My husband said...

blizz108 · May 9, 2013

My BF is a professor and is completely aware of the rigors of education. Plus he'll be on sabbatical during a particularly grueling semester (for me) so he'll be available to do the "heavy lifting." Once school starts he knows he'll have to darn his own socks.

(Kidding. I've never darned a darn sock in my life.)

AzOhana · May 9, 2013

I have been a ft student/SAHM of 3 kids (12,11 & 5). I'm a cook, maid, taxi ect.... BUT this is all going to change. I start the nursing program on Monday, May 13 and punching my time card of all these duties. I'm actually spending time cleaning, doing laundry, grocery shopping these next few days. My husband and older kids know I won't be doing everything I have been doing for them, but I think it will be a shock when they realize how much I was doing.

Everyone has suggested to me to let it all go. Take care of my schooling and don't worry about these simple things that can distract me from studying and giving it my all.

traumanurse2b? · May 9, 2013

My husband told me the same thing, repeatedly. He has been deployed most of the past year so all he knows is what I tell him, and hes really been surprised to hear how crazy some of it has been. He comes home soon and will finally be able to help with the things I have had to do like mowing the yard, etc. and I cannot wait!

Madras · May 9, 2013

Mine - what your gonna work 7a-7p, who's gonna make dinner and put kiddo on and off the bus?! :nailbiting:

Ummmm... You. love it!

RN.Dreams · May 9, 2013

You can do it I started at 22 as a single mother of a 2.5 year old and no family support. If I can do it you can do it. Now I just got to pass the boards. Its hard but not impossible

Snowangel7390 · May 10, 2013

I can relate. I told my fiancee that there are going to be times in which I'm going to choose to stay home to study and I do not want to do anything else. He was not feelin' it.

BeenThereDoneThat74, MSN, RN · May 10, 2013

but maybe he's just saying that to ease your anxiety or he's just lazy

Or to ease his anxiety, because he realizes he's gonna have to step it up.

Lets be real though, no one who hasn't been through it can appreciate how hard it is. And like the OP said, she's been doing well, so he has no reason to believe this wont be the case going forward.

This thread is very timely for me, as I will be starting my PhD program in the fall. One of my senior colleagues gave me a pep-talk, and told me to have "the chat" with my husband about all this. Since he was not with me for my other degrees, it will be an adjustment. We met while I was in my last semester of my MSN, so there was none of this co-responsibility thing.

The good thing (if anyone sees it that way) is that I've never really been a Susie homemaker. I don't demand that my home be immaculate. Hubby does share the home responsibilities with me, and our child is a teenager. If I have the chat with him about how I won't be doing as much, he'll probably laugh and say "like you've really done much before"

i♥words · May 10, 2013

I live with my parents. :laugh:

zoe92 · May 10, 2013

Any thread that starts with "my husband said..." is going to be a good one! Lol

ArrowRN, BSN, RN · May 10, 2013

My husband said that he doesn't think nursing school is going to be as hard as I think it will be.
This was said after I told him come this fall he'd have to help with laundry/cooking dinner/taking kids to school.
Sink or swim, husband. Sink or swim.

:roflmao: hahaha...Let's see 5 hour reading, 4 hours doing assignments, 5 hour sleep(if u lucky) 8 hours of classes, 1 hour getting to class..so its 23 hours and that leaves 1 hour to bathe, brush you teeth, watch the kids, oh and eat, how could I forget that...lol.

I had a rant about this topic a few weeks ago because I was so stressed out, he should read my thread, its like I said...spouses got no idea what it takes.

SilenceintheLibrary · May 10, 2013

My hubby doesn't have a leg to stand on when it comes to expecting ANY kind of housework from me. I was a stay at home mom and I always had the house clean and dinner on the table when he came home. But he didn't appreciate it and actually resented me for "getting to sit around at home all day". We separated for a while and I moved home and have spent the last year juggling an LPN program while raising our son who just turned 3. I graduate in June and am planning to move back with him so we can work things out. If he thinks for a minute I am going to do all the housework while working I will probably bust a gut laughing at him. :roflmao:

FDW630 · May 10, 2013

My poor hubs...I'm on summer break but this week was a great example of how last semester went. My sister, who lives out of state, had major surgery this week so I left him with the kids and took a 4-day trip to stay with her. I left the house clean...dishes washed, plenty of clean clothes for all 3 of them, etc. I came home last night to huge pike of nasty, crusted dishes in both sides of the sink, dishwasher still not emptied, and just general crap piled everywhere. Welcome home, babe! :/