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My husband said that he doesn't think nursing school is going to be as hard as I think it will be.

This was said after I told him come this fall he'd have to help with laundry/cooking dinner/taking kids to school.

Sink or swim, husband. Sink or swim.

My hubby doesn't have a leg to stand on when it comes to expecting ANY kind of housework from me. I was a stay at home mom and I always had the house clean and dinner on the table when he came home. But he didn't appreciate it and actually resented me for "getting to sit around at home all day". We separated for a while and I moved home and have spent the last year juggling an LPN program while raising our son who just turned 3. I graduate in June and am planning to move back with him so we can work things out. If he thinks for a minute I am going to do all the housework while working I will probably bust a gut laughing at him. :roflmao:

Sadly my husband admitted he slightly resents me going back to school. I've come to far to stop now. He will have to deal with it. And what if something happens to him? How will I take care of myself and the kids? All husbands should like that their wives show independence, it takes a strong woman to raise a family and go back to school. My husband is a great man but older than I Am. He was raised in a time where his mom stayed home and did EVERYTHING while his dad worked. He's spoiled :-)

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My hubby doesn't have a leg to stand on when it comes to expecting ANY kind of housework from me. I was a stay at home mom and I always had the house clean and dinner on the table when he came home. But he didn't appreciate it and actually resented me for "getting to sit around at home all day". We separated for a while and I moved home and have spent the last year juggling an LPN program while raising our son who just turned 3. I graduate in June and am planning to move back with him so we can work things out. If he thinks for a minute I am going to do all the housework while working I will probably bust a gut laughing at him. :roflmao:

Umm, suggest you save yourself a whole lot of trouble and "work things out," and completely, before you move back in with him. Else nothing at all will change. Do not ask me how well I know this.

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I love this thread..... let me tell all of you a little about my situation. I got married very young (19) and didn't have a chance to finish school before we got married and started a family. We now have a 21 month old and a 6 month old and I got to school full time and an a SAHM. My husband seems to think that I don't do much when I'm home and I have it easy. The thing is I do most of the cleaning, all the cooking, take care of the kids, and do my homework while he is working. I told him that when I start the program in Aug. that he is going to have to help out some more. He acts like he knows but I don't think he fully understands how busy I will be.... we will see how it goes come Aug. Im a list person so I am going to make a list of things I will do and a list of things I need him to do. :)

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Umm, suggest you save yourself a whole lot of trouble and "work things out," and completely, before you move back in with him. Else nothing at all will change. Do not ask me how well I know this.

Wise words and very true! I spent 16 years married to a man who always promised he was going to change, but never did. Then he had the nerve to be shocked when I finally asked for a divorce. I put my career & educational aspirations on hold because he could never hold down a job. I ended up going to school and working 2 jobs while he sat around the house and literally did nothing. Finally, I had to quit school because I had to be the breadwinner of the family and pay the bills. He did NOTHING except lots of "I promise" this and "I'll change" that...never came to any fruition.

Then, my wonderful (now) husband enters my life, he asked me to marry him and move out to MI with him. I said "what am I going to do?" He said "why don't you go back to school and finally pursue your dream?" :D :D :D He's my angel and I'm so glad I married him.

My point is...things will never change with your ex if that's the way he is. A tiger doesn't change his stripes. Trust me. I fell for the "we can work it out" plea too many times. It always ended the same way. Everything went back to the way it was. Nothing really changed. It would start out promising, but it always ended up in the same disappointment.

So, as GrnTea said above, save yourself a whole lot of trouble and make sure it's all completely "worked out".

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I love this thread..... let me tell all of you a little about my situation. I got married very young (19) and didn't have a chance to finish school before we got married and started a family. We now have a 21 month old and a 6 month old and I got to school full time and an a SAHM. My husband seems to think that I don't do much when I'm home and I have it easy. The thing is I do most of the cleaning all the cooking, take care of the kids, and do my homework while he is working. I told him that when I start the program in Aug. that he is going to have to help out some more. He acts like he knows but I don't think he fully understands how busy I will be.... we will see how it goes come Aug. Im a list person so I am going to make a list of things I will do and a list of things I need him to do. :)[/quote']

Exactly!!!

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There are ways to do positive reinforcement, too. :)

This is the key in our household. The house is very clean.

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@ startingovragain --> Wow, you're a gem! Does your mom offer training courses? Yes, I would pay for my DH to attend!

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