Infatuated with colleague - need counsel

[RCBR]

I am a male nursing student. I work as a tech at a medsurge unit in a local hospital where I am completely infatuated with a female nurse. She is my age, incredibly pretty and flirts with me like crazy. When we work the same shift I find it hard to focus on anything but her. I want to ask her out. I am just starting in health care and I just have no idea what is appropriate or not in this situation.

[RNsRWe, ASN, RN]

how bout ask her out and if she says yes, take it very slow. get to know each other for a while before you let your heart mush up...in other words, be patient. if she is right for you and you are right for her, you will know given time. its about similar values and goals, beliefs and compatibility, not just the hots for each other. its about time we humans exercised something called discipline and used our brain before getting over-wrought with someone, hopping into bed (now called hooking up), realizing how different you are, then having a blow up break up because someone felt used...and the rest of us having to put up with it, not to mention the baby-making potential of premarital sexual activity.

may be jumping ahead here for you, but lets be smart.

This seems a little more like preaching and less like the advice the OP asked for. I seriously doubt "the babymaking potential of premarital sexual activity" is the concern of the post. He's asking about dating, for goodness' sake, not bed-hopping!

[rn/writer, RN]

This seems a little more like preaching and less like the advice the OP asked for. I seriously doubt "the babymaking potential of premarital sexual activity" is the concern of the post. He's asking about dating, for goodness' sake, not bed-hopping!

For some people, dating and bed-hopping are interchangeable synonyms.

[glasgow3]

God I love it when Guttercat says stuff like "de rigeur"; I think she wants me.

[mindlor]

how bout ask her out and if she says yes, take it very slow. get to know each other for a while before you let your heart mush up...in other words, be patient. if she is right for you and you are right for her, you will know given time. its about similar values and goals, beliefs and compatibility, not just the hots for each other. its about time we humans exercised something called discipline and used our brain before getting over-wrought with someone, hopping into bed (now called hooking up), realizing how different you are, then having a blow up break up because someone felt used...and the rest of us having to put up with it, not to mention the baby-making potential of premarital sexual activity.

may be jumping ahead here for you, but lets be smart.

Seriously? I say hook up ASAP, if incompatible. Move on.

[youngolf]

sorry mindlor, but your practice is one reason so many of us meet people who are emotionally messed up, don't trust us, and also use us to satisfy some reason of their own. this needs to change, and it comes from discipline about the way we treat others. today, hooking up or 'dating' simply means sexual activity before one even knows each other.

same as in the OR disruptive behavior....bullying is acting like a 2 year old. if we don't stand up and fight it, another has to endure it. man up and stand up. see the big picture.

[mindlor]

Say what? The chips would all be on the table and everyone would be ok with it. Where did I say I was being deceptive? A relationshiip that is not physically compatible is destined for failure. need to assess that as soon as possible.

Being honest at all times of course.....

[dirtyhippiegirl, BSN, RN]

For some people, dating and bed-hopping are interchangeable synonyms.

For some people, the real question is ---) is this guy (or girl) good in bed.

Really...how hot are these two? The OP is a dude! He could be the love child of George Clooney and Johnny Depp and we - women! - would never know.

[interceptinglight, CNA]

One of the most hilarious threads I've ever seen on here!!! Most entertainment I've enjoyed all weekend --- We all need a little comic relief now and then.

[PMFB-RN, RN]

You didn't mention in the OP if she is single. Find out before you ask her out. If she is ASK HER OUT!. If she says yes then great! Have fun. If she says no take no for an answer and don't ask her out agian or mention it again.

If she isn't single stay far, far away. Besides not being an honable thing to do, you will find people to be VERY unforgiving of cheaters.

[BostonTerrierLover, BSN, RN]

Unless you are MARRIED (Boston is a Peacelover), ask the girl out. BUT BEWARE, TWO NURSES CAN BE A HANDFUL!!!!!!!

[CompleteUnknown]

God I love it when Guttercat says stuff like "de rigeur"; I think she wants me.

Hahahaha, love it and really did laugh out loud!

[backtowork]

My take is..Nurses tend to over think and uber analyze everything TOO much.. Hey..the cupcakes only come around once sometimes..so go for it, Tiger!!!