Being Gay and a Male Nursing Student - page 4

I'm aware that the words 'Gay' and 'Nursing' may somehow go hand-and-hand for some, and others may find it comical, but I've found it quite uncomfortable being gay and a male, nursing student simply... Read More

  1. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from GonnaBanRN2
    My one hang up about nursing is the vast majority of women in the field (I'm a woman by the way!) as a general rule we tend to breed cattiness and gossip when we're in large numbers. I'm very excited about the idea of having men on the floor with me too just to break it up! It absolutely doesn't matter gay or straight... A guy is a guy!!
    And here we go with the misogyny again.
  2. by   SoHappyToBeRN
    Misogynist: a person who hates women. (according to websters dictionary)

    Tell me how stating that women tend to be more dramatic makes me HATE my own gender?! A bit over the top don't you think?! Then again you are a woman right? I Should have known... I rest my case
  3. by   Ruby Vee
    [/QUOTE GonnaBanRN2]My one hang up about nursing is the vast majority of women in the field (I'm a woman by the way!) as a general rule we tend to breed cattiness and gossip when we're in large numbers. I'm very excited about the idea of having men on the floor with me too just to break it up! It absolutely doesn't matter gay or straight... A guy is a guy!!

    Statements attributing negative stereotypes such as cattiness and and gossip to one gender above the other tend to be biased. And since you're biased against women, they're misogynistic. Unfortunately, misogyny is pretty prevalent on this website, despite the fact that the majority of users are probably female.
  4. by   SoHappyToBeRN
    Well I say that we can agree to disagree, i see what you are saying and while i disagree with your sentiment you have the right to your own opinion. I do not think that saying women tend to be dramatic and catty (any one who has been around some women in large groups would agree with that, unless they have had better luck than i have) makes me a misogynistic woman, i see it as seeing women as flawed just like men. But feel free to judge all youd like, i dont mind. I also wont be messaging back and forth on here like this because id rather not fill the mens forum with drama...Have a good night!!
  5. by   Esme12
    This thread is about being Gay and being a nursing student....let's remember to stick to the topic.
  6. by   veggie530
    I find it odd that gay dudes have a hard time in nursing or get treated differently. I'd think it'd remove the awkwardness of being outnumbered 4:1 or 5:1 with potential mates, lol. As a straight guy sometimes I feel like the red carpet is being rolled out for me for unprofessional reasons... and other times the rug is being pulled out from under me for unprofessional reasons. I'd hope for the sake of you guys that being gay would alleviate some of that.

    That being said, it doesn't matter what your worldview is or your personal characteristics as long as you can exhibit professionalism.
  7. by   brian1988
    I don't see a lot gay bashing in my community. Stay focused and become a nurse. Too much effort is wasted when you worry about what others think.....invest the time into learning.
  8. by   YourSoulVain
    Hey, there. I'm Austin and I'm a pre-nursing student with anywhere between a day and a week before I get my nursing acceptance letter. It's so close that I can feel my blood racing lol. I've been looking around at the different threads and I was looking for different information for and from male nurses and with my being gay, this one snagged my attention.

    In my personal experience, I have been in classes with a healthcare-focus for my entire upper education. I was never really in a situation where sharing my sexual orientation to someone was necessary until I started to get close to my classmates. Most were fine with it, but others INSTANTLY repelled me like the plague. My physiology-lab partner of over 7 months literally told me I was disgusting and moved her seat across the room and never spoke to me again lol. My blood was boiling, but I thought it was hilarious. One of the issues with healthcare is that the providers are often religious (not that being religious is an issue, but more of the fact that the two being intertwined can impact the care we provide). Her religion told her to run away from me lol. Obviously everyone is different, but I have never been treated like that by an instructor or mentor. I have to deal with my peers more often than anyone else. The higher up you get, management cares about your care, not your personal life.
  9. by   bradleystacks
    I have nothing against gay nurses as long as they are doing there job accordingly. Professionalism must be observed in the work area so that the balance and respect is there.
    Last edit by JustBeachyNurse on Oct 9, '12 : Reason: ToS
  10. by   kylestimenow
    So far the only people in my program that know I'm gay is the one girl I went to high school with. She might have told a few of her friends in the program, but they haven't said anything to me or anyone else about it. I'm not afraid to be out in the program (it'd make things a whole lot easier for me) but I have to keep it a secret from my roommate. There's no way I could afford to live by myself, and I don't have anyone else to help me. I don't want to scare him off, in case he reacted poorly. If it wasn't for him, I'd be out and proud. If someone reacted poorly, screw 'em! They don't know what they're missing out on by getting to know me.
  11. by   NurseEric81
    Quote from RShieldsSN14
    Now that I think about it, the women do seem cling to me and entrust me with very personal things. Sometimes too personal! Lol! )
    You too?? I am not even 2 months into my BSN program and already know wayyyyyy too much about those female NS students I have come out to!! I feel ya there!! It's gonna be a looong two years!! :-)
  12. by   adam1972
    When I first started in my program i wasn't sure what to expect from my peers in regards to my being gay. By the end of my first semester i had learned there was 3 other gay males in my class and 9 straight males in a class size of 60. Even though my school is in a very homophobic region of Tx (or that coversthe most ofof the,my class mates and the nurses i work with in clinicals have all been fine with my sexuality. I find that your competance and confidence are far more important in nursing than your sexuality. Just focus on being the best nurse you can be and your peers will respect you and your sexuality will be the last thing on thier minds
    Last edit by adam1972 on Oct 10, '12 : Reason: spelling
  13. by   MisfitSN
    So far so good; floor nurses don't make an issue of it if they are aware since I'm just another student on the unit. Such things aren't discussed with my profs; it just isn't a subject that professionals concern themselves with. As for my classmates; the girls were very interested in figuring me out. I really wanted to keep all aspects of my personal life to myself, but with making friends and helping each other through the program of course it has come up that I am bisexual and have an amazing boyfriend . The other male students don't have an issue with it either and I am still just as good friends with them as the female students. I find that if you are honest and unapologetic about yourself then others will often have respect for your surety in who you are.

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