My son is missing

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My 17 year old son has been missing since last night. We've had trouble with him in the past year with drinking and marijuana, and he's been in counseling. But the past few months he's been clean. We know this because we have him randomly tested. His grades improved, his personality improved.

Last night he got drunk with a friend and they vandalized a car. He called us this morning on his cell phone, and said he was lost in some woods, then the battery went dead. I know he's terrified of the trouble he's going to be in.

I'm not excusing his behavior. He will have to pay the consequences when he comes home. But he does have a suspected anxiety disorder and when something goes wrong, he panics.

The police went looking for him, my husband is looking for him, our friends are looking for him. I'm waiting by the phone. After two hours, the police called off their search saying that if he knows they're looking it will chase him away even more. How in the heck is he supposed to know they aren't looking for him??????

It's cold and raining out and he's only wearing a t-shirt and jeans. I only hope he finds shelter.

I'm not even sure why I posted this here. I just know that in the past you've all given your prayers and best wishes to others.

I have never been so lost or so scared in my life.

Oh thank god he is ok - sending hugs and nothing but my best wishes your way. Keep your chin up!!

Stay strong :)

Rachel

Oh thank god he is ok - sending hugs and nothing but my best wishes your way. Keep your chin up!!

Stay strong :)

Rachel

I too have you in my thoughts and prayers, Please don't apoligize for posting here. I am the Mom of 5 teenage boys ages 12-18. I would feel the same way as you do. Please remember that your son is trying very hard to bring his life around. He has experienced a wee set back, I'm sure he is safe and remember he does have a cell phone so if he were in danger I'm sure he would call the people he knows he can count on in troubled times.

He is just probable very scared right now. Hope everything turns out for the best.

Pleases remember in your heart that he Loves You and doesn't realize the agony and fright he is causing you.

Keep us posted

Big Hugs too you and your family

I too have you in my thoughts and prayers, Please don't apoligize for posting here. I am the Mom of 5 teenage boys ages 12-18. I would feel the same way as you do. Please remember that your son is trying very hard to bring his life around. He has experienced a wee set back, I'm sure he is safe and remember he does have a cell phone so if he were in danger I'm sure he would call the people he knows he can count on in troubled times.

He is just probable very scared right now. Hope everything turns out for the best.

Pleases remember in your heart that he Loves You and doesn't realize the agony and fright he is causing you.

Keep us posted

Big Hugs too you and your family

Originally posted by sixes

I too have you in my thoughts and prayers, Please don't apoligize for posting here. I am the Mom of 5 teenage boys ages 12-18. I would feel the same way as you do. Please remember that your son is trying very hard to bring his life around. He has experienced a wee set back, I'm sure he is safe and remember he does have a cell phone so if he were in danger I'm sure he would call the people he knows he can count on in troubled times.

He is just probable very scared right now. Hope everything turns out for the best.

Pleases remember in your heart that he Loves You and doesn't realize the agony and fright he is causing you.

Keep us posted

Big Hugs too you and your family

Sorry I jumped the gun. I didn't read all the posts. So glad he is OK.

I would throttle him too then I'd give him a big hug and remind him how much you all Love him. He's had a set back but I'm sure he will make it this time.

Let him know that we are all with your family and we are praying for him

Originally posted by sixes

I too have you in my thoughts and prayers, Please don't apoligize for posting here. I am the Mom of 5 teenage boys ages 12-18. I would feel the same way as you do. Please remember that your son is trying very hard to bring his life around. He has experienced a wee set back, I'm sure he is safe and remember he does have a cell phone so if he were in danger I'm sure he would call the people he knows he can count on in troubled times.

He is just probable very scared right now. Hope everything turns out for the best.

Pleases remember in your heart that he Loves You and doesn't realize the agony and fright he is causing you.

Keep us posted

Big Hugs too you and your family

Sorry I jumped the gun. I didn't read all the posts. So glad he is OK.

I would throttle him too then I'd give him a big hug and remind him how much you all Love him. He's had a set back but I'm sure he will make it this time.

Let him know that we are all with your family and we are praying for him

cyberKat

How did I miss this thread?

Glad your son was found. It is pure, gut wrenching, heart stabbing hell not knowing where your teen is. I've been there. Keep us all posted.

I don't think teens fully realise the pain they cause when they go off track...not until they are parents themselves. I recently learned that our frontal lobes aren't fully developed until our 20's..this is where you find forethought and impulse control. Just an interesting tidbit...not meant to excuse his behavior.

Furby

cyberKat

How did I miss this thread?

Glad your son was found. It is pure, gut wrenching, heart stabbing hell not knowing where your teen is. I've been there. Keep us all posted.

I don't think teens fully realise the pain they cause when they go off track...not until they are parents themselves. I recently learned that our frontal lobes aren't fully developed until our 20's..this is where you find forethought and impulse control. Just an interesting tidbit...not meant to excuse his behavior.

Furby

The good news, at least to us is the police ended up arresting him. That was his biggest fear. The office actually asked us if it was ok, because most parents fight them on it. We told the officer to go ahead and scare the crap out of him to the max.

Son is sitll in our custody, but he knows if there's a next time it's handcuffs and a trip to the detention center. Hopefully this will open his eyes some more.

Again, I can't thakn you enough. I'll look into the Tough Love too, now that I'm awake.

The good news, at least to us is the police ended up arresting him. That was his biggest fear. The office actually asked us if it was ok, because most parents fight them on it. We told the officer to go ahead and scare the crap out of him to the max.

Son is sitll in our custody, but he knows if there's a next time it's handcuffs and a trip to the detention center. Hopefully this will open his eyes some more.

Again, I can't thakn you enough. I'll look into the Tough Love too, now that I'm awake.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Geriatrics, Call Center RN.
Originally posted by cyberkat

The good news, at least to us is the police ended up arresting him. That was his biggest fear. The office actually asked us if it was ok, because most parents fight them on it. We told the officer to go ahead and scare the crap out of him to the max.

Son is sitll in our custody, but he knows if there's a next time it's handcuffs and a trip to the detention center. Hopefully this will open his eyes some more.

Again, I can't thakn you enough. I'll look into the Tough Love too, now that I'm awake.

It is hard being a parent, know what you are doing is right or wrong. I sure hope you are able to get your son the help he needs. I'm glad you were able to get so much support here. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

:kiss

Specializes in Pediatrics, Geriatrics, Call Center RN.
Originally posted by cyberkat

The good news, at least to us is the police ended up arresting him. That was his biggest fear. The office actually asked us if it was ok, because most parents fight them on it. We told the officer to go ahead and scare the crap out of him to the max.

Son is sitll in our custody, but he knows if there's a next time it's handcuffs and a trip to the detention center. Hopefully this will open his eyes some more.

Again, I can't thakn you enough. I'll look into the Tough Love too, now that I'm awake.

It is hard being a parent, know what you are doing is right or wrong. I sure hope you are able to get your son the help he needs. I'm glad you were able to get so much support here. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

:kiss

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