In this article, the author tells a story of organ donation and nurses' ongoing, critical role in helping families through the process.
Let's remember the people who gave the gift of life to others.
"Our son, Adam, was declared brain dead on January 20, 1998. He had been riding back to college with some friends and he was sitting on someone's lap when the driver swerved to miss an animal, and the car rolled. Adam had a closed brain injury. They did everything they could."
Dave Lively, Adam's dad, shared the story with me, bringing back again the anguish our whole community felt when it happened. "But you know, even all these years later, Adam's spirit is with us through the people that still live with his organs.
I asked him how he first heard about organ donation during that difficult time. "After Adam was declared brain dead, we got a call from a nurse named Dwight. He asked me if we had ever considered organ donation. The question gave us pause because Adam had actually told us, about six weeks before the accident, that if anything ever happened to him, he wanted to be an organ donor. He was just that kind of guy-very giving. But his words also gave us a gift of peace-and it took a weight off of our shoulders-knowing that we were doing what he would have wanted."
"All total, 52 people benefitted from his gift. Ken got his heart. Ken had cardiomyopathy and his days were numbered. Now he lives on to see his children grow up and meet his grandchildren. Donna has his pancreas. Because of Adam, she can share birthday cake with her son. Two people got to be off of dialysis; others received long bones, skin, corneas, even ligaments."
I asked Dave what he wishes all nurses knew about organ donation. "It's such a hard time, but organ donation helps to make good come from it. Don't let brain death be the end. There are 120,000 people on the waiting list for organs and 22 people die every day because they don't get the transplant they need."
"The chaplain and the nurse from the local organ donation organization were the key professionals that we connected with during those days. They stayed with us and answered all our questions."
In 2016, 33,606 transplants were reported, representing an 8.5 percent increase over the 2015 total and an increase of 19.8 percent since 2012, according to the Organ Procurement and Transplantation Network (OPTN). This is a record high for the fourth year in a row. Many factors contribute to this but better publicity, public education and positive outlook from nurses and other medical professionals can certainly contribute to the public's increasingly favorable perspective of organ donation.
Also, in recent years clinicians have begun to accept donations from persons who have died of conditions that previously might have been an automatic decline such as drug intoxication, circulatory death, or even those who have some elevated risk for blood born disease. The oldest donor was in her 90's! As criteria for accepting donations change, nurses remain key players in the time surrounding death and organ harvesting. By providing a climate of gentle acceptance and supportive presence, we have the ability to help make the process of following a loved one's wishes a little bit easier.
While nurses can be supportive, it is important to wait to begin the conversation about donation when a trained professional arrives or calls the family. Even though we do not talk about organ donation directly, our body language and facial expressions do contribute to the overall climate of acceptance as families discuss the possibility of making this treasured gift of life.
In 1998, a law was passed that stipulated that only a professional trained through an Organ Procurement Organization (OPO) be allowed to discuss possible donation with the family of a patient who dies in a hospital facility. This law was passed in response to the astounding statistic that families approached by a trained professional agreed to donate 67% of the time as compared with those approached by another member of the medical team-9%.*
I asked Dave about how he and his wife were able to keep moving forward after Adam died. "We became spokespersons for organ donation. We accepted every chance we got to go out and speak, to educate and to help spread the word about what good donation can do."
As we wrapped up our conversation, he told me that at one local event, a county fair, he was passing out flyers with his son's picture on them. A girl looked at the flyer and said, "I knew Adam! I was in astronomy class with him. He was so nice to me. He made me feel good about myself." Dave sighed, "Yep, he was just that kind of a guy."
Adam's dad told me one last story. After his son's death, he and his wife received a letter from Adam's philosophy professor. In it, he quoted a prescient line from Adam's senior paper, "I still have a desire to believe that 'death' is, in fact, not a death. I will ultimately, somehow, remain alive."
* 63 Fed. Reg. 33,856, 33,860 (1998), citing Klieger J, Nelson K, Davis R, et al. Analysis of factors influencing organ donation consent rates. J Transplant Coord. 1994;4:132-4.
I've posted about this subject before. I'm currently a nursing student and I lost my precious little 5-year-old son in 2010 in a drowning accident. We donated his organs and were comforted greatly by the opportunity to glean a bit of good out of a nightmare. The staff of the organ donation organization had everything to do with this. Even through my grief, I was able to recognize what extraordinary people they were. That's the point of this post. While I would imagine training is important and necessary, I'm not sure that anyone could do it. I truly believe there was just something about these people that made it work. I don't know what that thing was--empathy? compassion? But those are attributes many people have. The word that comes to mind is "holy"--and I'm not religious. Maybe it's just the idea that anyone who would make this their life's work would have to be cut from a special cloth. I hope this was helpful--just my two cents.
Yes, very helpful. The fact that you are able to write this post to help others, says something wonderful about you. Thank you and may you continue to move forward in healing as you train to help others. Joy
The topic of being an organ donor came up in the nurses break room. I stupidly thought it would be a no brainer in that everyone would be a donor. I was so shocked to hear two nurses say they wouldn't do it. One had some crazy story about a friend seeing a loved one who was a donor something about they had chopped off the loved ones leg? I couldn't respond to that! I was so shocked I can't remember what the other nurse said.I had thought these were two intelligent rational co-workers.
Interesting. It's hard to know what kind of experience this nurse might have been referring to. What is true is that education helps. But how to share a different perspective? Sometimes just asking a well placed question can make people wonder if they have it right. For example, "I wonder if other people have beautiful experiences with the donation process?" Joy.....
Thanks for this article.
We all know how important organ donation is. The daughter of a cousin got a kidney transplant about a year ago, and she's only 15! I don't remember what unusual condition she has - when I heard what it was, it was when she was little and that was before I was a nurse. Regardless, I was so glad when I heard they'd found a match. My cousin and his oldest son were both being considered, but evidently they found a great match with someone else.
I lost my son Charlie to suicide in 2013 he was an organ donor and through him receiving his heart a construction worker in New York lives . A farmer in Nebraska has one kidney and a man in Ohio has another . He gave his stem cells and corneas and skin and bone tissues and through that process and with the help of the transplant organization we have received letters from the recepients and all together he helped we know of 9 people and numerous others .
Charlie had depression and it killed him but he lives on in others and that helps some of my grief about losing him. He always thought of others and this was his final gift to the world.
I lost my son Charlie to suicide in 2013 he was an organ donor and through him receiving his heart a construction worker in New York lives . A farmer in Nebraska has one kidney and a man in Ohio has another . He gave his stem cells and corneas and skin and bone tissues and through that process and with the help of the transplant organization we have received letters from the recepients and all together he helped we know of 9 people and numerous others .Charlie had depression and it killed him but he lives on in others and that helps some of my grief about losing him. He always thought of others and this was his final gift to the world.
I am so sorry for you loss. Thank you for sharing your story. Charlie's life continues to be a blessing. Joy
The topic of being an organ donor came up in the nurses break room. I stupidly thought it would be a no brainer in that everyone would be a donor. I was so shocked to hear two nurses say they wouldn't do it. One had some crazy story about a friend seeing a loved one who was a donor something about they had chopped off the loved ones leg? I couldn't respond to that! I was so shocked I can't remember what the other nurse said.I had thought these were two intelligent rational co-workers.
I am all for organ donation with the choice being done by the person by prior consent or family decision.
I am all for people opting out for non-donation.
I don't think anyone has the right to pass judgement on someone's choice to be a donor or not.
I am intelligent and rational and do not want to be a donor.
My reasons are my reasons and it doesn't make me stupid or irrational.
I am all for organ donation with the choice being done by the person by prior consent or family decision.I am all for people opting out for non-donation.
I don't think anyone has the right to pass judgement on someone's choice to be a donor or not.
I am intelligent and rational and do not want to be a donor.
My reasons are my reasons and it doesn't make me stupid or irrational.
You make a good point here: this is a very personal choice. Organ donation is not something everyone can do or wants to do. As nurses our work is to be helpful and supportive of both decisions, without letting our feelings and biases interfere. Thank you for sharing your perspective on this sensitive topic. Joy
I am all for organ donation with the choice being done by the person by prior consent or family decision.I am all for people opting out for non-donation.
I don't think anyone has the right to pass judgement on someone's choice to be a donor or not.
I am intelligent and rational and do not want to be a donor.
My reasons are my reasons and it doesn't make me stupid or irrational.
I think what the poster means that some people are possibly not educated on that subject because of several horror stories that pop around that subject and don't understand why people do it.
Here's an example, My mother is an educated woman but not on medicine. When I was getting my license for the first time and the option popped up if I wanted to be an organ donor, I was all for it because why not give someone a second try in life, when mine has extinguished from this crazy world? But my mother was telling me no, because then when my name pops up in that database, people will try to get me killed so they can harvest my organs.
That was when I was 18, I'm now 25 (26 this Wednesday) and I'm a registered organ donor because I choose that, and because I'm educated enough in that subject that I can decide yes or no, but some people are not like that and just take words by mouth on things like that.
You're reasons do not make you stupid or irrational, but more rational because you are educated in that subject or in medicine. I'm sure she wasn't trying to insult you in anyway, it's just some people don't understand about organ donation and such topics.
I am all for people opting out for non-donation.
I don't think anyone has the right to pass judgement on someone's choice to be a donor or not.
I am intelligent and rational and do not want to be a donor.
My reasons are my reasons and it doesn't make me stupid or irrational.
i agree completely. It was a poor choice of words to imply someone who doesn't want to donate is stupid or irrational and I thank you for pointing that out to me. Amethya said it better than I.
To not donate is a personal choice I completely support. But I hope it is based on religion, or facts, not horror stories of what happens to the donors body.
Thank you and I agree. There's not many facts of this in doctor's offices and such, so not many people know the real truth of organ donation. I think there should be more information floating around because you'll never know when someone might truly need it.i agree completely. It was a poor choice of words to imply someone who doesn't want to donate is stupid or irrational and I thank you for pointing that out to me. Amethya said it better than I.To not donate is a personal choice I completely support. But I hope it is based on religion, or facts, not horror stories of what happens to the donors body.
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The topic of being an organ donor came up in the nurses break room. I stupidly thought it would be a no brainer in that everyone would be a donor. I was so shocked to hear two nurses say they wouldn't do it. One had some crazy story about a friend seeing a loved one who was a donor something about they had chopped off the loved ones leg? I couldn't respond to that! I was so shocked I can't remember what the other nurse said.
I had thought these were two intelligent rational co-workers.