I'm the insensitive husband. My wife is a nurse that works in the float pool. She spends a lot time working in behavioral health and the medical floors.
She has been working 3-4 16 hour shifts per 2 week pay period lately.
She feels that since she is working 16 hour shifts, and a nurse that I should be more appreciative.
I see things different than her. I wish I could 16 hour shifts and have more days off. I will 4 days off to her 8-9 days off per pay period. I work 80 hours per pay period and she works 60-70 hours. I wish I could do that.
She will also explain to me how hard nursing is. In my mind, that is what she enjoys and is good at. Most of her issues with being a nurse is dealing with other nurses. It has nothing to do with the work itself.
I basically came her to see if I could get a better understanding of how she feels. To hear from other nurses that have done the same thing and how their spouses were.
Please don't hold back. I want your real thoughts. If I mad you mad, then tell me.
You don't know what you're getting into buddy. [emoji6] I'm telling you! This crowd don't play!
We do play. That's the whole point.
I think I'm not going to click on spouse posts anymore. I immediately get suspicious of a spouse (usually a husband) that has to go to the internet and ask maybe nurses about his marriage.
And this onslaught of shaming and wagging fingers when OP even said he knows some of us would be "mad" (I'm not mad!) at his questions leads me to believe that he knew exactly what he was doing.
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
We do play. That's the whole point.
I think I'm not going to click on spouse posts anymore. I immediately get suspicious of a spouse (usually a husband) that has to go to the internet and ask maybe nurses about his marriage.
And this onslaught of shaming and wagging fingers when OP even said he knows some of us would be "mad" (I'm not mad!) at his questions leads me to believe that he knew exactly what he was doing.
"Nurses have a very bad habit of getting latched onto by useless men; please try not to be one of them."
This is so true. My mom was trapped in a 20+ yr. marriage where she was sleeping probably 3-4 hours a night, and he threatened and abused us, saying he was "the boss" of the house. He slept until 11:00AM and had us (the kids) help him at his weekend job, which took our entire weekends, during our childhoods. The POS is gone now, but now my mom has made the same mistake of letting her POS son now latch on to her. She is a total martyr to duty. But I have to say, I'm latched on to her for different reasons, but yes, she is a non-stop busy person/nurse (retired) and I have just recently been accepted into an ADN Program, which I will continue to get my BSN.
I've learned my lesson though, no useless people in my life!
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Oh, my deers, that's another thread.
And there are so many awesome male nurses here I don't want to go there.
Haha deers. True true. But is is mostly the lay-husbands/boyfriends that come here for help. I have seen girlfriends/wives once or twice but generally it's the husband of the nurse. I wonder why...
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
Your an LVN which explains why you don't have the answer. Just a couple more years of school left for you
The Far is an RN & refused to give you an answer. I don't see you having an answer either. I can answer the question, but I refuse. Since you are belittling me & my education I am not going to talk to you any more. I don't play mind games.
Considering all the new nurses who have just joined the conversation & you repeating yourself twice! Didn't come here for answers regarding his relationship. I told you that.
Be careful who you call a nurse. A shocking amount of the newbies are not nurses at all.
CBlover, BSN, RN
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I'm so glad your back OC!