "no call, no show" every now and then. We worked together at another facility, and she did the same there. She also leaves early and comes in late.

It's always "My kid this and my kid that."

"I have to drop him off at day care... I have to pick him up... he's sick... my sitter didn't show.... he has a appt...school is letting out early today..." and on and on and on.

This is a normal, healthy ten-year-old boy, and her only child.

What this nurse is really saying is "I am unreliable and my life is a mess. I'm going to use my kid as an excuse for this, because I can get away w/ it."

All that and a huge tax break, too!

It gets old. I don't know why mgmt allows this to go on.

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