I'm a nurse and I don't like people.

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I went into nursing because I wanted a stable job with decent pay. I also wanted to be able to help people. I'm a compassionate person, but I'm also very introverted. In other words, people suck the life out of me.

The longer I work in this field, the more I realize that I don't care for people much. Not necessarily my patients but other nurses, management, family members of patients, etc. I find most people to be backstabbing, selfish jerks. The blame game runs rampant.

I take awesome care of my patients, they are the only ones who get a pass when they are mean or grouchy towards me but it's the others that I can't stand.

I relish in my time alone, with my boyfriend and dogs. I get invited to work stuff but rarely go because I can't stand the fakeness. I don't have a lot of friends and it doesn't bother me in the least. I like to be alone in my thoughts.

I feel that most people nowadays only care about themselves and I don't even care to get to know them. I probably sound like a complete cynic but I really try to be a good person. Often to the extent that I get completely screwed. My job is my only social life because its enough socializing for me.

Am I the only one that feels this way?

Will I survive nursing?

Jipseeme said:
You are absolutely normal, so don't worry!! I am an extrovert and I hate people too. Years and YEARS of nursing have sucked me dry, worn me out, pissed me off, broken my heart, blown my mind and made me nuts. It has given me the ability to completely emotionally detach from situations when I need to. It has taught more about people than I ever wanted to know. It has also provided me with an insight to some amazing souls and allowed me to witness some of the most inspirational situations there cold possibly be.

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, if only the balance of intro/extro people was even!

That being said, I am extroverted and enjoy chit chatting at work. There is a difference between getting along well with people at work and being friends, you know? Being friendly at work does NOT have to equate to people invading your personal life. Intro or extro, people in general suck. Do what you have to do for YOU to enjoy your life!! Kudos for making healthy boundaries and not getting sucked into the drama.

How were you able to detach? (I think that's a key quality to have).

I'VE got to speak 'Frankly' (and maybe if i'm wrong someone will straighten me out---PLEASE).

The definition of extrovert (someone who gains energy from being around people) and introvert (someone who looses energy from being around people) is LARGELY based on 'their setting?'

Am i Right or Wrong???

Sales people (who work all day, trying to sell something to someone who needs their product), gain energy from selling their products to people who buy from them. They are extroverted.

Nurses who work in 'high intensity' and 'personal' settings are drained more than likely because of the 'stress level' they experience (life and death situations each and every day).

Is it possible that 'the intensity' of the setting turns an EXTROVERT turn into and INTROVERT?

I'm an extrovert (i think), but after reading this Thread, i'm wondering how i'm gonna REACT to being in an intense ENVIRONMENT (hospital / nursing home / etc).????

Dayum...this is really making me think HARD about this field???

Can anyone give some more constructive input on this????

NOTE: After experiencing long days at work, i want to go home and veg out. (no matter what kinda work i'm doing). I don't know if that makes me an introvert or NOT. I always thought i was an EXTROVERT.

Hello,

I just wanted to say that I got a kick out of your to topic I read some of the comments and I just had to laugh. I am not a nurse but I used to be a nurses aid I will be starting nursing school in October 2018

myrachandler said:
I'm a fellow introvert. I understand what you're saying. If you haven't read it, check out the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking It is a great book that validates introverts.

Just bought the book. Thank you!

Specializes in Pediatrics,Hospice.

I totally can relate to this I can barley deal with working with certain co workers and the patients are awesome even the family members but one thing about this profession is that the fakeness is everywhere. I really want to get into case management or something where the interaction with co workers its so much.

Although this post is from 16' I must admit it is very interesting to see that someone feels the same exact way I feel. You really couldnt have said it better! No, you are not alone. The one thing I fear is not having stability because of the these feelings and issues, because I will leave a job and go to another just because of these things and it frustrates me to the 10th POWER!!! But what can I do?

Specializes in Critical Care.

There’s too much estrogen on most floors for me. That’s one reason I went to critical care. Usually 50/50 and there have been shifts of nothing but 100% men.

Bringing this thread into 2020 as it applies to me. I am very introverted and the nursing job that suits me the most is Pediatric Private Duty. One patient, one shift, and if I'm lucky, we have our own room away from the rest of the family where it's quiet. I have tried several different types of nursing and I keep coming back to Private Duty Peds.

11 hours ago, Brita01 said:

Bringing this thread into 2020 as it applies to me. I am very introverted and the nursing job that suits me the most is Pediatric Private Duty. One patient, one shift, and if I'm lucky, we have our own room away from the rest of the family where it's quiet. I have tried several different types of nursing and I keep coming back to Private Duty Peds.

Hey, get night shift cases where the parents give you access to entry and are in bed when you get there, perhaps you report off to a nurse in the morning, or perhaps you report off to the parents, or maybe you let yourself out.....you're good to go.

I am the same way. I never wanted to be anything other than a nurse this is my being I want nothing else.

My current job working day shift sucks the life out of me. There are too many people in the building, admins give me tons of extra paperwork to "follow up on" (because they know I'm good and I will get it done), too many families ect.... Since I live in the middle of nowhere, practically, and the other facility I could work at is not a good place to work, I made a compromise with my self. I work three 12s Friday, Saturday, Sunday. If I pick up extra shifts I only pick up 2nd shift during the week. It has been a game changer for me.

Have you considered night shift? I have been thinking about it but my husband probably won't agree with that schedule and that change is truly a family decision.

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