This is just a general gripe, but I would like some input on this, so here goes:
My 25 year old daughter works for a CILA home. She started out as a DSP,
was also trained as a med-tech and now is the evening supervisor at the
DD facility she works. She thumps her chest and prides herself in being a
"professional".
Now, please don't get me wrong because this girl is MY daughter, but she is
a raging alcoholic and drug user, but remember...she is a "professional".
Last night I was talking to my husband about a supreme court case involving
some people in our town. I live in a very rural area and everyone knows that
these people are in prison because of what they did to another person. My
daughter walks in on the tail end of the conversation and says sarcastically,
"RN mother breaking the HIPAA act, you should know better" I told her to mind
her own business, we were talking about a published supreme court judging on
the people in our town that were sent to prison. It dates back to 2004 and it
is being used as a tool for law students because it has many useful parts that
had never been addressed before in a court of law. It's on the net, for crying
out loud.
So, I get chastized for talking about the news and a published legal document. Who is teaching these young people about HIPAA and do they even really know what it means?
Now, please don't get me wrong because this girl is MY daughter, but she is a raging alcoholic and drug user, but remember...she is a "professional".
Wow!! where do I start....
This post really got to me...You are the mother that raised this woman who is now a raging alcoholic and drug user...
(which can happen in the best of families) but, to say these thing about your child in a public forum like this?(I can't begin to imagine the thing you say about your child to the people you know).... Yes, she tried to get under your skin by using HIPAA and "it worked"... but, you are doing the same thing to her that she did to you..."I wonder where she learned it from?"
My best to you and your daughter... may you both be able to one day overcome your battles so that neither of you feel the need to try and break each other down...
Specializes in Army Vet, Med surg, Spec. Pediatrics.
Yes, she tried to get under your skin by using HIPAA and "it worked"... but, you are doing the same thing to her that she did to you..."I wonder where she learned it from?"
Well, depends on your definition, but if he uses drugs, regardless of whether he's a drug abuser... he actually is a "druggie".
What you said pretty much undermines the whole point of that particular part of the post. I agree that that specific word may or may not be true about him, but the point is that it's specifically used as a derogatory term when they apply to him. They use it in the sense that he's an addict, a crackhead, or a slammer. That was my only point, but I figure I should clarify myself for those who like to get particularly like to get hung up on
linguistics.
But do you know what this is TRULY about? I'll tell you what it really is, you have an ingrateful and selfish daughter who is a drug addict, alcoholic, with low self esteem and no manners, all of a sudden, gets a position, then starts acting like she's hot sh#t because in her mind, she's convinced herself that she's a "professional", in order to feel more important...LOL thats so funny because in my opinion, non educated and IMMATURE people tend to act like that, and any job RANTRANTRANTRANTRANTRANT
Great job bringing all the facts together when you have absolutely NONE. I love how you're jumping to the defense of this poor old mother when you have absolutely NO CLUE what her daughter is like (or what she is like for that matter), yet in your post you use plenty of derogatory terms about the daughter, say she should be slapped, and that she is worthless and ungrateful. You must have a pretty intimate relationship with both of these people for you to be able to make statements like that... right? I mean you do, right? Oh, you don't? Then maybe you should stop jumping to conclusions and making swift judgements about something you are cluelessabout.
You didn't break HIPAA. Either your daughter doesn't understand HIPAA OR she does and she is trying to put you down and discredit you like you state she has a history of doing. Vent away but don't let this worry you too much. She sounds like she has a lot of troubles and is in denial over that so lashes out at you instead. I pray she gets well.
Now, please don't get me wrong because this girl is MY daughter, but she is a raging alcoholic and drug user, but remember...she is a "professional".
Wow!! where do I start....
This post really got to me...You are the mother that raised this woman who is now a raging alcoholic and drug user...
(which can happen in the best of families) but, to say these thing about your child in a public forum like this?(I can't begin to imagine the thing you say about your child to the people you know).... Yes, she tried to get under your skin by using HIPAA and "it worked"... but, you are doing the same thing to her that she did to you..."I wonder where she learned it from?"
My best to you and your daughter... may you both be able to one day overcome your battles so that neither of you feel the need to try and break each other down...
Yes, my daughter is an alcoholic and a drug user. I raised her until she was 17 and then she moved in with her grandparents because I would not tolerate her throwing things at me, hitting her little sister and bringing beer and drugs into MY house. This is the girl that calls herself a professional. She has hated me since I made her stop beating up her little sister. You can call me a bad mother, but you don't know me. You don't know that her father beat me and then beat my first child who died. You don't know anything about my life and what this girl has done. The whole town knows her reputation, yet doesn't even know I am her mother because I have distanced myself from her self destructive behavior and refuses to get help. And yes, this is about HIPAA. My daughter tried to make me look bad by bringing it up in another person's home.
I asked a fair question and instead of getting a fair response I get dumped on because people think this is a mother daughter struggle. I can take that to another forum.
wow, just wow. After I read the replies here I wondered if this was a nurses forum or a witch hunt. So many people trying to tell you what kind of mother you are and putting you down. Who here really gave any good advice? Not many.
No, you didn't break any HIPAA rules. Your daughter needs to pull out the HIPAA manual or maybe even a CD on HIPAA and educate herself on HIPAA. She is a DSP? No different than a nurses aide and attempted to tell you what HIPAA is? She needs a refresher course, and I am ashamed that members of this forum would put you down in such a nasty way.
Of course, you know that you did not violate HIPPA. I believe that your post is more about wanting to prove your daughter wrong. What you have gone through must be horrible. You say that her father beat you and your first child. You had a child that died and that is a hurt that I cannot imagine.
You say that your daughter will not get the help that she needs. Please get help for yourself. Have you ever gone to Al-anon or NA-Anon? The best thing you can do for yourself is to get counseling for this relationship. I have a daughter that is a recovering addict. I have been in counseling for awhile now. It has helped me in dealing with my daughter's behavior. I have learned how to interact with her through counseling. We were always arguing about everything. We still have our moments, but I have learned how to deal with this better.
Please, get help for yourself. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I hope your relationship mends. We all know that your post was way more than HIPPA.
Now, please don't get me wrong because this girl is MY daughter, but she is a raging alcoholic and drug user, but remember...she is a "professional".
Wow!! where do I start....
This post really got to me...You are the mother that raised this woman who is now a raging alcoholic and drug user...
(which can happen in the best of families) but, to say these thing about your child in a public forum like this?(I can't begin to imagine the thing you say about your child to the people you know).... Yes, she tried to get under your skin by using HIPAA and "it worked"... but, you are doing the same thing to her that she did to you..."I wonder where she learned it from?"
My best to you and your daughter... may you both be able to one day overcome your battles so that neither of you feel the need to try and break each other down...
i think she just sounds frustrated and needed to vent.
when i was in active addiction, my mother told people often that i was a druggie and a raging alcoholic. so what? it was true!
relationships with an addict/alcoholic are very difficult. let the girl vent, geeze.
You did not violate HIPAA when you were talking to your daughter, but in my opinion you are violating your daughter's privacy rights when you go on a public forum where people can figure out who you are and call your daughter an alcoholic and drug user.
Specializes in Med/Surge, Psych, LTC, Home Health.
You did not violate HIPAA when you were talking to your daughter, but in my opinion you are violating your daughter's privacy rights when you go on a public forum where people can figure out who you are and call your daughter an alcoholic and drug user.
First off, I have to agree with this post. A LOT of people know about this website; more so than you might think. If you are a nurse working in a facility with other nurses, there's actually a good chance that someone you know could see your posts and figure out who you are. I have learned not to vent about specific things that happen in the workplace on here, for that reason.
Having said all of that... I also agree with the poster who said that, if your daughter won't get help, at least get help for yourself. Go to Al-Anon; speak to other parents who are going through the same thing that you are going through.
You sound like you have been through hell, and I don't think you are a bad parent. Some children just seem to pop out of the womb all good and ready to give their parents and everyone around them hell. Some of those children have ADHD, and that can cause so many behavioral problems that, if untreated, just snowball until you have someone like your daughter. Other problems such as Asperger's, Sensory Integration Disorder, etc; can cause behavior problems. When you are dealing with so much else such as the problems you were having with your husband... problems that a child is having, they can just snowball so quickly.
NOTE: I am NOT trying to diagnose your daughter!!!!! What I am saying is that it is possible that she was born with a problem that could cause problems well into her life, and sometimes it's so difficult to treat those problems.
Anyway, to sum up... you aren't a bad parent, get help for yourself... continue to encourage your daughter to get help, but if she won't... she just won't... you may have to let go and just be good to yourself.
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