Inappropriate Behavior?

[chesanurse]

Hi! I am new to Allnurses so let me introduce myself. I am an LPN, mom to three perfect (ok, not really but I think so!) children. I work in Pediatrics and its such an awesome job.

Long story short. There is an LPN at a facility that has made horrible comments about me on Facebook. The quickest backstory I can give you is she was in highschool, is my first cousin, was a minor and was sleeping with my husband when I took her in as a runaway.

Fastforward some years later. I divorced the should-be sex offender and life went on.

She and him are now married and they quit their jobs just over a year ago to move here and have largely interfered with the life I single handedly created for the children and I.

She is a whole 24 now. And is in a leadership position at her job. I dont know how she has always managed those types of jobs based on her experience but she has since right out of nursing school. Good for her though!

On top of making my children miserable she also publicly post stuff about me on facebook (inaccurate stuff that is very unflattering) and has even talked about punching someone in the face (albeit she didnt say me, but I get the idea its me).

Due to her deciding my ex husband is paying too much in child support, I now have to work most every day of the week, with a day off about once or twice a month, until the court can get that straight. I applied with the company she now works for (I didnt know she worked there; they quit their jobs in another state and moved here and I didnt know where she worked). I am needing to leave my current job to go somewhere that can pay better. However, I recieved a response from her today offering an interview. I did feel she should have asked another person to respond as she has been asked not to email me, but whatever.

Can I contact the board of nursing to show them all of the comments publicly made about me on facebook? Is it ok to contact her employer to let them know as well? Id love to put an end to her behavior and over the years have not been able to do much about it as legally if she doesnt touch me, theres little you can do.

How would the BON feel about this behavior and is it unethical for me to reach out to her employer?

[Atl-Murse]

Wow so much drama. I am sure if she was asked, she would make similar accusation against you. Best to keep distance from her, stay away on social media site. Find another company to work for, those social media post can come back and bite

[chesanurse]

Actually N0:) She couldnt make those accusations about me:) I mind my bees wax and raise my babies.

[cleback]

Sounds like you're dealing with a jerk. But unless she does something illegal or against the nurse practice act, the BON will likely not care. I'd keep your nose clean and keep out of it. Resist the urge to seek revenge.

[Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN]

I wouldn't engage with her as you're just feeding the drama. Plus engaging with her could potentially give her more ammo to use to aggravate you. Limit your contact with her and your ex to only what pertains to the kids. It would be wise to keep notes regarding these interactions (see next paragraph). Otherwise, keep your distance and ignore her.

If she is really starting to harass you, you could contact a lawyer and get a cease-and-desist letter sent to her. That's where those notes will come in handy. Doing that will create a lovely legal paper trail should her behavior escalate.

A copy could be cc-ed to her employer, but since that's skirting the legal advice ice, I'd leave that for you to seek your attorney's guidance on.

Best of luck.

[Sour Lemon]

I would definitely not contact the BON with this nonsense. It makes you both sound mentally unstable, and that's without even hearing her side of the story.

[Aunt Slappy]

If she is really starting to harass you, you could contact a lawyer and get a cease-and-desist letter sent to her. That's where those notes will come in handy. Doing that will create a lovely legal paper trail should her behavior escalate.

Also, screen shot her posts, incase she deletes them, and save the images in safe places. They'll be even better than your notes. If she's posting publicly and not limited to friends, you might even have a case against her for defamation.

[amoLucia]

The BON's responsibility is to protect PATIENTS. They are not marital discord referees. I'm hoping you have a good lawyer to assist you in your situation.

Keep your distance; do not engage her in any interactions and follow an attorney's advice. That's the attorney's job to deal with all this crazy, not the BON.

[malenurse69, MSN, NP]

*reads first paragraph*

*quietly exits thread*

[scuba nurse, BSN, MSN, RN]

So wait, she would interview you? Would she be your boss? You would work together?

OH HELL NO!!

I cannot see one good thing about this arrangement, and would be looking to work any place she is not at.

Do not do it, do not engage with her, run far away, block her on FB. Like others have said, not a BON issue or an employer issue, it is an ash whole issue.

[morte, LPN, LVN]

if your state's NPA has a moral turpitude clause, she may have violated that with the public lies

[SaltySarcasticSally, LPN, RN]

Ok, first, do not work with her. That's just ridiculous.

Do not get involved in this. Let her make her FB comments, she just feels inferior. Unless you start to feel she is actually a danger, ignore this nonsense.