Need advice and to vent

[Hazel11]

Hi guys!

I am currently a nursing student but am also enrolled in Microbiology. Today I had lab and I broke a slide (on accident). I knew it happened because I was flustered but no big deal. As I turn to leave after class ended, the two male nursing students in our class started making fun of me about it as I was trying to speak to the lab teacher. The teacher even had to tell them to stop it. This has happened before but during class, and I don't know what I'm doing to provoke this type of behavior. This isn't high school! I feel like they don't even know me, have never made conversation with me, and that they would at least LEAVE the room before they started doing it-it was embarrassing to say the least. That's why I didn't bother confronting them and just walked away. I was just wondering how you would handle a situation like this, and how you handle cattiness and gossip in nursing school in general. Thanks so much.

[RN2BE1210]

I really try not to let it even phase me. I just always think that they aren't making my grades for me, and they aren't helping me learn anything. I just really don't have time for the cattiness and childish things that can go on in NS. I would say just try to stay focused on your goal. But trust me, I know how it feels and I'm sorry that they didn't have the decency to be discreet about it.

[mybrowneyedgirl, BSN, RN]

It can be hard, but I think the best thing to do is let it roll of your back. You can't change people, and it will be no fun teasing you if you don't react. They'll just move on to the next person.

I'm sorry these morons are in your class. They probably won't be for long with that immature behavior. Those types usually don't work hard and are just there "for fun".

Good luck to you.

[Kimmipoo]

I have learned to take on the duck way of dealing with idiots like this. You are the duck and their stupidity is like the water that runs off your back. Seriously.. people like that dont need a reason.. they see you as someone who is weak enough to pick on. Just ignore it, they will only do it more if they see how it bugs you. All this advice doesnt take the hurt away but you can always try a voodoo doll and do mean things to it... hahaha kidding

[MrazFan]

Keep your head held high and don't even acknowledge them. You can only control what you do, and how you behave. If they want to behave like children, let them. It will catch up with them eventually. What goes around comes around, you know?

[Daytonite, BSN, RN]

You're 20; I'm 59. They were probably flirting and trying to get your attention; they wouldn't have bothered with me. That's what young men do. Just ignore it or play along and flirt with them too.

[kpcaguioa]

Don't let those guys put you down. Obviously they're in the class if they're just going to gossip about other students. Concentrate on your own work and show them how dedicated and smart you are. You don't need to talk or be friends with them because in the end you're working for that nursing license on your own. It's great to make friends along the way, but just remember to rely on yourself and not others to get you through the day.

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

Hmmm I haven't had to deal with someone out right making fun of me, right in front of me, since I dunno JHS???? If it were to happen, the type of person I am, I would have shot back with some witty smartass remark. I do it to rude people all the time that are making remarks about something loud enough to be heard but being passive aggressive. I for sure wouldn't let it bring you down though, I mean seriously, this isn't JHS and they are acting like it is. So who is looking dumb in the end???

I can't count how many slides got broken in my micro class and 2 fires :stone

[kpcaguioa]

Don't let those guys put you down. Obviously they're in the wrong class if they're just going to gossip about other students. If I were in your shoes I would not let it bother me because they're not worth my time. Concentrate on your own work and show them how dedicated and smart you are. You don't need to talk or be friends with them because in the end you're working for that nursing license on your own. It's great to make friends along the way, but just remember to rely on yourself and not others to get you through the day.

Also, you have to also work on your own during micro because you'll be dealing with different bugs and there's no room for mistakes. When I took Micro I had no time to socialize or even deal with people who chit chat in class because there was just too many assignments and projects that was to be done. Good luck with everything in Micro. That class is hard but just have patience and remember to have aseptic technique for every procedure or you'll have trouble finding your bugs that you're growing.

[Hazel11]

Also, you have to also work on your own during micro because you'll be dealing with different bugs and there's no room for mistakes. When I took Micro I had no time to socialize or even deal with people who chit chat in class because there was just too many assignments and projects that was to be done. Good luck with everything in Micro. That class is hard but just have patience and remember to have aseptic technique for every procedure or you'll have trouble finding your bugs that you're growing.

Thank you everyone for the replies. After it being a few days, I've looked back on the situation and realize that it's not helping me in any way for me to worry about what certain people think. If someone is gonna focus on me simply breaking a slide-and me not harming them in any way-then it's not even worth it to me. The teacher told me it was no big deal, so that's all I needed to know.

I totally agree with you kpcaguioa. Sometimes I feel Micro is more stressful because the volume and complexity of the subject. This whole semester has been about sterile technique in Micro and in nursing, so that will definitely be engraved in my brain. lol. Hope everyone is enjoying their breaks and have a Happy Easter! :heartbeat