Boarding - two 16yr old girls going to Paris in a party via train with 18 boys. Usual result is 16 disappointed boys, and two distraught girls.
Girl A is going out with Boy A who is celebrating his 18th. Girl B is best friend of Girl A, and this will be her first trip away.
My role - nurse, but also parent in 'loco-parentis'
I know students very well. I know the hurt that often happens on trip. I know parents usually have no idea what goes on during such trips. These trips happen every year, and I'm left to pick up the pieces, whether it be intoxicated/drugged kid in ICU, head injury, or some other nasty surprise.
I call parents of girl A to make sure they are aware daughter is with 18 boys. Rationale, I'm a parent and I know my father would never have let my sister go on such a trip. Also figuring out my role as i'm considered a nurse and a parent.
What do I do, - I call father of girl A who gets angry, tells me off, says he trusts his daughter. Due to the angry reaction, I don't call the parents of Girl B
Result - girl B and girl A are in my office on monday morning, trying to figure out if girl B has been raped.
Boyfriend of girl A had a best friend who booked a room in hotel forhimself as well as girl B, and girl B felt she had to share a room/bed with him because she had left the booking up to the boys, and along with alcohol, eventually consented, but now not so sure.
It's not always easy figuring out what the best thing too do.
Actually, the point of this post was not about sex (but if you see it about sex, that's fine) but about trying to figure out the right thing and figuring out my role as a nurse, and a parent in 'loco-parentis'
What do you mean, what is your role? Are you really serious? If you have a girl in your office who believes she might have been rape, call the police. She needs to go to the ER and have a rape kit done on her. You're a school nurse and you don't know that?
What do you mean, what is your role? Are you really serious? If you have a girl in your office who believes she might have been rape, call the police. She needs to go to the ER and have a rape kit done on her. You're a school nurse and you don't know that?
Personally, I think you are trying to wind us up.
This.
What I also understand is the OP's continuation of sparking such discussion with such a warped slant that it almost borders on offensive, instead of initially being neutral enough to incite meaningful dialogue; when he doesn't get the responses that he initially wants, he goes into full flouncing mode of "where's the compassion from fellow nurses?"
OP, maybe all that time you spent lecturing young men about the evils of Media would have been better spent talking about consent and how no woman ever owes them sex for any reason. Although I shudder to think what that conversation would look like, considering all your excuses about how boys mixed with alcohol and hormones can lead to sexual assault... but apparently the boys committing said assaults aren't "bad"? Here's a hint, in any country (since you make everything about the USA vs the rest of the world), rapists are bad people. The end. Full stop. Having sex with a girl who is too drunk to consent to sex is rape.
Specializes in Mental Health, Gerontology, Palliative.
Might already have been done, but maybe my humor/style/angle aren't for the American market
I enjoyed your first one. Having did my training at what I suspect was the first hospital you worked at it was rather interesting trying to figure out if there were any nurses I might have known
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What do you mean, what is your role? Are you really serious? If you have a girl in your office who believes she might have been rape, call the police. She needs to go to the ER and have a rape kit done on her. You're a school nurse and you don't know that?
Personally, I think you are trying to wind us up.