Mamma's Boys (vent)

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Hey - is anyone else seeing this trend? We have had a run of late 30's males who still live at home with "Mommy" -their words not mine - who dote on them hand and foot and expect us to do the same. We had 2 recently - one of which was sooooooooo non-compliant with his care, refusing to move a muscle that he requested to have a foley placed instead of moving to pee. He has had multiple surgeries to repair a fx mandible that he received in a fight - this one was the last straw and they had to do a bone graft from his hip. He literally wanted me to put the meds in his mouth (both arms worked fine). The docs knew him very well and refused the foley - I and O ok, pt not happy with that - since WHEN does a young guy WANT a catheter.... They said he was a malingerer and will stay forever if allowed, has a hx of being abusive to nurses. Pain was an issue, but WAS well controlled - he has been caught forging several perscriptions. NO one will touch him regarding pain control -our pain specialists washed their hands of him, except his primary care dr - who doesn't understand why everyone else thinks he is drug seeking. On top of this - Mommy calls every couple of hours to see how "baby" is doing - she calls directly to his room and gets everything stirred up again, after we got everything under control. UGH!!!!

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
Wow - guess I hit a nerve! Tweety - you are so right - there are lazy pts from both genders. I just couldn't believe how many "Momma's Boys" we got last week - it was amazing! You would be in doing something with them - then here comes the phone call and the pt - a big, late 30ies, not working at all, living at home answer the phone like at 5y/o "oh, HIIIIII MOMMY!"

The funniest thing about the catheter, was after getting on him all night long to do SOMETHING for himself - he actually had the gall (would say b*lls, but don't think he has any) to ask for a bolus from his PCA before I straight cathed him! I had actually just bolused him for something else and this hit my last nerve - He wouldn't even move his eyes to see the clock - so whether it was professional or not, I basically told him to suck it up and be a man (in a therapeutic way of course - :rolleyes: ) - he could pee - just refused! We are a limited stay unit and the guy has been there over a WEEK! - I for one am praying that he will be HISTORY by the time I return on sunday!

I guess maybe a quarter of a nerve was hit. There are plenty of mamma's boys out there and they are quite irritating and dramatic. I think they are worse with female nurses than with me.

But I haven't noticed an trend over time that they are more of them than in the past.

Off topic. Ever notice though trends in your units? Right now we have a lot of respiratory patients, last week we had a lot of GIB's and gave like 20 units of blood one shift, then it will be liver problems, etc. Funny. Maybe it's time for a run of mamma's boys?

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Specializes in Case Management, Acute Care, Missions.

Your so right Tweety - and what makes it more interesting is that one day you will have a thought of "hmmmm - haven't seen (insert dx here) for a while" Then BAMMM! You get a run of them. I am not a supersititious person - but working in a hospital is sure makes you wonder!

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Specializes in Medical/Surgical.

It's not just guys in their 30s....it's the twentysomethings too...been there...dated that....won't date it again lol :chuckle

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Pediatrics, Home Health.

We had one at clinical Wednesday. 30, girlfriend sprawled on the foot of the bed, laying across his hips and legs. He had a lap GB 3 SMALL incisions and whne we got him up to walk, he b****** his head off. It hurt, he didn't want to get up, how come we were torturing him?

I went in to get 1100 vitals one hr after the 50 ft. walk and asked him to rate his pain => 6. B/P was elevated and his temp was 99. I tried to count resp. and listen to apical at same time but he kept holding his breath!!! :mad: I told the RN that I got 6-8 on the R but that it had to be more like 16 cause he didn't have any problems complaining and LOUDLY!!

Anyway, it is good for me to get these pts. early so I will know how to deal with them after I become an RN!! :D

I had an 60 something lady in JRC who acted the same way. She didn't want to walk after her knee replacement, didn't like her food, refused to stay in the little dining room and eat with all the other Joint replacement pts. was convinced that her life was over because she didn't have all her original parts.Oh yah, didn't like her recliner chair cause it was a different color and not as nice as everyone else's. Just a regular joy to be around.

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A story that is...not a momma's boy

I worked with a girl who dated a guy who lived with his mother at 33 years old. She was an RN and was always convincing him he was sick and should stay home instead of seeing Jill. She said she was there to meet him for dinner and his mother gave him two teaspoons of cough medicine in front of her and was ironing his shirt for their date.

She stopped returning his calls when he casually mentioned that she gives him enemas to "clean him out" and he thought it was ok because she was a nurse

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Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

There's some that i just want to ask "Pardon me, did you know that the umbilical cord is usually cut at birth?"

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Your so right Tweety - and what makes it more interesting is that one day you will have a thought of "hmmmm - haven't seen (insert dx here) for a while" Then BAMMM! You get a run of them. I am not a supersititious person - but working in a hospital is sure makes you wonder!

When I was working on my speech pathology degree, I had asked a NICU nurse how many babies were born with cleft lip/palate during a typical month. She said, not very often, but when they do, they can usually count on having 3 of them at one time.

Strange things like that usually run in three's.

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She stopped returning his calls when he casually mentioned that she gives him enemas to "clean him out" and he thought it was ok because she was a nurse

Oh, now that would do it for me, too!! Ick!

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Don't you just hate mama's peoples?? Have more than 2 dozen mama's girls who frequent the ED with chronic PID, multiple pregnacies, poly-substance abuse, who hate their parents, but still live at home; BUT, they still see the guys and gals who knocked their teeth out, gave them an STD, made them preggers.....gotta' love these "mama's girls"...

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She stopped returning his calls when he casually mentioned that she gives him enemas to "clean him out" and he thought it was ok because she was a nurse

OH, THAT IS SICK! :imbar

Thank you for tonight's nightmare... :)

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LOL

She also did all of his laundry and cooked him dinner each night...so she was told not to call during "their dinner". I could tell so many anecdotes from that brief affair.

I know the mother told her that "these days men do not go out into the world until they are 36 or 37"

Is it stuffy up in that attic Norman Bates????

Ewww! blaaa! :uhoh21:

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"God forbid I will put a GUN TO MY HEAD BEFORE I ASK MY SON OR MY HUSBAND TO WIPE MY BUTT---AS GOD IS MY WITNESS...."

I just finished reading "Tuesdays With Morrie" by Mitch Albom. I highly recommend it.

steph

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