Letter to the Offended

Nurses General Nursing

Published

Dear offended people of all ages,

We are not talking about you. When you read a "vent" post, please note the use of such words and phrases as "some", "not all" and "exceptions". Based on the posts I read from you detailing your long, hard struggle through life to get where you are today, I can categorically say that without exception YOU are the reason we do not say "all" and "everyone". You are the role models for the "some" who's thoroughly unacceptable behavior we are talking about!!

If a vent contains keywords that grab your attention - it's because it just so happens that a lot of people haven't learned the word "moderation" that you have. If you have a very tasteful piercing or tat, a light spritz of body spray, a bit of blush and mascara, a flattering scrub top, or any other obviously normal thing, there really is no need to rush to the defense of that person who wants to wear 3 pounds of hardware on their body, douse themselves with Axe or Pear/Honeysuckle oil, or do up their eyes like Liza Minnelli in Cabaret., or have a hot pink whale tail thong peeking out the top of her low-risers.

If a vent contains criticism of parents who use their children as an excuse to slack at work, we are not talking about your child that has a 104 temp and is making a hideous rasping noise when he breathes! Go take care of your child! Please! We arent't talking about you!!I really can think of more of these - maybe others can relate to this - Instead of getting Offended on behalf of the people who make you look bad because you happen to share a characteristic with them - a bit of guidance to steer them in the right direction or a "this is how I did it" thread would be a lot more helpful than your story wedged into a thread that is not talking about you.

Lest anyone get offended because the examples above normally apply to younger people - the same applies to the behavior of us oldsters as well. Thank you for reading.

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.
You may be right. I am a newbie to this blog.:cool:

We have a lot of back and forth here about how to structure the boards and crossover posting based on education and specialty. I think there is a pretty good balance between a total free-for-all and very restricted as some have suggested having to register with your license# to post in the nurse forums. It works out pretty well most of the time. We try to build bridges, too. Don't let my post scare you away. :)

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

This thread is cracking me up! :hhmth: ****SNORT****

Dear offended people of all ages,

We are not talking about you. When you read a "vent" post, please note the use of such words and phrases as "some", "not all" and "exceptions". Based on the posts I read from you detailing your long, hard struggle through life to get where you are today, I can categorically say that without exception YOU are the reason we do not say "all" and "everyone". You are the role models for the "some" who's thoroughly unacceptable behavior we are talking about!!

If a vent contains keywords that grab your attention - it's because it just so happens that a lot of people haven't learned the word "moderation" that you have. If you have a very tasteful piercing or tat, a light spritz of body spray, a bit of blush and mascara, a flattering scrub top, or any other obviously normal thing, there really is no need to rush to the defense of that person who wants to wear 3 pounds of hardware on their body, douse themselves with Axe or Pear/Honeysuckle oil, or do up their eyes like Liza Minnelli in Cabaret., or have a hot pink whale tail thong peeking out the top of her low-risers.

If a vent contains criticism of parents who use their children as an excuse to slack at work, we are not talking about your child that has a 104 temp and is making a hideous rasping noise when he breathes! Go take care of your child! Please! We arent't talking about you!!I really can think of more of these - maybe others can relate to this - Instead of getting Offended on behalf of the people who make you look bad because you happen to share a characteristic with them - a bit of guidance to steer them in the right direction or a "this is how I did it" thread would be a lot more helpful than your story wedged into a thread that is not talking about you.

Lest anyone get offended because the examples above normally apply to younger people - the same applies to the behavior of us oldsters as well. Thank you for reading.

I can't BELIEVE you would talk about me like this.

Specializes in M/S, MICU, CVICU, SICU, ER, Trauma, NICU.

:yeah:AAAAAAmen....

AAAAAAAMEN....

AAAAAAmen..amen...amen.....:yeah:

:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe.

Nurses always eat their hot pink whale tail thonged young....

Kindergarten. How old are you again?

Specializes in FNP.

I have always thought the very fact that we even have to discuss the thong issue speaks volumes about nursing, and not in a good way. I cannot picture a bunch of circuit court judges sitting around debating thongs under judicial robes.

Specializes in med-surg, mother-baby.

I dont think the problem is that nurses wear thongs...heck, you could wear butt-less leather chaps under your scrubs for all I care! The problem is when you wear hot-pink whale thongs that ride up over your scrubs pants, or show THROUGH the pants...that is not professional at all...

how would you like it if i start a thread with the heading "nurses > 40/50."

and say something like they are lazy because they have been nursing for a while and they like to eat their young and they are crabby all the time. then say something like yeah i've been noticing this in my unit and some of my friends agree.

hmm...?

we would say atta girl, but that would be so lame.be original- start a topic of your own.

lol, i'm only instigating...got time on my hands.:D

Specializes in Rodeo Nursing (Neuro).

So, if I were to post "I've noticed that some black people aren't very smart," no smart black people should be offended? BS. I've posted things that others have found offensive. Generally, I haven't felt they were the ones at fault. Admittedly, we all have a choice whether to take offense. We also have a choice whether to go on an international forum to whine and gripe about some particular class of people. And while my hypothetical example is undeniably true--black people obviously do cover the same broad spectrum of intelligence as any other humans--the modifier "some" does not diminish the bigotry implied by the adjective "black." Whether or not it says so explicitly, the implication is that blacks are somehow different than others.

So, what exactly is the goal of these vent posts? Should one only respond if one agrees? Are the posters actually surprised when some take offense? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying every post that begins, "This is a vent," is a useless waste of bandwidth. Just "some" of them.

Specializes in Rodeo Nursing (Neuro).
how would you like it if i start a thread with the heading "nurses > 40/50."

and say something like they are lazy because they have been nursing for a while and they like to eat their young and they are crabby all the time. then say something like yeah i've been noticing this in my unit and some of my friends agree.

hmm...?

hey, now--you forgot to say "some."

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

nursemike, refer to OP #1 :lol2:

+ Add a Comment