If you didn't have to bite your tongue?

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What would you say to patients?

Specializes in ER.

I think this was meant to be a lighthearted thread, and macawake posted a long, self congratulatory response about his or her excellent abilities to deliver non-judgmental patient care in a superior healthcare system. It came across as sanctimonious to me, and really kind of off topic actually. 

The thread was supposed to be a fun one, where people just write some unfiltered comments. 

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58 minutes ago, Emergent said:

I think this was meant to be a lighthearted thread, and macawake posted a long, self congratulatory response about his or her excellent abilities to deliver non-judgmental patient care in a superior healthcare system.

Why don’t you go back to my first post in this thread and see if this is an accurate description of it.

The post wasn’t self-congratulatory. That’s simply your perception of it.  And it also doesn’t mention any type of healthcare system.

Some posters will enjoy my posts, some will not. That’s just the way it is. 

Perhaps there’s something in there that for example a new grad might find helpful. I worked with several recent graduates when I worked in the ER who quickly got very cynical and bitter to the point where it affected their own happiness. I think there are better ways to handle the stress of working with human beings and all that entails, than allowing negative feelings about patients and their behavior, get to you.
 

58 minutes ago, Emergent said:

It came across as sanctimonious to me, and really kind of off topic actually. 

Again, your perception. 

Instead of sharing what I would say if I didn’t have to bite my tongue, I shared the fact that I don’t really feel that I have to (bite my tongue).  
Very much on topic, just not your cup of tea it would seem.

 

58 minutes ago, Emergent said:

The thread was supposed to be a fun one, where people just write some unfiltered comments. 

In what way has my posting my thoughts prevented you or anyone else from sharing your or their unfiltered comments? 
 

 

On 10/13/2021 at 5:20 AM, Emergent said:

"You are so full of ***t. Your pain is a 1 at worst. You are incredibly pathetic.  Get a job loser!"

 

You have posted your thoughts. And you were able to do so without me or anyone else sharing their opinions on your personal thoughts.

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Specializes in ER.

When more than one person has the same perception it's time to look in the mirror. But, I see that you aren't really receptive to it so we might as well stop discussing it. Maybe you can start a thread discussing the subject matter that you brought up here.

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18 minutes ago, Emergent said:

When more than one person has the same perception it's time to look in the mirror. But, I see that you aren't really receptive to it so we might as well stop discussing it. Maybe you can start a thread discussing the subject matter that you brought up here.

That’s fine Emergent. You don’t have to answer the questions I asked you if you don’t want to. 

But I didn’t bring up a new subject matter so I don’t know what thread it is you think I’m supposed to start. I am simply responding to what you and by-a-thred were saying about my posts. 

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Specializes in oncology.

My experience is an RN saying to me "Charlie doesn't want his salad and I am going to substitute a dessert for this." First of all I was an instructor on the floor and didn't know any thing about Charlie. Since she graduated from the same school she went to, she must have thought she needed my approval. 

This was the same RN who, when she saw the attending on the floor would say "Mary has some questions for you." The MD would of course ask who is Mary, in terms of last name/

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Specializes in Operating room, ER, Home Health.
3 hours ago, macawake said:

By a thred’s post that you loved was directed at me. That would logically mean that I’m the only one who’d have reason to be hurt by it. If you think that I’m going to be hurt by it, why not say that directly? It seems a bit passive-aggressive to cloak it in a veneer of general concern. 

Of course I knew what you meant from the beginning. I’m just wondering what you get out of playing these games? 

I can set your (and by a thred’s) minds at ease. My feelings are not in the least bit hurt. I’m just slightly bemused by the fact that some posters find being generally content at work and not having some kind of angry inner dialogue going with my patients, so extremely annoying. First Emergent calls me Your Holiness Pollyanna ? and now we have by a thred, who also appears somewhat miffed. Bothered enough to post here. 

1. My word of caution was not directed at you or anyone else but just a reminder that some poster will be offended if you do not agree with them or question their post. 

2. Thanks for proving my point  

 

 

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Specializes in kids.

Yes, you idiot, COVID is real and YOUR policy to do NOTHING about it is why we have positive tests here!!!! No mitigation strategies WHATSOEVER!

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Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics.
37 minutes ago, NutmeggeRN said:

COVID is real and YOUR policy to do NOTHING about it is why we have positive tests here!! No mitigation strategies WHATSOEVER!

And why, WHY can you not see this?

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Specializes in kids.
20 minutes ago, Kitiger said:

And why, WHY can you not see this?

Indeed....Live Free or Die, I guess

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Specializes in Critical Care.

I never bite my tongue. Why? Because it’s not what you say but how you say it.?

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Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics.

Actually, it wouldn't matter whether I bit my tongue or not. My face says it all, even while wearing a mask.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

Funny I was just talking about this.  We had a patient make a complaint that we were the most horrible hospital in all of America, she had complaints one after another from pre-op to PACU to my floor and that she'd never come back. 

What was said:  we're so sorry about your experience.....kiss butt, kiss butt.

What I wanted to say:  good riddance and we could care less about any of your baseless complaints and hope to never see you again.

 

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