10 months as An assistant nurse, still getting scolded.. so discouraging..

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I don't blame anybody for getting angry with me at all. I know why my colleagues get angry with me.

i feel so heartbroken and depressed for making some of my colleagues dislike me.

today a patient pressed the code blue. Everybody ran like crazy to the patient, all except for me. I stood there stunned not knowing what I should do once I reached there.

so I just stood there without running to the patient.

1) some part of me knew that the patient had pressed the wrong button because it always happens.

2) I was shocked and didn't know what to do.

so my colleague hit me on my back and scolded me: what are you doing!? U stand here like u are so lost!! , u didn't even go to the patient!!!!

I told her I'm sorry because I really didn't know what to do.

Since gossip spreads so fast, my other colleague who walked past me, she said: Makes me sooo angry.

Later on, the first colleague ignored me entirely even when I said bye to her.

i obviously know that shes angry and who wants to talk to someone who just pissed u off?

Just feel so heartbroken wondering when I will stop making anyone angry.

Even today the nurse who passed report passed so quickly because she hadn't had her lunch break at all, she passed so quick I didn't even hear some details. So later on my colleagues would remind me.

I hate to be this person that stresses people out.

Has anyone every encountered this? Sorry, I'm not seeking pity, just need some assurance and encouragement in this time

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.

When you call yourself assistant nurse, what do you mean? Are you a nursing assistant or a licensed nurse?

When the code was called, why did you stand still? Was it fear? Not sure what to do?

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I'm trying to understand something, so I looked at your other post from October in which you say you are fresh out of nursing school, but you posted that in the Medical Assistant/CNA forum. Do you mean that you are a nursing assistant?

Honestly, between that post and this one I think maybe you aren't so sure you want to be working in this field, am I right? You seem very unsure of yourself and while it's normal and expected for a new nurse OR new nursing assistant to be unsure of things you seem to be above and beyond that level of expectation. You seem to be really unhappy and uncomfortable in this setting. Something that you probably should address before worrying about specific incidents, whether or not you want to do this for a living. NO point in being unhappy for life if you have another option!

As for this situation, you stood there and didn't respond when it was expected you would do something to help. You can't blame the others for being unhappy with you on the unit if it is now known that you don't MOVE when there is a code. I do understand freezing but if you were new on the unit in October it's now been five months and you shouldn't be freezing in place anymore. They should be able to count on you to help, and you didn't.

Am I totally off base or do you think that maybe a change of environment is in order?

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At least if you had entered the room you could have taken direction from another. Continuing to freeze up can eventually result in adverse consequences. Getting to the root of your hesitation and working on a plan for improvement before you are called on the carpet may save your job whether you are a nurse or nursing assistant.

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The only thing you can work on are your own responses to stressful situations and difficult communication, start by learning assertive communication skills and practicing scenarios. The colleague who hit you on your back, physically assaulted you, it was not your fault, do not accept being hit or make excuses for someone who hits.

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Your coworkers sound like characters. Hitting you? Unacceptable. Giving you the silent treatment? Unprofessional.

However, you really need to figure out why you froze. Was it anxiety? Confusion? No matter what healthcare setting you end up in, you will still be expected to help in emergencies, even though the capacity and frequency will vary.

It's unfortunate because the workplace you're in is clearly toxic. It's not going to a good place to work on your roadblocks. Give some reflection as to why you didn't help. If it seems like something you can work and overcome, that's great but you'll still probably need a new job. If it's something you can't pinpoint or not confident will change, there's no shame in looking for another line of work. I'm sure you have other talents and interests to be used elsewhere.

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Are you a CNA or an RN? Based on your last post, it appears your "Asian" family chose nursing for you. If your heart is not in this profession, you'll never be happy or satisfied with your life. You cannot just go through the motions in this field. You have to actually be present mentally as well as physically.

Maybe its time to have a discussion with your family.

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I'm an assistant nurse. Thank you so much for giving me some advices. They are all greatly appreciated í ½í²—

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.
I'm an assistant nurse. Thank you so much for giving me some advices. They are all greatly appreciated ������

I still don't know what an assistant nurse is. Oh well, glad you got some good advice.

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Your focus is on the wrong issue. You're worried about what you can do to make your coworkers like you. You should be worried about what you can do to provide safe patient care. Coincidentally, it sounds like providing safe patient care will make your coworkers respect you more.

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I'm an assistant nurse. Thank you so much for giving me some advices. They are all greatly appreciated ������

if you are working in the United States, you are a nursing assistant, not an assistant nurse. This might seem like an unimportant difference but actually it is important. You said you got out of nursing school in October and if this is true you either have passed the NCLEX-RN and are now a licensed nurse or you have not, and are not a nurse. Maybe you just incorrectly identified a nursing assistant or MA program as a nursing program, and I can't begin to describe the massive difference between the two. You, however, really should be aware of that.

Just trying to save you some grief because if you call yourself an assistant nurse it implies that you are a licensed nurse who is working in some kind of assistant capacity, and you are not. You are an aide, but not a nurse, and that distinction does matter. Maybe especially at this time, because you are not displaying the behavior one expects of a licensed nurse. You get off the hook, so to speak, by being an aide, and maybe one who is just not well suited to the work. A licensed nurse doesn't get the same Pass at this point, so enjoy the unlicensed status lol!

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Hmm.. it's enrolled nurse

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