Hi All,
I just need a place to vent where people understand what I'm going through. I've been working on a med-surg floor and am a few months shy of a year. Lately, I've been having some "personality conflicts" with my manager. Long story short, my manager (let's call this person B). has somewhat of a grudge against me, and (in my opinion) has been trying to find all my mistakes and get me in trouble for them. When B and I are both working, B would round on the floor and scrutinize my patients more carefully than the others to see if I've made a mistake or left something undone (that should have been done). If B catches it, B will hunt me down and try to belittle me until I feel as low as dirt.
1. I left my pt who is a fall risk pt in the toilet, and told them to press the button to call once they are done, they've demonstrated compliance with calling before. While I was waiting in the room for the pt to be done, I had to take a phone call. None of the nurses or nursing assistants were any where in sight. A hospital staff was nearby waiting to do a procedure on the pt. I asked if they could just stay in the room with the pt and to call me once the pt's done. When the pt was done, they called. Apparently B saw the pt's call light and wrote me up because I left the pt in the bathroom "alone" and per department policy, we're supposed to stay with the pt during toileting. First of all, the pt was not alone, and secondly, I never asked the hospital staff to help the pt back to bed, merely stay there and make sure the pt doesn't try to get up by themselves, and to call me if they do.
2. The other day, after assessing my pt, I noticed my pt had a fever, but wasn't in any acute distress. I wanted to quickly round on the rest of my pts before I went to pull this pt's PRN med. Well, B rounded on this pt and apparently the family had questions that they didn't ask when I first came into the room. B finds me and tells me to go into the room to explain the pt's plan of care to the pt. I tell B "Okay." 10 minutes later, as I was just about to pull the Tylenol and go into the pt's room, B comes to me and says, "Did you go into the pt's room? The family member had a lot of questions and was very anxious. It's been 10 minutes." I told B that the pt has a fever, and that I will explain what's going on when I go in the room with the Tylenol, but then she said, "Well I want to you to tell the pt what's going on first and then pull the med." Basically, B wants me to go to the pt's room to update them, come back to pull the med, and then go back to the pt's room and give the med. I explained that my priority right then was addressing the fever first, and while I'm in the room giving the med, I will explain what's going on. It doesn't help that our unit is a long hallway, with med room in the middle and the pt all the way down the hall. I'm not lazy, but I like to cluster my care so I can cut down the amount of unnecessary trips I have to make up and down the hall. Also, when I went into the room, the pt and family were not anxious in the least. I explained everything fully, and they were satisfied with my explanations. I think B was the one who was anxious.
3. A while ago, on rounding one morning B found one of the pt's heplock had expired (past the 72-hr mark). I was on the day shift the previous day. B emails me a few days later telling me about this. True, I should have caught that, but since I didn't, the night nurse could have easily restarted another. Or what about the nurse that day? Why does she keep doing this to me?!
I really want to quit, but I can't because I haven't reached the 1 year mark. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Coming to work is so painful sometimes. I've never slept well the night before coming to work, never more than 5 hours (sometimes even 2-3 hrs). The worst part is, I generally enjoy working with the pts, and like my coworkers. If management didn't give me this much trouble, I think I might even enjoy my job. Work is torture right now, and the only thing that gets me through each shift is the thought that with each shift, I'm closer to reaching that 1 year. I have to constantly remind myself that this job isn't permanent, but sometimes I'm so scared that I won't get a job elsewhere and will be stuck in this place for much longer. My coworkers who say they're going to stay for 6 months didn't leave until 2 years later.
By the way, in case you're curious, my floor has a very, very high turnover rate. Since the beginning of this year, there have been at least 10 nurses (not including nursing assistants) who has left. Every 2-3 months, a group of new grads begin their training here. Once people get their experience, they leave.
I'm sorry I made you read all that, but it's nice to get it off my chest. I live alone so I don't really have any one to talk to about this.