Hi all,
This will be long, but I will try to explain it all as best and quickly as I can....thanks for reading!
My hubby and I (he's 28, I'm 30) met this past June, married this past October, and I'm already beyond frustrated. We both have been married before, and thought when we met we finally found "THE ONE"
Overall he's a great guy....very sweet, caring, would do anything for me (he takes care of all of the house and works as a courier so I can go to school full time...but I do work almost full time too). He tells me I'm the best thing that has happened to him ...thinks I'm prettier than Halle Berry:confused: , and honestly thinks that if he were to look at another woman in a sexual way (ie looking at her and wondering what she'd be like in bed) that would be just as bad as cheating.
What's the prob? He's so insecure!!! He has no reason to be...he's gorgeous (honestly....many people tell him he should be a model....and on his job (he's a courier for a pharmacy...he delivers meds to nursing homes,etc) he get's complements on his looks. Ok....so during our short engagement he did get a little insecure, and his dad strongly urged us to wait because he felt my hubby had "issues" to fix before getting married again (he divorced this past March, but said he felt ready to move on....I can believe that...when my ex-hubby and I divorced I moved on immediately...my feelings had been long gone). Current hubby will constantly ask me if I think of other guys (especially celebrities)in a sexual way, he asks if I think he (hubby himself) is the best I've had (sexually), If I thinks he's so hot..why don't we have a lot of sex:chuckle (hmmm two jobs right now.....I'M TIRED!!!) he asks if I think celebrities are better than us common folk, when I watch movies or read magazines to I see a guy and start to fantasize about him, etc. I got so tired of these questions being asked over and over that I told him to email them to me and I'd answer them. When he felt insecure he could read my answers (because the answer won't change)...I got a 26 question email...some of the 26 questions had more questions to them:( He has even checked on our computer to see what websites I have visited, so he can see if I have been looking at websites that may have attractive men...example...if I look at celebrity gossip (which he hates) he checks to see if any of the gossip were about attractive male celebrities
He has agreed to get counseling, and maybe I should too...as i am very frustrated. I go from being happy when things are good, to being angry, and wanting out of our marriage when he starts in on his insecurities......which by the way can sometimes last all day. He'll ask a question...i'll answer it ....albeit sometimes sarcastically because i'm frustrated, and he gets mad and pouts because it didn't come out the way he wanted to hear it....and a few hours later he's still moping about my answer.
I love him dearly....he's a wonderful man with the insecurity curse...but I'm going bananas.
I don't know what I need....hugs.....a sympathetic ear, a kick in the orifice.....a ...a beer.....
I think I just needed to vent...and get some advice.....the new semester is coming up, and I don't feel like trying to keep up with school, work, and and insecure hubby.
Any advice anyone?
Thanks so much for listening:kiss
Lisa