Is it jealousy ??

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Been on my own for 1yr now, was an aide for 2. I am sick of hearing about openness to learning and inexperience. I work on a cardiac step down unit that has a plentiful mix of med-surg patients. A few of the more experienced nurses have commented that I shouldn't do this or that due to my experience level. I have NEVER made any sort of mistake on my floor (but sure I will) but have not yet, and receive more positive feedback from patients than most on my floor. I do ask a lot of questions just not of those who criticize my work (imagine that).

Point is this. Experience doesnt make you good at anything necessarily. Lotta people have been driving their whole lives and are still poor at it etc. Some of us can do in 1 yr what others may need 3 to accomplish.

A good nurse is about time management, foresight, understanding complexities of patient processes/meds, bedside rapport, and others. Experience isnt a guarantee that any of those things develop.

So to all you vets out there recognize the talent not the years. I know many of you feel like you gotta earn your stripes in this work. Maybe be more concerned with the environment you create by trying to exert your stripes.

A truly good nurse has all the attributes to be a good nurse far before they are a nurse. Born not made.

I guess I don't know the dynamics of your unit but... yes, it is about experience. One year does not an expert make, especially not in a specialty unit and someone who thinks otherwise is naive or worse, arrogant. I work in the ED and you have to have x amount of experience before you can run a big trauma, x amount before you can triage, etc. You don't even know what you don't know yet. Maybe there is some cattiness on your unit, I have no idea. But if a one year ED RN said to me what you just wrote? Ohhhh boy.

Been on my own for 1yr now, was an aide for 2. I am sick of hearing about openness to learning and inexperience. I work on a cardiac step down unit that has a plentiful mix of med-surg patients. A few of the more experienced nurses have commented that I shouldn't do this or that due to my experience level. I have NEVER made any sort of mistake on my floor (but sure I will) but have not yet, and receive more positive feedback from patients than most on my floor. I do ask a lot of questions just not of those who criticize my work (imagine that).

Point is this. Experience doesnt make you good at anything necessarily. Lotta people have been driving their whole lives and are still poor at it etc. Some of us can do in 1 yr what others may need 3 to accomplish.

A good nurse is about time management, foresight, understanding complexities of patient processes/meds, bedside rapport, and others. Experience isnt a guarantee that any of those things develop.

So to all you vets out there recognize the talent not the years. I know many of you feel like you gotta earn your stripes in this work. Maybe be more concerned with the environment you create by trying to exert your stripes.

A truly good nurse has all the attributes to be a good nurse far before they are a nurse. Born not made.

I agree that some are ready for more responsibility sooner, and yet overconfidence can sometimes lead to disaster. I doubt that "jealousy" is the problem. It might be that the more experienced nurses are looking out for you ...or that they think you're like them, when you're actually a little bit different.

" I have NEVER made any sort of mistake on my floor"

How could you possibly know this?

Next question- Are you real, or trolling?

Either way, thanks. I read this forum for a combination of entertainment and information. i am taking a wild gues that I won't be gleaning much information from this thread.

" Either way, thanks. I read this forum for a combination of entertainment and information. i am taking a wild gues that I won't be gleaning much information from this thread.

Oh man... This made me giggle for longer than was probably necessary. :D

Specializes in ER.

I started nursing in 1990, and made mistakes daily. Not mistakes that you'd write someone up for, but trying to patient teach and getting mixed up, or offering milk and sugar in tea to a diabetic, then they remind me, or missing a step in a protocol and having to back track. So a year without mistakes sounds like a miracle to me. OP, you aren't realizing your errors, that's all. I suggest you not repeat what you just said to your coworkers, they might start finding your errors and pointing them out.

Well the OP joined July 9, so my troll alert has gone off.

Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.

It probably is jealousy. Since you were born a nurse, likely it was noticed right away by the L&D nurses, who were made. It really is a shame you were subjected to the rigours of nursing school, instead of being allowed to take your rightful place right away.

Just keep on being your humble self while you continue to shine and show everyone how it's done. After all, they can't help being sad, mediocre them.

I started nursing in 1990, and made mistakes daily. Not mistakes that you'd write someone up for, but trying to patient teach and getting mixed up, or offering milk and sugar in tea to a diabetic, then they remind me, or missing a step in a protocol and having to back track. So a year without mistakes sounds like a miracle to me. OP, you aren't realizing your errors, that's all. I suggest you not repeat what you just said to your coworkers, they might start finding your errors and pointing them out.

Well the OP joined July 9, so my troll alert has gone off.

Me too. But around here I often think that, and am proven wrong.

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

Well, at least nobody can call us bullying mean old crusty "vets" because it's clear that is who this missive is directed to.

Carry on....experience doesn't make you good at something. Born not made...

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Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.
and receive more positive feedback from patients than most on my floor.

I hesitate to respond to any part of this silliness, but here it goes...

How do you know? I have worked with several subpar nurses who seem to get 'thank you' notes from patients all the time. Funny how those notes always include those nurses' first and last names--in the nurses handwriting. Yet some of the best nurses I've worked with never seek out the lime light.

Trust me, I'm not jealous.

Well, heck, what am I doing in nursing school? The "NURSE" tattoo wasn't slapped on my tush when my mum's OB got a hold of me. Darnity darn.

I'll just have to go back to my less-than-stellar life and maybe go PA instead. Unless they're born PA's too?

*dies laughing*

I hesitate to respond to any part of this silliness, but here it goes...

How do you know? I have worked with several subpar nurses who seem to get 'thank you' notes from patients all the time. Funny how those notes always include those nurses' first and last names--in the nurses handwriting. Yet some of the best nurses I've worked with never seek out the lime light.

Trust me, I'm not jealous.

Yes! Well, I never recognized a nurses handwriting, but I worked with several nurses/NA's that 'self-promoted': if a patient made one nice comment to them, they ran and got a compliment card and pen, and handed it to the patient. I'd offer to get a card for a patient who mentioned another caregiver was great, but....I just could not bring myself to mention it if they complimented me. Nothing wrong with the other care givers being more type-A, but I just felt a little icky about it - like I was pressuring and making them feel obligated to fill that little card up, after their nice gesture. I'd rather take a sweet comment as offered.

As to the OP - goodness! I suspect jealousy is not their issue. I've always been a little leery of the slogan "Born, not made". Sure, we all have our strengths and weaknesses, and some are naturally SUITED to becoming nurses....but born? That seems passive....but maybe it does provide a good descriptor of all the mess involved :rolleyes: I earned that place on the state board, darn it, and proud of all the work I put in! SO much more work to do, so many more opportunities to learn and grow.

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