Just got accepted into LPN program, but I have 2 pending misdemeanor charges

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My boyfriend and I got pulled over (I was the driver) because my car had an expired registration. The officer who pulled me over noticed that the passenger side smelled of marijuana. Long story short, my car was impounded, then searched. They found less than 20g of marijuana and a pipe. They charged both my boyfriend and I for possession of a controlled dangerous substance and possession of drug paraphernalia.

This is would be my boyfriend's second offense. If I take the full blame, this would be my first and only offense. Prior to this, my record was completely clean. Because of this, I was advised by my boyfriend, and somewhat, my lawyer to take the blame since I would be able to get a conditional discharge and expungement with probation.

I just got accepted into an LPN program and I envisioned this to be a much happier time, but now all I feel is disappointment and anxiety because my place in the program may get taken away when I go through the background check. I have to fill in my paperwork and background check information on June 10th, but my court date (postponed twice because lab results were not in from the evidence) is not until the 18th. I will have a clean drug test, no doubt. I gyro guess what I would like to know is, should I tell the program director now, before I go through the background checks? This is just really, really bad luck for me. I wish the situation was completely different. :(

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.

Sorry, but you need to get your own lawyer and not take the fall for this...if you do, you are setting yourself up, and your future for failure.

I'm being very direct-you need to find a new sphere of influence if you plan to be a nurse-you will be a licensed professional with a license to uphold, and drug possession, even it not being yours is a sure-fire way for your license to be taken away before you start.

Best wishes.

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My school told us that we should report anything right away. Not telling and hiding seemed to be more of a bad thing. I don't know if it depends on the school. Either way, if you self report you won't have to sit around wondering what could happen. I have the feeling your school will know eventually anyway. I think it speaks well of you that you didn't make excuses and just owned up to what happened. That's how I would handle it. Honesty is the best policy, but I wouldn't give out a lot of details, either. Just that you'll never do that again.

I know you're not looking for relationship advice, but I can't help thinking that this boyfriend isn't the best guy for you. He didn't learn from his mistake the first time and encouraged you to take the fall the second time. Lot of red flags there. You're on your way up and there are a lot of decent guys out there that won't get you into trouble. I'm not just saying this either - you have to have some backbone to be a nurse - your instructors are going to be hard on you as well as patients, the patient's family, doctors, nurses, etc. If you can't tell people not to do illegal drugs in your vehicle and you take the fall when they do - that's a major issue you need to work on. You're smart enough to get accepted into a nursing program, you have your whole life ahead of you.

If you're allowed to continue in the program, I would not share the story with your fellow students and definitely not with your clinical instructors. I don't know about your school, but with mine it seemed like they had to fail one person in every group, they looked for any reason to weed people out. It's a one time mistake, you moved past it - there's no reason to pay for it over and over.

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#1. Dump the boyfriend

#2. Grow up.

#3. Stay away from drugs. I don't care if they are legal or getting legal. They are not good for you and the people who use them will suck you down.

#4. Stop letting people use you as a punching bag.

#5. Stay away from losers.

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Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

Your nursing career will be with you always. That boyfriend? Not so much....

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Specializes in Emergency Nursing.

Is this a joke?! Dump him! Never take the blame for a crime you didn't commit! That is madness! Say goodbye to any chance of a nursing career! Someone who would let you take the fall for them clearly doesn't care that much about you. Just selfish. Time to start making some better judgement calls. Two words: NOT GUILTY! Tell the truth.

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Specializes in hospice.

Okay, my first instinct is to go along with all the previous comments....

But honestly, water seeks its own level. This relationship is clearly what you want.

You're just going to have to give up on ever being a nurse, practicing judgement like you're showing in this situation.

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If the pot and the pipe were yours, take responsibility. If not, I personally would not take the fall for this. Hell, my boyfriend would never let me take the blame for his indiscretions.

Whose lawyer told you to take the fall? If it was your boyfriend's lawyer, he has your boyfriend's best interest in mind, not yours. I would get your own lawyer, or get a new one if they are trying to convince you to take the blame for a crime you did not commit.

good luck

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Specializes in Pediatric.

I'm sorry, but you're INSANELY if you take the fall for him.

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Specializes in Dermatology, ENT.

Boyfriends can come and go, but your career will never break up with you. The choice is yours.

Good luck.

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Specializes in Pediatric.
Boyfriends can come and go, but your career will never break up with you. The choice is yours.

Good luck.

Great quote!!!!

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