2nd day on my own as a new grad, with a student, cried three times

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im a new RN, had my licence for over a month, offered a FT position in a long term care facility.

This LTC has many units, Peritonial dialysis unit, dementia unit, respite, ect....

I was sent to PD unit for orientation, with a 28 pt load. There are 2 RNs on the floor, one is nurse in charge, the 2nd one is me. Everyday one RN does meds pass, one RN does PD( now we have 4 PD pts, the busiest time we had 9 PD pts, with off and on PD emergencies such as peritonitis, which pt could die over one night). Many times we have work injury pts who are D/C from hospital but not ready to go home yet, so they would stay on my unit for between 3-8 weeks.

I was there enjoying my time there, Im using my med/surg knowledge for work injury ppl, im learning PD as an extra specialty, and learning geriatric knowledge. So much learning, i felt great!!!!Absolutely love it!!!!! After 3 weeks, i am fully confident with the medications, i know the pill(colour, size, 7 rights) without looking at the plastic bags, i felt i reached a milestone =D,and if i continue learning like this, i will be able to be on my own =D

i set up priority for my self, 1) memorize emergency P&P

2) memorize end of life care P&P

3) create my own route

on my 30th day working, manager came to me. Telling me there is an LPN on a 24 resident facility who constantly making mistakes, sometimes not giving insulins. Recently the care coordinator investigate into an MRSA precaution incident on her floor, and the LPN yelled at the care coordinator, threatening her "you can lay me off right now!" So the LPN was laid off right on the spot. The manager wanted me to take over the unit. At the same time, the LPN was the preceptor of an unlicensed-LPN new grad. The RN supervisor was going to be off for 2 days so nobody can work with me, the manager decided I could take over the student for 2 days until he finishes his preceptorship.

I never had positive impression of this male,young,good looking LPN student because I heard him gossiping in the lunch room with her LPN preceptor all the time. The LPN never really care who is present and things come out of her mouth whatever she thinks: doctors, nurses, care aids....And during the conference, she constantly interrupted manager's speech. I can see what kind of student is from a preceptor like this: gossiper

Overall, I didnt want to precept that student. Not only because i dont think he is competent, but most importantly is i am new grad myself, not fully competent yet! I felt the student is nearly unsafe because he is over confident. The most scary thing to me is that he thinks he knows everything and this is a easy job, and i feel i nearly know nothing and i am younger than him.

The 1st day

1) he came to me with the insulin syringe for double check. I said you shouldnt give me a syringe with insulin in already, you should give me the vial that you drew from because this pt is on two kinds of sulin: lantus and novolin. Me double checking a syringe without a vial is useless. He is not happy, because his previous preceptor didnt care

2) I found the medication care is a mess. Crushed pill chucks everywhere, no stocking after use, diry pill crusher, medication garbage has all kinds of things in it: even personally candies! I observed this student eats a candy every 5 minutes and i told him that the medication cart needs to cleaned after use, nothing in the garbage can except old medication patch or medication plastic bags. EMAR needs to be plugs in after use otherwise laptop has no power. Of course, he is not happy, because his previous preceptor didnt care

3) interruption. I am that kind of person is weak on multi-tasking. At this level, I can do one thing at a time. With constant interruption, I get lost and confused and i panic. But the student constantly interrupts me and started made me nervous

4) Assessment. Skin intergrity. Because i am new on this unit, any skin changes i tell all the care aids to let me take a look. So I took a look at pretty much all 24 residents skin. I found out the previous LPN does not do that or does that sometimes.

5) Guess what i found out?finally, the care aid told me that 2 residence have yellow-green colour, foul smell lady partsl discharge off and on for over a month! To me my 1st reaction is Bacteria lady partsltitis, not fungal! (i was really trying my best to use all my knowledges from school). But i was told by the students that one residence's discharge issue has been dealt with before but the other one never.

The family member came and fed the resident, i asked the daughter if he knew about it and she said no. So i told her i would contact the physician see if we can do something. The daughter said ok. To me she really didnt care. The 2nd day i found out she is a hospital head nurse! Anyway, i contacted the doctor, doctor didnt care at all, order the PV swab, and probably will prescribe antibiotics.

However, to me, its doctor's decision to Tx or not, but i have already done my best.

6)So at the end of the day, me and the student were both not too happy.

on the 2nd day, the student was very rude to me. he started pushing me, and telling me that "this two medication is your priority." one is a god damn enlarged-prostate pill, which is given once a week,one is a god damn osteoprosis medication for a very very very PICKY/COMPLAINING resident, and the other one is insulin. But on the same day, one 102 year old resident with a hematuria foley catheter (UTI off and on) had a fever over the night. He has anemia, CVA, arotic-valve disease, he could go with a sudden stroke in any second. His output was decreased from 500-300 last night, which i noticed and i told everyone, but nobody really care(student didnt care, less output means nothing to him). His bp last night was from 88/41, then 98/48, and my 1st priority i ran into his room and took his vitals, 101/44, afebril, confused. Many things going on in my mind: 1)checking DOI level, level 1? ok. 2) contact family member. when i come out of the room,

the student pull out my meds and telling me"I think your priority is to give these these two medication." he use his fingers and knock on the pills over and over again, and i started panic. Under the student pressure, so i grabbed the medication and went into the very very very PICKY resident's room, apologize to her for giving her medication late, and she said "did my pill change colour?" I took a look---its the prostate gland pill for the resident who is up early at the breakfast table!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A near-miss medication error!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I took a deep breath, left the room, and went to check the insulin residence's sugar, her sugar is fine. So i said i will come back to you, and i went back to the PICKY residence and gave her the correct pill. The reason i did that is that i need to distract myself a little bit. I talked to the student, student said "nobody enjoy working with you! You have no team work, you have no communication! you live in your own world! " I said "i know. Thats why i dont gossip. at this moment, my personality makes me can only focus on my own nursing job. Teamwork will come later, but i need time. And i really dont care if care aid likes me or not!" I went to my dialysis unit, found the charge nurse, broke down, cried.

i said to the RN,

"to the student, his priority is the insulin. His priority is who gets up for breakfast, who gets the pill first. His priority is the very PICKY residence's osteoporosis pill. But he doesnt know enough about the insulin. he cant look at the blood sugar picture. I still gave the insulin within window period based on a good blood sugar. I gave the lantus first, because it is a 24 hour insulin. I gave the novolin at the breakfast, because her sugar is ok.

to me, my priority is my unstable residence last night. To you, as an experienced RN, the priority is DOI, and family member. I cant work with a student. Look at the near miss medication error! He has no licence, i just had my licence for over a month. When i was trained by you, you never interrupt me when i do med pass. You just let me do it, but now, he constantly interrupts me i cant function. please help me. I am not competent!"

She smiled at me, and said "tell him not to interrupt you and you are competent. I will come and check on you." and she gave me a hug.

Specializes in geriatrics.

i already realized that, i know my personality weakness which makes ppl attack me, i know that when i was in university, i definitely will work on that

Specializes in geriatrics.

you are right. i dont evaluate his clinical performance because the previous LPN has already passed him, and thus he graduated, just with no license. He is not going to take his exam until May, as a matter of fact, whether he will pass the exam or not is still a problem

however, i worry about my personality more though

Specializes in Wound Care, LTC, Sub-Acute, Vents.
i already realized that, i know my personality weakness which makes ppl attack me, i know that when i was in university, i definitely will work on that

you can work on that. just act confident even though sometimes you are not. be assertive, stand up for yourself, and pick the battles you can win.

it sounds like you know what you are doing and you know your stuff. with enough good experience, you'll be an excellent nurse.

good luck,

angel

Specializes in geriatrics.

thank you so much, any suggestion how to modify my personality though?

Specializes in geriatrics.

thank you so much, you answered my exact question before i wrote the reply hahhahaha!!!! i want to be a competent nurse and i know all my weaknesses, please god bless me when im going through such a hard transitional phase.

Specializes in ED, ICU, Education.

If you think you're going to cry in front of a patient or visitor - start doing multiplication tables in your head. Works every time.

Good luck to you and whatever path you choose. You are a good nurse. Don't get down on yourself. It sounds like you're doing a great job - just overwhelmed, which is totally normal for a new grad.

I would say keep working where you are right now. Learn from these tough experiences and improve your skill and personality traits from them.

Remember: NO ONE can take your education away from you. Don't let anybody walk all over you.

Best Wishes! You can do it!:redpinkhe:nurse::yeah:

hi:

i know comfort care, and i know comfort care policy and procedure in our facility. I know to give medication for pain and fever, i know to give oxygen, i know to let residence die in clean and on the bed.

However, knowing the routine of the residence and knowing the routine from the family member is also critically important to me. Especially while pretty much all family members of our residence are in health profession. I know how to do comfort care and i know how to feed, i just dont think i know enough.

Actually comfort care is EOL care, (which is my speciality) and i don't think you do from your post but asking family to educate on that just because they are in the health care field is unprofessional and inappropriate. most drs have very little training in pallative care so just because someone has a MD behind their name does not make them an appropriate 'teacher" . If you don't think you know enough go to conferences , seminiars and even trainings put on at work. and i ditto the advice....... no crying in front of co-workers.

i did so and lunch time, the son of the unstable pt came. He is a doctor himself. So i asked him about widened pulse pressure, he said he wouldnt concern about the pulse and low BP because his dad is always althetic, I asked him his opinion about comfort care, he said no comfort care, letting him alive is discomfort, letting him die is comfort care. I asked him about hypothemia of geriatric population, he said no tylenol unless the fever is 39,40. I asked about alternation of mental status, he smiled and said his confusion is not all by his fever, mostly by dementia. he said only O2, monitor his Sp02. i felt great!

Another resident's daughter is a dietitian, i asked her how to feed the residence with thicken fluids with medication.

my 2nd cry is a very depressed residence in his bed, asked me"do u know what you are doing?" i said "for a bp, i think i know." he said" you looked like a rat bumpping into everything." I had my tears in my eyes, said" i am new. I already tried my best. I will improve overtime. I apologize for your inconvenience." he turned his head away, I left his room. He yelled at me,"hey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!". I went in, and he said" put my head down!" i did so and left, had a cry.

my 3rd cry, is one of the residence who is on PD unit, condition deteroiated. She told me, "i want to eat. " i said "what?" she said "scamble egg." i talked to the kitchen and asked him if he has any. He said, and meanly said to me" If you need that you should let me know ahead of time 4 hours!" i meanly said back "how can i let you know 4 hours ahead if the residence doesnt eat for the whole day and all of a sudden she wanted to eat when she is dying!?"

the nurse(my very good friend) told me not to talk to cook like this, because he just cant make scramble egg. I said that when i tell her i cant give her scramble egg, she disappointly said "oh no?" that just absolutely broke my heart. I had my tears down, and the residence look at me, said "dont cry." a family member kicked me out and said" dont cry in front of her because you are upsetting her and dont push cook." i said i know i cant help with it. I said i know cook wont make scramble eggs for me but i still want to give a try for comfort care. i said i could ask family member to bring some and she said dont do that cuz u r putting burdens on family while my nurse family said dont push cook tell family to do it.

I asked what abut hospice? no hospice. Phone hospital and they sent volunteers here just sit and listen to the residence. Thats not hospice. hospice is a place that if i want to eat banana cake during mid of the night and kitchen will make it for me, thats hospice.

anyway, thats my 3rd cry, i know im too sensitive, too serious, that this job is not for me. Hospital and research suits me more and eventually i will move to there. im weak with organization skills and multi-tasking, i can panic, i can be agitated, i am sensitive, these are all personality issue, they can be worked on if i truely want to work on. I dont think i can personality, but i can modify it, right? I have done my best, i have no regret.

To me, my yearly goal is

1) learn physio knowledge (thats a 4 year degree)

2) learn dietitian knowledge(thats a 4 year degree)

3) learn gentle hygiene knowledge (thats a 4 year degree)

but i was trained as an RN

Plus, i felt relatively less respected in LTC because its their home and im pretty much a high paid maid.

First thing you need to do is learn to spell, and use good punctuation and grammar. How did you through a RN program with this type of communication? You sound like you are in "way over your head." You need more experienced RN's to help you. Get help. :rolleyes:

I am going to suggest that don't modify your personality. Work on working with it. Understand your strengths and your weaknesses because they are who you are. And there is not necessarily anything wrong with that. :) Some parts could be adapted, some parts stay the same.

Crying and feeling like you feel is understandable! It's normal!

1) You are a new RN grad. So much to deal with so quickly!

2)You are being a preceptor to someone ( who very well seems to be a 'difficult personality'). It is always hard to be responsible for your own actions, not to mention someone else's actions.

3) You are working in LTC. No walk in the park.

But you know what?

Him not being happy because you asked him to see the insulin vial was his problem not yours. It was your RIGHT and responsibility to ask. Oh well if he was mad. That tells me that you are responsible.

Messy med cart? Not acceptable. Good for you for noticing!

Interruptions? Those are not easy, but they do happen with nursing. :) Just work on asking people to wait a minute, or figure out a pattern that works for you that helps when you are interrupted.

Assessment? Good for you that you want to personally eyeball people. That tells me that you care.

It looks to me like you know your priorities, don't let someone else push you around.

This is all part of the learning process. You will get yelled at by some people (kitchen staff. etc.) even when all you were trying to do was the right thing. That is very wonderful of you. Even if you get yelled at and run into walls (you will every day!) at least you know you tried! Try not to take it personally. Everyone has bad days. Some people every day, but try not to let it affect your day.

Crying is ok. Try not to do it in front of residents, but if it happens it happens. Life goes on.

If residents yell at you or say something rude, that does not change who you are as a person. In one ear and out the other, I say. Sometimes if people are telling you something about yourself that sounds like something you need to work on, work on it. Nothing wrong with growing your personality.

The biggest thing you can do for yourself is to laugh at yourself!

I have done so many stupid things sometimes it is hysterical! But last time I checked, I was only human. :)

And you know what? What I tell myself before I go to work is "The only thing that can get hurt today is my pride." And while that isn't ENTIRELY the truth of course (haha) it is pretty much the truth.

All we can do is the best we can do with what we know. And we don't know it all!

Learn more every day, laugh at yourself, smile at those yelling at you and move on. It's like the kid's saying "He's not the boss of me!"

And sometimes, with really difficult people, separation is the only thing that will work.

For your sanity and your resident's safety, you might have to pull the plug on being a preceptor to that LPN student! And that does not mean you are a failure, it means you are strong. Because you understand what you can handle and what you can't.

You have a good knowledge base. You will get stronger in your confidence.

Just because you posted on here concerned about what you are going through tells me that you care. :nurse:

Good job!

Specializes in medical surgical.

I think That it is wonderful that you are a sensitive nurse. I see very few of them. Someone posted an article here concerning the art of nursing and EQ. Good stuff. I agree with the others that you must not precept a student at this point. You worked hard for your license. Do not loose it over some young schmuck. The elderly and infirmed are depending on you. That is a very serious responsibility. You already know that. I would not have felt confident precepting until at least 2 years as a RN. It would have been non negotiable! Best to you.

Most State Boards of Nursing require a student preceptor to have minimum of 2 years nursing experience. :uhoh3:

Specializes in LTC, ER, ICU, Psych, Med-surg...etc....

You should not be a preceptor until you have had at least one year of solid experience. And as the above poster said, most BONS require 2 years. I once put a student in the conference room and told them to stay there and not come out. They were killing me and I was NOT their instructor, nor did I feel it was my responsibility to teach them after, as they had made it perfectly clear to me, that they knew so much more than I did and that I was "old school" and then the crowning moment was when they said, "I am not going through all this nursing school to give bedpans and wipe a$$es"...so with that, I was done.

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