Im gonna have to do it.....

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Since I started nursing school I have been dealing with heart ache... 2 weeks before my actual start, I lost my 21 year old brother, and 2 weeks before the end of that same semester I lost my nephew... everybody kept on aksing me how I was still going and how I was able to make it day by day... Well my answer was always "you just keep on going.. you cant stop..." but now I am actually feeling the hurt, almost one year later from the loss of my brother. I don't want to stop but I feel that I have had no time to stop and live since all of this... I want to be a nurse MORE THAN ANYTHING!!! and I will NEVER give up on my dream... I plan on starting back next semester and hope that the mental break will finally have me prepared enough to finish...

Although I really stand behind my decision and know that I am not going to be one of those who stops school but doesn't go back... I am having a hard time not beating my self up for it... I guess I just need a little reassuring from some fellow nursing students or nurses who have been in a similar situation or have had to stop school but started again.. so I am asking you this... Am I doing the right thing by taking a break???

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If it's all catching up with you and you're not able to really concentrate on your studies, a break really might help you in the long run. But, something to look into might be the possibility of going part-time. At my school, they offer the option of just taking a few classes at a time; your faculty should be able to work with you and help you out with a gameplan of what to do. Don't be afraid to meet with them and let them know how you're feeling and ask for their help!

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

Only you can answer that. I started my pre-reqs four months after my 13 year old son died from leukemia and have not stopped since. For me, it has been healing. I learned that sitting in my pain didn't bring him back and just left me to focus on the horror. I do better when I am busy. Nobody grieves the same way.

Do what you need to do. Only you know if it is the right decision. For me, it would not be. For you, it very well could be. Trust yourself.

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.

You just have to do what is going to be best for your own well being. I understand what you are going through. I lost my little brother to suicide 2 months ago, last month my 46 year old aunt died by the same genetic disease my dad has and I might and Wednesday my just turned 4 year old daughter went to go stay with my parents 1200 miles away for 7 weeks so I can finish school. I have no help here and my husband is leaving to work out of town for the next 7 weeks. With senior practicum I have to have reliable help with her. My other 3 sons are school age and my teen can watch them after school. So needless to say it's been a very rough semester. With essentially 3 losses in a 2 month time frame, although the loss of my daughter is temporary it's still a huge emotional loss for me. My brothers death just gets harder as a new month passes.

I just try to stay distracted so I can get through school. I am so close to being done. My daughter aka mini me was a good distraction so I am not sure what I will do now. Maybe throw myself into working out because my class portion is almost done so not a lot to do school wise.

Anyway you know what you can handle and if taking a break is what you need to do than do that.

I am very sorry for your loss. :heartbeat

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I lost my father, but I kept going, because HE would not want me to quit. I kept going to make him proud.

You have to do what is right for you. I will say that continuing on may be difficult right now, but I can imagine your brother would be proud of you and want you to succeed.

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