TriciaJ, RN 4,301 Posts Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory. Has 42 years experience. Mar 12, 2017 Lilone20 said:I will do just that, I'm also willing to change the days I work but I need enough warning to tell my child's daycare. The current schedule I'm working is M Th Fr and every other weekend. When I asked if she could predict the new schedule she said she had no idea, which makes it impossible for me to schedule appointments, or hold a daycare spot. I tried explaining that and she ignored me. I'm willing to change my work schedule I just need to know what it will be. They need me to request days off 60 days in advance so they can schedule but they publish the schedule do weeks in advance which gives me no time to make plans. This was not an issue when it was just my husband and I, but now that I have a child I have to have a daycare spot for it is a problem. (Thus the lack of flexibility I used to have and not working doubles each weekend)I get that the unit has needs, but any place of employment should try to be a bit more family-friendly than this. A good workplace will have a manager that works with people, and staff who try to cover for each other. This one is going to have people at each other's throats before long.I think if you discuss your personal situation with HR, and they actually work with you, you can accomplish a few things. You might be able to keep your job and meet your family's needs. The power-tripping manager will get a reality check. And your coworkers hopefully won't get their needs summarily blown off and have to watch staff morale drop like a rock.I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.
djh123 1 Article; 1,101 Posts Specializes in LTC, Rehab. Has 5 years experience. Mar 12, 2017 Rose_Queen said:I'm just going to put this quote here:I'm in the position where I want to find a new job, and have been trying to do so for the last several months. I love what I do; management has torpedoed morale to the point that no one is happy.I'm quitting my bosses AND my cheap-a** corporation. Not because of my actual job, most of my co-workers, and my residents.
DNTcode 35 Posts Mar 12, 2017 Are you my coworker??? (I am sarcastic, because this reminds me soooo much my work) Except of the personal Nazi Hitler style, micromanaging, tha you can literaly feel the droplets of your manager breath on your posterior part of the neck and shoulders, she had no idea what is going on on ICU (like drugs do not get titrated as prescribed q 5 min increment of 0.01... but if pt is crushing you jump start the drip... and soooo on. Then it was getting really really hard to explain little more advanced rationalles. But she managed over 100 nurses! Great with paper. I am sure that for her exclusively they invented wording: "paper pusher". I tried to explain over and over and over... till I realize I am doing something really stupid, because a) manager who never worked in ICU setting does not, will not, can not grasp it no matter of the amount and quality of spoon feeding provided.b) she might understand, but does not care a bit.c) she does not like people who can move head in left to right direction, and she prefers people who will move head up do down and repeat, no matter how stupid the idea is.d) she loved snitches, excuse me, wrong word that was out of line. Lets be profesional here: the chronical notifiers of: "I just want you to make you an aware that nurse so and so did not put the caps on her tubings, and on one tubing the sticker was missing, I see the nurse so and so priming her tubing with left hand instead of right one, and the family had to wait for ice whole 5 minutes and 23 seconds!!! :nailbiting:" (while those notifiers left patients BP after open heart role up to 220 systolic and stay there till MD himself run into a room. But hey they were excellent nurses with years of experience, on a good terms with manager because they had whole logs of who forgot stickers on tubings , and managers managing style too closely resembled the: divide and rule style.f) for any left to right head movers any slightest complain is good enough to get them called in the office e) all of the aboveafter the realization of the e) was the correct answer - at least per my experience, I came to the bestest (not the best, but the bestest) day of my life... a simple notice :) the hell continues fume up there, and I am free of it, stress free, and happy, it feel so much better. And guess what, I had job right next day after I resigned, and they offer me more money, better benefits... people are nice, no the spies types nurses like in my previous job making a log on who did leave in the room the saline flush unattended...(you know, that intubated and restrained patient could have got to it and overdose himself with it, right???) Manager on the previous hell created unit is rewarded per her achievements by the administration, great managing, oh well, turn over nurses is sky high... but well, not much she can do about it right??? Patients safety... can't comment...do not wanna get in trouble, so really lets leave it out of comment.So if you find any other idea how to turn hell into paradise, I would really love to know, I will forward it to my ex-coworkers who keep suffering there.
DNTcode 35 Posts Mar 12, 2017 She said, "not my problem, carry your cell phone.",Well, I think, she just gave you a permission, an exception... to carry the cell phone You can very well, use an email... thanks god for that!And start communicate with her exclusively via emails. (do not forget to print them out!)Send her an email:Sorry about the question of policy that was unclear to me regarding personal phone calls to nursing station that would involve our secretary picking up the phone. Thank you very much, that you told me to carry my cell phone. I will do! ?If she gives you discharges and full patient load...Send her an email: OK, so I am having 7 patients... 3 are acting out, 6 are halucinating, 5 is suicidal, together with discharges, but I just wanted to make sure, you are aware that is putting them at risk? I just do not want to get anyone in trouble if anything happens.I have done that and won, but it was because I had long good very good track record.But I personally think it is not worth of starting fight with donkey. (you know they are dangerous from all sides?)You can dig all laws. Not sure about your states, but some states if your child has disability and so on, they can't fire you if you would murder someone. Check your laws.Good luck
Been there,done that, ASN, RN 6,968 Posts Has 33 years experience. Mar 13, 2017 TriciaJ said:I get that the unit has needs, but any place of employment should try to be a bit more family-friendly than this. A good workplace will have a manager that works with people, and staff who try to cover for each other. This one is going to have people at each other's throats before long.I think if you discuss your personal situation with HR, and they actually work with you, you can accomplish a few things. You might be able to keep your job and meet your family's needs. The power-tripping manager will get a reality check. And your coworkers hopefully won't get their needs summarily blown off and have to watch staff morale drop like a rock.I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you."I think if you discuss your personal situation with HR, and they actually work with you"HR is not her friend. HR exists to protect and enforce company policy.
TriciaJ, RN 4,301 Posts Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory. Has 42 years experience. Mar 14, 2017 Been there,done that said:"I think if you discuss your personal situation with HR, and they actually work with you"HR is not her friend. HR exists to protect and enforce company policy.Yes, you're probably right. I was just trying to think of work-arounds since the manager does not show interest in anyone's well-being and there is no union.The last resort of course is looking for the exits.
AnnieOaklyRN, BSN, RN, EMT-P 2,577 Posts Specializes in ED, Pedi Vasc access, Paramedic serving 6 towns. Mar 14, 2017 I am very sorry you are going through this. This new manager seems to have forgotten her employees are also people! As soon as management forgets that we are human with needs outside of work the morale goes down and the revolving door gets installed! Some people should not be managers, end of story, but you cannot tell them that. I went through this in an ER where I worked, and it was awful. The ER had great potential to be awesome, but the manager treated people like they had no life outside of work and everything was the nurses fault, it wasn't the poor staffing or poor work flow... :/ Unfortunately poor nurse managers ruin units! Annie
oldpsychnurse 97 Posts Mar 15, 2017 I really don't know much about the foster care system, but I imagine they are pros at knowing the ins and outs of policy and law as it relates to disabled kids. They might be a resource for you when you go to the EEOC or whoever is in charge of that sort of thing. You don't have anything to lose at that place if you make a stink because you're probably going to be out of there soon (whether voluntarily or with the assistance of their foot). Good luck to you. Unfortunately, your manager will probably be the ADON pretty soon. That's the kind of management most hospitals seem to be going to.
RNOTODAY, BSN, RN 1,116 Posts Specializes in NICU, ER, OR. Has 18 years experience. Mar 27, 2017 Sounds like a " clean up" manager... is she ??
RNOTODAY, BSN, RN 1,116 Posts Specializes in NICU, ER, OR. Has 18 years experience. Mar 27, 2017 I don't suggest anybody go to EAP for ANY type of stress they may be experiencing in their lives ... I've seen too many times that " out of safety for you and your child" , they make , ummm how shall I put it.... " recommendations" that are not needed, wanted nor welcome. Treat them like you would the BON, but " light " Not necessarily your FRIEND!!! Ok?
VonnieC 22 Posts Mar 28, 2017 Go to HR, take notes on all of this. She cannot deny you the ability to be reached by your son or his school in the event of an emergency. Bide your time as poor managers like this one do not usually last long. Good luck to you..
