OB Rotation is Hell - page 4

I am a male nursing student. I am doing well in school overall and acing my Med surg rotations--However, my OB rotation is pure hell! i feel useless and out of place. They tossed me out of a Birthing... Read More

  1. by   eccentricRN
    Quote from Arwen_U
    I would have to disagree with that. I distinctly remember while laboring with my son telling the MD (who happened to be female, just by chance) that I didn't care who was in the room with me, as long as they were helpful. I told her that if Pres. Bush walked in, I'd ask him to hold a leg.

    Seriously. Most of us don't care at the time.
    AMEN... by the time I was ready to push I didn't care who was in the room I just wanted that baby outta there!!!
  2. by   danh3190
    I start the OB/Peds rotation on Feb 25.

    Don't know whether to dread it or not.
  3. by   mcbismark
    Quote from danh3190
    I start the OB/Peds rotation on Feb 25.

    Don't know whether to dread it or not.
    Dreading it isn't going to help; look forward to it as a learning experience....
    You'll either get excluded or included.
    If excluded just make sure you know what you need to do to pass.
    If included you'll be too busy learning to worry about it...

    Good luck!
  4. by   manofcare

    I'm telling you. Walk in, put gloves on and do everyting you can to help your preceptor. If you slink to the outside walls, the staff or pt will ask you to leave. This is a time when being timid is definitely to your disadvantage.
  5. by   carolinapooh
    Quote from algebra_demystified

    And then we get the bizzle from couplet care who walks around with this smug look on her face because she can shut me out of breastfeeding instruction.
    Hope I'm not crashing your forum (I'm a girl!) but that's utterly (udderly? HA HA!) ridiculous. I've NEVER given birth, yet I was expected to give breast feeding instruction. Now I felt qualified just based on what I'd been taught, and I feel as though I know what I'm talking about - but please - what do I know about let-down reflex if I've never experienced it?

    My point is - what the h-e-double hockey sticks makes YOU any different? What a load of crap! :icon_roll

    I'm totally in your corner here, guys. If I was pregnant, and went into sudden labor in a shopping mall, I would feel JUST as safe if the ONLY person who stopped to help me (if only to keep me calm until EMS could arrive) was a guy (no matter what age) who came up to me and said, "Don't worry, ma'am, I'm a nurse - I'll be here with you". And if he looked to see if the head was out - I"m really not going to care one way or the other.

    The ONE guy in my class (only one, poor thing) is the world's best teddy bear - he had 51 little sisters (even though about half of us were older than him!) for 16 months. If I'd been pregnant, I would have rather had HIM in my delivery than several of the chicks in my class.

    ROLL ON MEN IN NURSING!!! I'm a former military girl and I love working with guys because: (1) you don't get caught up in the female BS (and you know what I mean); (2) I can have it out with one of my guy friends and we can still go have a beer after work - you know where you stand with a true male friend moreso than SO many women I know, (3) you KEEP IT REAL, and (4) when I do confide in a male friend about the goofy one I married, he always tells me straight up if I'm blowing it without blowing smoke up my butt.

    Just my guys, not trying to crash your thread here! :typing

    OH YEAH: PS - regarding the idiot instructor who told the guy he shouldn't be allowed in the rotation - DID SHE TELL THE MALE DOCTORS TO LEAVE? Would she tell a MALE INTERN that? Sexist cow (sorry!). If a male instructor told a female she shouldn't be allowed to do testicular exams or give instruction on male sexual dysfunction, he'd be sued for sexual harassment/discrimination/any other charge her lawyer could come up with.
    Last edit by carolinapooh on Feb 12, '08
  6. by   Batman24
    Female here and pre-req nursing student to boot. I wouldn't have a problem with a male student/male nurse taking care of me. As long as they were professional and kind I would be okay with it. Trust me there are some female nurses I wouldn't let touch me with a 10 foot pole.
  7. by   Batman24
    Quote from piezo-electricite
    I'm in OB and guess what? I'm either the celophane man (invisible) or a total pariah (not allowed in L/D, etc.). The only place that is reasonably good is the NICU. It's me and two other guys in the group. The instructor, thank goodness, is very kind and understanding. She said: "you know what guys: just try to get through, I'll make it as smooth as possible for you. OB is not for male nurses, we all know that...just hang in there"!
    Good luck to you.!.

    She might be nice, but that's a sexist thing to say. You have every right to go into OB if you so desire. You will be a RN same as the rest of us. It should be your choice.

    I do believe preceptors are part of the problem here as their approach of the patient that will set the tone. I've read that some say, "You don't want a male student, right" which will usually have the patient agree with them. They could say, "This is Mike. He will be your student nurse today." If the patient has a problem they will say so. If they don't and the male student senses their discomfort they can remove themselves from the situation. It is all about professionalism and kindness.
  8. by   fubeca003
    I start my OB rotation next week and I am not looking forward to it at all. It is a five week rotation and I am afraid it will be pure hell. I guess it is one of those things we all have to go through. Maybe I will feel different when my wife has her baby?
  9. by   Thedreamer
    My L&D experience was amazing. Yes I had nurses even being cold to me simply because I was a male invading thier unit. But if i got placed with such a nurse I simply told the CN that I needed to be reassigned to someone willing to teach me.

    And I was.

    The nurses were amazing to me because they saw I was there to learn. Even if the patient refused to have me in the room during birth or more intimate care, they still allowed me to monitor the FHR and do other care for them.

    In the end I saw two C-Secs and 1 Vaginal delivery in my rotation, and learned so much more about Pre-partum and post partum!
  10. by   NeuroNP
    Quote from manofcare

    I'm telling you. Walk in, put gloves on and do everyting you can to help your preceptor. If you slink to the outside walls, the staff or pt will ask you to leave. This is a time when being timid is definitely to your disadvantage.
    I agree. I just finished my OB rotation and it's been my favorite so far. I won't be working in OB, but I really did enjoy it. I do plan on working in the NICU and I got to spend one day there, but I really loved the deliveries. I think I got to be in more deliveries than anyone else in my group. I didn't have a single patient refuse to let me do anything. In fact, none of them even acted at all uncomfortable (even when I put in Foleys - of course, that was probably due to the epidural. :-)).

    You've just got to get in there, don't wait around for someone to tell you what to do, ask. Just be professional and that goes a long way towards making people feel comfortable and let you watch/do things.

    In fact, the only time in nursing school that I've had a woman refuse to let me do something was on Med-Surg when a woman refused to let me give a flu shot. She was ok with a student, just not a MALE student.
  11. by   mcbismark
    Quote from bryanboling5

    In fact, the only time in nursing school that I've had a woman refuse to let me do something was on Med-Surg when a woman refused to let me give a flu shot. She was ok with a student, just not a MALE student.
    Now that is just plain funny! Anybody but a male... for a flu shot...

    Congrats to you; hope my time goes as well as yours (got an email yesterday that said I was accepted to the partner ABSN at UA in Tucson).

  12. by   NursingGuyVG
    OK... for my first-ever post here, I'll relate what no doubt is not a unique story... but for my clinical group 2 semesters ago, it was pretty funny.

    First day on the OB floor at a small community hospital (which itself was in fear of being taken over by a big conglomerate but ended up being rejected); three - count 'em -- three patients for 8 students. OH, but that's the way it goes with OB, right? Anyway, the instructor, herself an officer of the local Le Leche League chapter, pairs us up for the day, so two students in the nursery, the other 6 for the three patients on the floor at the time. Now, I'm the only male in the group. My partner and I get this really nice lady who just came in about an hour ago, and as they're trying to get the doctor on the floor for her, get her started in labour (at which time her water had broken but she wasn't too far dilated yet), her mother-in-law was in the room with her, but no husband. Didn't think anything of it, myself and my partner, we continued to help out, get stuff we were asked to get, and generally made fumbling nuisances out of ourselves (ah, happy days ).

    Fast forward a couple of HOURS... and by this time she's pretty much dilated and ready to go, in walks her husband followed closely behind by the doctor. Now, realise my partner & I have been helping out, IN the room, no problems at all from the mom-to-be and the mother-in-law about having a male SN in the room... the husband takes one look at me in the room with the rest of the staff (all female) and after my partner and I left to take care of something, our instructor pulled me aside and told me the husband came out and told the charge nurse, quote, "I don't want no man in there with my wife." This, I was told, was the husband's exact sentence (since both the charge nurse and the instructor seemed to take a wonderfully light-hearted view of the apparent mismatch between the wife's more cosmopolitan demeanor compared to the rather backcountry "wadin' boots & huntin' rifle" appearance of the husband. Needless to say, I was pretty much 'kicked out' of the first patient's room I encountered! Apparently the husband didn't take into account that BOTH the doctor, and the resident who was monitoring his wife before the doctor arrived, were both MALE.

    And so, there you have it. So, any 'nursing-guy' who hasn't hit his OB clinical rotation yet, my advice is don't sweat the small stuff. Take it both seriously from the point of view of learning all you can about the specialty, and light-hearted from the point of view of realising that your patients' family members will probably have a more dim view of your presence than anyone else, including the patients themselves... they're there to get rid of the pain of childbirth, and I doubt very much that they care as much as their family does who's in the room, and what their gender is.

    ~ NursingGuy
  13. by   smellya
    Wow its been a pretty funny read. When I was a hospital corpsman in the navy. I was on comb ob, mother baby ward for around 3 years. I think the worst thing was helping a mom with breastfeeding with implants. Then her husband was like half a foot away from me. I was more nervous then they were about it. I think its all about how comfortable you are with them.

    In the 3 years I did it. I only had one pt that did not want me to take care of them. Hell get it over with it will be done before you know it.