My life is so hopeless right now!

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I need to support my father financially and he is 81 years old, but there is no nursing jobs (R.N.) out there! I've cried a few times in the past 2 weeks and I'm so afraid that I might be ending up sleeping in the street with my father one day.

If not because of my father, I might have killed myself two weeks ago!

Please see if your state has any kind of assistance...housing, food support, ect.

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Lisa321, there is a local organization (Lansing MI) that is a womens resource non-profit. I ran across it yesterday and was really impressed with the varied situations they handle, varied socio-economic situations, too. You may find something along those lines in your area. As these other posters suggest, consider the area agency on aging in your area and any other agency that is friendly to you, whether or not they can offer you a service. You just need support right now. Caregiving is incredibly overwhelming in and of itself. When the caregiver is unemployed, albeit temporarily, that's just adding fuel to the fire. You need support navigating your challenges. I hope you will focus your energy on pulling yourself up and out rather than allowing life to take ahold of you.

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I want to add a comment to posters other than Lisa123: although I'm not in step with the tone of hat person poster, I absolutely agree with her sentiment.

To the posters who entreat Lisa123 to turn to god, I find your comments presumptuous and insensitive. It's one thing to offer her your prayers, if you believe that prayers will help and you are offering this out of the goodness of your heart. I always accept the prayers of well-meaning friends. But, it's another thing altogether to entreat the sufferer (in this case Lisa123) to turn to god herself. SHE has made no mention of her beliefs/has not shared her beliefs with any of us. I repeat. It's presumptuous and insensitive to hear another human's cry for help and ASSume that because it worked for you, 'it' (turning to god) will work for her. Although I think it may be healthy for each of us to share methods/suggestions that have worked for US, it's something altogether different, at the very least arrogant, to entreat her to assume your religious beliefs because they work for you. Religious beliefs AND lack thereof, are sacred and personal to each one of us and should never be treated as flippantly as that. I hope you all will learn to have more respect for the potential differences in others.

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You sound so discouraged. I hope that you know that you have been heard and there are people who wish you well. Take care of yourself by seeking support.

Some suggestions: for information regarding Medicaid and Medicare, go to ssa.gov and use their site search for information about the two programs. For information about food stamps, now called SNAP, go to fns.usda.gov/snap/ and use the online screening tool to see if you would qualify.

Great suggestions, and you can also try the screening tool at www.benefits.gov, it screens you for hundreds of different benefit programs.

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I want to add a comment to posters other than Lisa123: although I'm not in step with the tone of hat person poster, I absolutely agree with her sentiment.

To the posters who entreat Lisa123 to turn to god, I find your comments presumptuous and insensitive. It's one thing to offer her your prayers, if you believe that prayers will help and you are offering this out of the goodness of your heart. I always accept the prayers of well-meaning friends. But, it's another thing altogether to entreat the sufferer (in this case Lisa123) to turn to god herself. SHE has made no mention of her beliefs/has not shared her beliefs with any of us. I repeat. It's presumptuous and insensitive to hear another human's cry for help and ASSume that because it worked for you, 'it' (turning to god) will work for her. Although I think it may be healthy for each of us to share methods/suggestions that have worked for US, it's something altogether different, at the very least arrogant, to entreat her to assume your religious beliefs because they work for you. Religious beliefs AND lack thereof, are sacred and personal to each one of us and should never be treated as flippantly as that. I hope you all will learn to have more respect for the potential differences in others.

Just as its presumptuous to think that she has not tried every other thing people are telling her to do on here.

The person offering her to give her burden to Christ might be the only thing she knows to offer just as how everyone has Medicaid and, financial services advice.

OP I do hope you get help for the suicidal thoughts you are having. There are lots of people i believe who love you (if you think you have no one think of your father). If you believe in God please turn your troubles to him, and as someone who believes i will pray for you and your father and at least I can say that He does answers prayers (he wont come down himself to answer but he does)

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Please don't give up! Get down on your knees and Pray, sometimes that's all we can do. Prayer seems like such a little thing to do, but it's such a great force. I wish you and your dad the best and I hope you will hang in there. :redpinkhe

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Hi Lisa- I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now! It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life, and need some help and hope. I am VERY concerned about your comment, "If not because of my father, I might have killed myself two weeks ago." I want you to please reach out and call your doctor immediately, your close friends or family that your trust and let them know you are having these kinds of thoughts and that you need help. It is important to get help now, and not delay.

There is also a national crisis/suicide prevention help number available 24 hrs a day 7 days a week:

PLEASE CALL THIS NUMBER FOR SUPPORT:

http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html

Please call right now and let someone know you are struggling. I want you to be safe. There is help available. It is very important, Lisa. Please do this and let us know you have reached out for help. Sometimes people have too much stress, too many things going on, etc. they need support. It is okay to ask for help. I care what happens to you.:redbeathe

If you are in crisis, and feel like you might harm yourself you can also call 911. Please reach out for help, if you need it Lisa!:nurse:

I need to support my father financially and he is 81 years old, but there is no nursing jobs (R.N.) out there! I've cried a few times in the past 2 weeks and I'm so afraid that I might be ending up sleeping in the street with my father one day.

If not because of my father, I might have killed myself two weeks ago!

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yes agreed with most of the above - seek professional help for your thoughts on suicide.

there are programs to help your dad - contact the local resources in your area.

as for jobs- you may have to expand your search outside of hospitals and even outside the nursing field for the temporary moment

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Don't give up! I take care of my Autistic son which has made my search unbearable too. I can totally relate. I still keep on trucking... Some day someone will give me a chance as they will you.

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I want to add a comment to posters other than Lisa123: although I'm not in step with the tone of hat person poster, I absolutely agree with her sentiment.

To the posters who entreat Lisa123 to turn to god, I find your comments presumptuous and insensitive. It's one thing to offer her your prayers, if you believe that prayers will help and you are offering this out of the goodness of your heart. I always accept the prayers of well-meaning friends. But, it's another thing altogether to entreat the sufferer (in this case Lisa123) to turn to god herself. SHE has made no mention of her beliefs/has not shared her beliefs with any of us. I repeat. It's presumptuous and insensitive to hear another human's cry for help and ASSume that because it worked for you, 'it' (turning to god) will work for her. Although I think it may be healthy for each of us to share methods/suggestions that have worked for US, it's something altogether different, at the very least arrogant, to entreat her to assume your religious beliefs because they work for you. Religious beliefs AND lack thereof, are sacred and personal to each one of us and should never be treated as flippantly as that. I hope you all will learn to have more respect for the potential differences in others.

I don't post very often, but I had to give my thoughts on this one. The OP states in her original post that she is hopeless. People of faith are trying to give Lisa some hope and encouragement. What is wrong with that? Jesus said I will not leave you comfortless, I will send the comforter (Holy Ghost/Holy Spirit). The OP is receiving a lot of helpful information on this forum, I haven't read where you shot down any other advice except for about turning to God. Please don't take away any help or hope someone is trying to provide for her or any other participant on this forum.

In addition, I believe America is in the state that it is in, because of this very attitude. There are so many people ending it all because they have no hope. However, many are finding hope in God and HE is pulling them through their crisis by prompting others to help in the persons time of need. Whether it be spiritual, emotional, or physical support.

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Let's please keep this post about the Original Poster and her problems at hand offering support and encouragement and not turn this into a religious debate.

Thank You

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How exactly will Jesus help the OP? Will Jesus give the OP a job? Will Jesus take in the 81-year-old father?

Let me clarify: when I was out of work, broke, and deeply depressed, I got a lot of advice to "pray on it" and "Let go and let God" and "turn to Jesus". It didn't help.

WOW HARSH......everyone is just reaching out and giving their equivalent of a hug. So when you were in her shoes what did you do?

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