My 17 year old son has been missing since last night. We've had trouble with him in the past year with drinking and marijuana, and he's been in counseling. But the past few months he's been clean. We know this because we have him randomly tested. His grades improved, his personality improved.
Last night he got drunk with a friend and they vandalized a car. He called us this morning on his cell phone, and said he was lost in some woods, then the battery went dead. I know he's terrified of the trouble he's going to be in.
I'm not excusing his behavior. He will have to pay the consequences when he comes home. But he does have a suspected anxiety disorder and when something goes wrong, he panics.
The police went looking for him, my husband is looking for him, our friends are looking for him. I'm waiting by the phone. After two hours, the police called off their search saying that if he knows they're looking it will chase him away even more. How in the heck is he supposed to know they aren't looking for him??????
It's cold and raining out and he's only wearing a t-shirt and jeans. I only hope he finds shelter.
I'm not even sure why I posted this here. I just know that in the past you've all given your prayers and best wishes to others.
I have never been so lost or so scared in my life.
((((Hugs)))) Glad he was found safe. I agree that you are doing a good thing by allowing hime to be arrested. Most likely, his juvenile record will be sealed once he is an adult, so the timingof this incident gives him the perfect chnce ot get his act together before he has a record to follow him.
Proud of you, Mom! Hang in there with the tough love.
((((Hugs)))) Glad he was found safe. I agree that you are doing a good thing by allowing hime to be arrested. Most likely, his juvenile record will be sealed once he is an adult, so the timingof this incident gives him the perfect chnce ot get his act together before he has a record to follow him.
Proud of you, Mom! Hang in there with the tough love.
Specializes in Step down, ICU, ER, PACU, Amb. Surg.
being the mother of 2 teenagers.....17 and 15, my heart and prayers go out to you. especially as my 15 yr old is very rebellious, although the probation officer for PINS has determined that he has no drug problem (had them give him a pop pee test). being tough is the hardest part of loving a child. i will continue to pray that he turns around and gets on the right track and that you and your family have the strength to stand firm in your love for him.
Specializes in Step down, ICU, ER, PACU, Amb. Surg.
being the mother of 2 teenagers.....17 and 15, my heart and prayers go out to you. especially as my 15 yr old is very rebellious, although the probation officer for PINS has determined that he has no drug problem (had them give him a pop pee test). being tough is the hardest part of loving a child. i will continue to pray that he turns around and gets on the right track and that you and your family have the strength to stand firm in your love for him.
Specializes in Interventional Pain Mgmt NP; Prior ICU and L/D RN.
I am so relieved to know they found your son safe! I know you feel better knowing where he is.
I am not the mother of a drug/alcohol addict (my kids are 13, 10, 3).....but I am the sister of one.
My brother is 34yo and still getting into trouble. I watched him put my parents through pure hell since I was 10. It is hard to watch someone you love tear not only their lives apart, but their families also. There is nothing I can do to help my brother (lord knows I tried)..he is a grown adult.
It makes me happy that you are trying to help your son...don't give up...
My parents tried everything with my brother...unfortunately they did not have all the programs they do now and we also lived on an island accessible only by boat or plane. Social services didn't even want to help. Now a' days they have programs and such.
Good luck and take care...my prayers are with all of you
Specializes in Interventional Pain Mgmt NP; Prior ICU and L/D RN.
I am so relieved to know they found your son safe! I know you feel better knowing where he is.
I am not the mother of a drug/alcohol addict (my kids are 13, 10, 3).....but I am the sister of one.
My brother is 34yo and still getting into trouble. I watched him put my parents through pure hell since I was 10. It is hard to watch someone you love tear not only their lives apart, but their families also. There is nothing I can do to help my brother (lord knows I tried)..he is a grown adult.
It makes me happy that you are trying to help your son...don't give up...
My parents tried everything with my brother...unfortunately they did not have all the programs they do now and we also lived on an island accessible only by boat or plane. Social services didn't even want to help. Now a' days they have programs and such.
Good luck and take care...my prayers are with all of you
Glad to hear your son was found. I'm sure it's a huge relief, yet your family has alot of hard work ahead of them. Perhaps you should print out this thread and have him read all the posts. May help him realize how his actions affected others...Good luck to you and your family!
Glad to hear your son was found. I'm sure it's a huge relief, yet your family has alot of hard work ahead of them. Perhaps you should print out this thread and have him read all the posts. May help him realize how his actions affected others...Good luck to you and your family!
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((((Hugs)))) Glad he was found safe. I agree that you are doing a good thing by allowing hime to be arrested. Most likely, his juvenile record will be sealed once he is an adult, so the timingof this incident gives him the perfect chnce ot get his act together before he has a record to follow him.
Proud of you, Mom! Hang in there with the tough love.