Anyway, I was told today after Microbiology lab " That I'm sorry you don't have what it takes to become a nurse. It's just not your thing.". I had trouble with the microscope today and a few other days, so based off of that, she assessed that I couldn't pass clinical. Being in her position and her being a doctor, I felt so bad, and I had to refrain from crying on the spot. Keep in my mind I'm a guy. I told her that I would worker harder and hopefully by the end of the semster she would change her opinion of me.
Has anybody ever had someone tell you that you can't do something? If so, how did you handle it?
I tried to turn it into a positive, but having a real hard time doing so. My school has a low passage rate for the nursing program like 30 percent or something low like that. I don't want to tell my wife or my family what was said to me today, so I rather ask you for some advice.
I mean she could of worded it so differently like "if you keep on this path, you won't be a nurse.", but she actually said "You don't have what it takes.". I mean when she see's me she see's a failure.
Do what I did, use it as an opportunity to prove her wrong. If I were you, I would work harder than ever to do that.
Two years ago, a faculty advisor at a very competitive Accelerated BSN program reviewed my undergrad transcript and told me I had a very slim chance of getting in, because the average GPA of the entering class was @ 3.7 ...
I got accepted into that same program two weeks ago.
Now, I want more than anything to see you repost on this thread that you have indeed graduated, passed the NCLEX and begun working as an RN.
If you believe it, you can do it! Take the advice that I resonate throughout allnurses: Don't. Ever. Give. Up!
Let it go in one ear and out the other. As a nurse you won't be using a microscope. If you're taking Micro I assume you're just starting out with your pre-reqs. Nobody has clinical skills at that point, you learn the skills you need while in nursing school. Sorry you have to deal with such an unprofessional teacher, but just pass the micro class and move on to nursing.
When I was really young (19), I enrolled in some classes at my college and just stopped going. I didn't know that you actually had to drop them (I wasn't really paying attention back then, I was busy with other things). So I had a couple of "Fs" on my transcripts...one of those happened to be in a biology class. Fast forward over 10 years...I am now back in school working my hiney off to be a nurse. I have an A in A&P I, I've applied and received a "do-over" where the grades from forever ago were not included in the school's GPA, I've done well in several other classes. Anyway, I've proved that I was serious about school this time around.
So, I decide to take A&P II and Microbiology at the same time. Of course, that means that I need one of the heads of the biology department to sign off on concurrent classes. So, I go to his office and ask permission and he says to me, "I wouldn't let you take ONE of these classes let alone both at the same time. There is no way that you have the brains to complete both classes at the same time". And, yes, he actually laughed as he was saying this.
I went home in tears. Two days later, I picked myself up, went to his boss and asked again. This person put me in those classes and I got A's in both.
I know that it's hard to hear you might not be good enough for something. You have to pick yourself up by the bootstraps and get back on the horse. Keep moving forward. Good luck!
Anyway, I was told today after Microbiology lab " That I'm sorry you don't have what it takes to become a nurse. It's just not your thing.". I had trouble with the microscope today and a few other days, so based off of that, she assessed that I couldn't pass clinical. Being in her position and her being a doctor, I felt so bad, and I had to refrain from crying on the spot. Keep in my mind I'm a guy. I told her that I would worker harder and hopefully by the end of the semster she would change her opinion of me.
Has anybody ever had someone tell you that you can't do something? If so, how did you handle it?
I tried to turn it into a positive, but having a real hard time doing so. My school has a low passage rate for the nursing program like 30 percent or something low like that. I don't want to tell my wife or my family what was said to me today, so I rather ask you for some advice.
I mean she could of worded it so differently like "if you keep on this path, you won't be a nurse.", but she actually said "You don't have what it takes.". I mean when she see's me she see's a failure.
She might have a PhD in Biology, but she is not a medical professional.
You don't have to look through a microscope to be a nurse, that is what MEDICAL Technologists do.
Don't let that woman discourage you...she obviously is not as smart as she thinks she is. I have a feeling that maybe she aspired to be a nurse and hid in the realms of academia rather than get out in the real world and is jealous that people like you are moving forward.
Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.
There are many nurses here who've experienced comments like that. Most say it was an extra jolt to their motivation to succeed and prove the naysayer wrong. That was the most idiotic reason for it that I can remember, though.
Until I started college last year (at 41), I had no idea instructors could be so rude, crude, unprofessional and downright mean. Some of the things I've read on this site are unbelievable. Last semester, I had Statistics with a girl who was taking A&P I on campus and was telling her instructor that I had taken both my A&P's and my Micro online. This 'instructor' told my friend that I wouldn't be a good nurse-because I had taken my sciences online!!What??.
So, I've been told by an instructor THAT I'VE NEVER EVEN MET OR SEEN that I will be a lousy nurse. My advice? Don't even waste the brain cells thinking about it. It isn't worth it.
Sometimes there are people who act like this that have something wrong with them. Put her remarks into that category and move forward. The only person getting in your way is you, especially if you let mean spirited remarks keep you from your goal.
I agree with the above postings, let it go in one ear and out the other. The biology professor I had would do exam review, and tell the class, if you got such and such number wrong, you're an idiot. Guess what? I got that question wrong :) and I'm not an idiot. I ended up with a 4.0 in bio. I'm of the opinion that it's games being played.
You have said enough for me to know that this "person" is biased against you. She is not a nurse, many doctors out there dont have the guts and strenght to walk a mile in a nurse's shoes. Tell her where to stcik it and never let anyone ruin your goals. BTW, if that is all it takes to get you to give up on your dreams..............
Anyway, I was told today after Microbiology lab " That I'm sorry you don't have what it takes to become a nurse. It's just not your thing.". I had trouble with the microscope today and a few other days, so based off of that, she assessed that I couldn't pass clinical. Being in her position and her being a doctor, I felt so bad, and I had to refrain from crying on the spot. Keep in my mind I'm a guy. I told her that I would worker harder and hopefully by the end of the semster she would change her opinion of me.
Has anybody ever had someone tell you that you can't do something? If so, how did you handle it?
I tried to turn it into a positive, but having a real hard time doing so. My school has a low passage rate for the nursing program like 30 percent or something low like that. I don't want to tell my wife or my family what was said to me today, so I rather ask you for some advice.
I mean she could of worded it so differently like "if you keep on this path, you won't be a nurse.", but she actually said "You don't have what it takes.". I mean when she see's me she see's a failure.
Screw her! How would she know? That's ridiculously unfair of her to assume that of you. Do not let her get to you. It sounds like she's just being mean. How sad for her that she has such an unfulfilling life that she needs to insult her students. IGNORE HER STUPIDITY!
Ignore it! You can also remind her that not being able to work a microscope has nothing to do with nursing. After micro you will never need to use a microscope ever again, unless maybe you go into research or something like that.
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Do what I did, use it as an opportunity to prove her wrong. If I were you, I would work harder than ever to do that.
Two years ago, a faculty advisor at a very competitive Accelerated BSN program reviewed my undergrad transcript and told me I had a very slim chance of getting in, because the average GPA of the entering class was @ 3.7 ...
I got accepted into that same program two weeks ago.
Now, I want more than anything to see you repost on this thread that you have indeed graduated, passed the NCLEX and begun working as an RN.
If you believe it, you can do it! Take the advice that I resonate throughout allnurses: Don't. Ever. Give. Up!