Ok so lately I've been reading several posts of nurses that are just really tired of nursing. With all due respect, why don't you leave nursing already if it causes you this most heartache? Yes you have bills, need insurance, have kids, and may be the sole provider... however what is all of of this if you don't have your sanity. What is the paycheck worth if you are completly miserable. Yes I am a nurse and have my good days and bad days. However, I don't see myself doing anything else outside of nursing.
I would encourage any nurse to stay in nursing and find their ninche. If you have lost your love for nursing reflect on what originally drew you to nursing. Try to ignite the passion again. If all else fails... goodbye, idios, see you later !
You should either put up or SHUT up!
Now let the negative posts and flamming begin !!!!!
walk a mile or rather 25+ years' worth of miles before you judge. others are correct: this is a place in which to vent our frustrations, give support, ask for advice. many of us cannot leave our jobs; while i am very thankful for my job as it pays very well and provides excellent benefits(i don't pay health premiums nor co-pays), i do have to constantly worry about being mandated to work overtime because of short-staffing. we also worry over being assaulted by our mental patients; the verbal assaults occur daily and on some units, so do the physical assaults. we can get mandated 4 out of 5 working days. that stress in itself is overwhelming. this economy prevents sudden departures from jobs. i only pray the next 6 years pass quickly so i can retire.
Ok so lately I've been reading several posts of nurses that are just really tired of nursing. With all due respect, why don't you leave nursing already if it causes you this most heartache? Yes you have bills, need insurance, have kids, and may be the sole provider... however what is all of of this if you don't have your sanity. What is the paycheck worth if you are completly miserable. Yes I am a nurse and have my good days and bad days. However, I don't see myself doing anything else outside of nursing.
I would encourage any nurse to stay in nursing and find their ninche. If you have lost your love for nursing reflect on what originally drew you to nursing. Try to ignite the passion again. If all else fails... goodbye, idios, see you later !
You should either put up or SHUT up!
Now let the negative posts and flamming begin !!!!!
I seriously hope you meant to say adios, not idiots. :)
And with all due respect you're complaining here about people complaining so what does that make you? Why don't you just avoid the threads about nurses venting about their issues and focus on your own work ethics? To throw your own words back at you, you can either put up or shut up about the vent threads because it ain't going to change here anytime soon at allnurses
I'm so glad with your three years of experience that you have worked it all out. Forgive us if we don't fall over from your sheer awesomeness.
Specializes in ICU, Home Health, Camp, Travel, L&D.
Really? I mean, really? Your post was for laughs or controversy, right? Because the line we walk is balancing compassion and passion with cynicism and pithiness. It comes with time and experience, pouring your heart into your life's work and having it trampled by hospital politics or the good old boy's system, torn out by junkie moms and withdrawing babies, Docs who sometimes don't listen until it's too late, and, just occasionally, by newbie nurses who already know it all.
I remember what it was to be a brand-spanking new RN, the ink on my degree, and my license, barely dry...I could push controlled narcotics, mix Inocor drips myself and titrate Levophed, but couldn't have bought a beer legally anywhere in the 50 states. I, too, had a pollyanna streak--all that bright, shiny idealism makes for a hell of a wake up call.
No one can pay for food, clothing, housing, transportation, utilities, or medical care in happiness dollars.
Ideally, each person would always work at a job that makes him/her happy in a field s/he finds fulfilling. Unfortunately, life sometimes gets in the way. In this job market, many people are working in fields they love but at jobs they hate, simply because there aren't any viable positions available. Other people are stuck in boring fields because they cannot yet afford to go back to school for additional education. Still others are gritting it out in unpleasant workplaces in order to provide a stable source of income and insurance because they have kids who are in school or a spouse who lost his/her job. Will all or even most of those people stay forever in jobs they dislike or fields they find less than challenging? No, certainly not. Most are simply doing what they must in order to get by during a difficult time and will move on to more suitable positions when the personal or national conditions affecting them change.
It is a mark of maturity to be able to look at the big picture and prioritize. People cannot simply dismiss things like mortgages or their children's needs when those obligations become inconvenient. Staying for decades in a miserable job or a field that's a poor fit would obviously be foolish. However, staying in a miserable job or a field that isn't a good fit until a family member has achieved a major goal or economic conditions have improved - well, sometimes that's just what a practical, responsible, and caring person has to do. Venting can really help people during times when they're making short-term sacrifices for long-term benefits.
Everybody has a bad day, nurses, doctors, lawyers, the guys on the cleaning crew, everyone. Everyone's had the day where they wonder, "why the heck did I take this job?" We've all got a need to vent, and it's better to do it here than at work. I've had days where I want to throw my badge out the window and just go home, both as an engineer and as a nurse. The problem is, Sarte was right in "No Exit" -- "Hell is other people." My addition to that is addressed to the woman in the mirror, "and you're the other people."
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
i don't mind the endless speculation about whether they should go into pharmacy or become an np or go to anesthesia school as much as i mind the implication or outright assertion that since they don't like nursing there must be something wrong with people who do.
"stress isn't natural. do yourself a favor and get out of this stressful career." some of us handle stress well and thrive on challenge. "i get my own office and far more respect as a (fill in the blank) than i did as a nurse." some of us enjoy a great deal of respect as bedside nurses. but perhaps we've earned respect as bedside nurses and the ones with the private offices didn't earn respect as bedside nurses because they didn't do it well or because they didn't stick it out long enough to earn any respect. that doesn't mean bedside nursing is a horrible position that one should stay out of if one wants respect. (a private office, maybe, but respect, no.) and that doesn't mean that good, knowledgable bedside nurses who work as part of the team are not respected.
"nurses are mean, catty backstabbers who are happy to throw their coworkers under the bus." again, just because you think you've encountered nothing but mean, catty women who are happy to get you into trouble for no good reason does not mean that you've actually encountered mean, catty backstabbers. sometimes your perceptions are wrong, or you hate bedside nursing so you hate everyone and everything about it and are actively looking for "reasons" to quit. or maybe you're so miserable you're making everyone around you miserable. or maybe they're just reacting to the negative vibes you're casting about or the stupid things you keep doing over and over. i'm not attempting to insult anyone personally here, but there are plenty of us on allnurses.com who don't see mean, catty backstabbers everywhere we go. perhaps we have it right, and not the miserable newbies who are complaining that everyone is out to get them.
"i"m being picked on for no good reason, (so all bedside nurses are nasty bullies and young eaters)" again, perhaps the reason they're being picked on is that they're dangerous. they don't know as much as they think they do, aren't learning as fast as they hope they are and aren't working as hard as they claim they do. maybe their level of confidence is inconsistent with their level of expertise. maybe there is a reason for all the negative feedback they're getting. maybe all those mean nurses who they claim are picking on them are actually trying to help them to become better nurses. sometimes the message has value even if the delivery is flawed. most of us went into nursing, not politics or teaching, and perhaps the nuances of teaching or diplomacy escape us -- especially when we're trying to teach you not to defibrillate artifact or give kcl iv push for the third time this week.
i understand that people don't like nursing: 12 hour shifts, weekends, nights and holidays, the patient contact, the contact with families, the stress, whatever. the fact that they don't like it doesn't make nursing a bad career choice, and it doesn't make those of us who do like it bad people or masochists or stupid. i'm getting tired of posters implying or asserting that it does.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
i work in mental health a lot, and i can see from these posts that many nurses feel trapped. yes, if we lived in a wonderful world, it would be very nice to be able to just change jobs (or get the nursing job u want) easily. however people come on here and complain, because they feel lonely, desperate and need to talk. and everyone knows they would be more miserable without a job - there are many nurses out there without work, or who haven't worked as a nurse yet & i feel so much heartache for them. it must be great to have a nice job, no hassles, supportive family, with no sick kids or whatever trials people go through. do u care what happens to other nurses?
your post lacks compassion and maturity. how old are you?
i think u need to grow up a little and put yourself in other people's shoes. it's your harsh "dr phil, tell it like it is" attitude that can make people downhearted, and even contemplate other drastic, measures.
also i think u need to learn how to spell as well, some of ur post doesn't really make sense. we are not "idios", and we do not do "flamming".
we do not type in capitals either because it is seen as shouting!
instead of putting people down, why can't u get on here and try to empathise and help them? or is that too much of an effort.
u need to grow up.
i while i don't disagree with the content of your message, i find it ironic that you're complaining about spelling and shouting while you cannot be bothered to type out "you", "your" or "you're". but carry on.
Midwest4me
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walk a mile or rather 25+ years' worth of miles before you judge. others are correct: this is a place in which to vent our frustrations, give support, ask for advice. many of us cannot leave our jobs; while i am very thankful for my job as it pays very well and provides excellent benefits(i don't pay health premiums nor co-pays), i do have to constantly worry about being mandated to work overtime because of short-staffing. we also worry over being assaulted by our mental patients; the verbal assaults occur daily and on some units, so do the physical assaults. we can get mandated 4 out of 5 working days. that stress in itself is overwhelming. this economy prevents sudden departures from jobs. i only pray the next 6 years pass quickly so i can retire.