this is kind of a long drawn out ordeal, but i really need some advice. my husband and i have had this chick stalking us for the last year (such as calling his workplace repeatedly, parking down the street from his family's houses, trying to get to know people she knows i'm friends with etc.) she's an ex-girlfriend from way back. she was the type to psychologically abuse someone til they end up in therapy. well, i've minded my own business and assume she's lacking maturity so i've not even associated with her in anyway until recently. she found out where i'm working and *big surprise* got a job there as a cmt. as soon as i found out, i forewarned my supervisors that she'd been harassing me for a long period of time. my DON played the 'sympathetic' role and said she would advise this girl that she was to count with other nurses and could not speak to me for any reason. also that she would be terminated at the very start of any trouble from her. ok, that sounds fine in theory, but as soon as she hit the floor she looked for any little insignificant reason to speak to me ("i don't understand how to sign out ABT's from the E-kit" etc). it's been nonstop. the other day, i'd just absolutely had it when she came up to me and began telling me how to do my job (when i'm her supervisor!). i assumed she was trying to get me to lose my temper so i would be the one to get in trouble. i simply told her to "stop speaking to me and go away". i had to spend an hour in the ADON's office having a freaking nervous breakdown because i can't handle the tension of the whole situation anymore. my DON's answer to the problem was to have a nurse's meeting to clear the air. i stated up front that i felt like they were putting me in a position to either put up with the abuse or find a different job, which of course she categorically denied. she's defending this med tech tooth and nail over everything. right down to rationalizing as to why she calls me at the facility on her days off. i'm worried that my license and more importantly, my family's well-being could be at stake here. my husband thinks we should get a restraining order, but it'd be hard to do without concrete proof. i loved my job before she came and i've been with the facility for 2 years. i don't feel i should have to leave, but my DON has me in the position to where it seems i'll have to. does anyone have any ideas on how to handle this?? i feel completely lost. sorry for venting guys.
Mar 26, '05
Quote from Marie_LPN
The main problem with getting another job is that the stalker could quite easily follow her there. She shouldn't have to job-hop to avoid her, either.
That would prove that the stalker was actually stalking her, if the stalker followed her from one job to another.
That's why I recommended it.
And no, she shouldn't have to job-hop, but we all know people who've worked in such dysfunctional situations that we feared for our licenses, so we left.
To me, working with a person such as this puts her in a potentially dangerous situation and she should make every effort to make it clear that she is not encouraging or participating in the situation.
Last edit by UM Review RN on Mar 26, '05