I think I'm just DONE.

[AngelfireRN, MSN, RN, APRN]

I've made my decision. I'm leaving. I have had about all I can conceivably stand.

Since I last posted, not a lot has changed. My collaborating doc was out of commission for a long while, which left the whole patient load for me. This was fine for a while, but there was no letup on the schedule. I let it go for a while, then asked for a meeting with my OM. Som other things I wished to discuss were the fact that I had been forbidden from either answering the phone or calling other physicians about patient matters, the fact that she's gone more than she's here, and the fact that since the edict about 'everyone wearing scrubs and tennis shoes', no one can tell me apart from the office staff. Plus, I hate scrubs.

I asked if the schedule could be adjusted to allow for only one provider, and was told that, for them to pay me the salary I was being paid, no break in the schedule would be made. I was told that I had an office staff to answer calls and call docs for me. But they don't. And I have to deal with the fallout. I was told that the girl that does our referrals was perfectly qualified to run the place and that the OM 'should be able to take every afternoon off and not have to worry about it'. I was told that OM didn't like my clothes. That wound up being the one concession she made. See, we have no written dress code. I dress decently. Nothing I would not wear to church. But she told us all that her Dad wanted everyone in scrubs and tennis shoes, and then later admitted it was a lie because she 'didn't want me to go off on her'. That would be understandable if I ever had. But I haven't.

Yesterday, I wore a brand new outfit, purchased from a high end store, from their 'Business Collection'. Said outfit was a skirt, top, cardi, and heels. The skirt hit about an inch from my knee. The heels were a trifle high, but manageable. I mentioned that I was going to order the same color flats on my lunch, and my OM says, in front of patients, "That's not the only thing you need to change. That skirt is too short." I disagreed but I kept my mouth shut. The patients in question asked what her problem was. And the day went on, every time I got a compliment on the outfit, you could just see the blood rise in her face. Again, I was covered from neck to knees. With stockings, even. After work, there was a note on my desk that she wanted to 'have a talk with me'. I was lambasted, told that I completely ignored her.

After questioning it, I determined that she had expected me to go buy a new outfit over my lunch! She even had taken pictures of me from the rear to show me how bad the skirt was. She took pictures of my butt without telling me! Which was adequately covered in every pic, by the way.

I thought it was just jealousy, catty as it sounds. I'm about 10 sizes smaller than she. But again, this was a business outfit, purchased just for work, that was nothing out of the way. I'll be the first to admit that I am one to push the envelope, but that was not the case in this instance.

So I'm to the point that just think, if it ain't chickens, it's feathers. If its not my clothes, it's something, that usually ends up being disproved. I can't win. I can't go to the Doc, he's her Daddy. And at this point, I'm done. I don't get paid enough to put up with this.

To put this in perspective, this kerfuffle was over a knee length skirt. When our medical assistant has been coming in with fuchsia hair for three months. I just think I'm being singled out and I'm done.

Any advice, short of wearing a ball gown with a train until I can find another position? Sorry for the rant.

[zenman]

Ask anyone there who gets on your nerves how much they bill. If the answer is nothing, tell them to get out of your face or they can get someone else to bring home the bacon. And tell them you hope they have a job till the new help arrives.

[reddgirl]

There is definitely something there with that. That sounds a bit catty to me. You are in a bit of a jam because her daddy is the MD. Maybe you should try having a one on one with her to see if your can crush the conflict?

[SlyFoxRN, BSN, RN]

Angelfire - I read your previous post too about being locked in a room due to the irate patient..

Let me tell you something - this is ABSOLUTELY jealousy. The office manager is jealous that she cannot look as good as you do, so she is trying to attack you and make you look bad. It's disgusting behavior, and I feel sorry for her. She clearly has nothing better to do with her life than attack a colleague for being prettier and more in shape than she is. It's pathetic.

If I were you, I'd start looking for another job before I quit. tough it out a little longer and start sending out those resumes, you'll find something before you know it - experienced NPs are in demand. Don't stay in this position - things will continue to escalate until the OM gets to the point of lying about something that could jeopardize your license and career. I've seen it happen before - I don't know why women act this way to each other, but it's only going to get worse. Her being the doc's daughter means you're already behind the 8 ball when something is said against you.

Good luck to you!

[MomaNurse]

I agree. Absolute jealousy. Need to get docs ear and let him know generally what issues you have had and that he needs to start the search for a new partner. You are being prevented from doing your job. If she is willing to lie about dress code, what else will she start doing to jerk you around? Maybe if you put it this way daddy will listen and do something.

[carachel2]

Oh. my. stars ! I don't have much to say other than....family in the office is just rough all around !

[mammac5]

Doesn't matter WHY she's doing all this crap. The only thing that matters is that you get out with your sanity. No man - physician or not - is going to put his spoiled little princess in her place to maintain a business relationship with an NP who is not related to him. Trust me, he does NOT need that grief at home.

Update your resume, start calling your contacts to let them know you're on the market, make sure you have 3 months of saving set aside to get you though, then give notice. And, hey, you can use your cute, knee-length skirt for your job interviews.

But I feel like this is deja vu and you've been given this same advice on multiple occasions in the past.

[AngelfireRN, MSN, RN, APRN]

It is. It has. I just had to get to my point. And I'm there. I really hate leaving my patients again. I love them. But I should have been gone long ago.

I just need to know I wasn't overreacting. She really crossed a line with me when she took those pics.

[Sippie]

Why is she taking pics of your butt in the office? She says it is to prove your skirt it too short. This is completely unprofessional and could borderline on sexual harassment...just something to think about.

Get copies of those pics. What if she was a guy who did that? Why should a female doing it to another female be any different...

[zmansc, ASN, RN]

Three words. Hostile Work Place.

Your posts alone should be sufficient documentation to make the MD or whomever owns this office run scared. I would do as have been suggested above, but also contact the state employment division and find out what your rights are. They have crossed the line many times in how they have treated you, and you have that in your back pocket in case their is any retribution for you quitting your job. Be professional, stay above the fray, tell the OM sternly and directly but professionally that she doesn't have the degree, you do, and you will continue to treat your patients as you see fit, that is your job, not hers.

BTW, know that when you turn in your written resignation it should have a date when you will last work on it. They can escort you to the door any day prior to that, but they must pay you until then (at least in my state that is the way it works). Know your rights, and document what is happening. I would also demand those pictures be removed and an apology, as that is definitely not appropriate behavior.

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

Agree get out

[Conqueror+, BSN, RN]

I think this is the first time I truly felt stress come through a computer screen. My entire body was tensed after reading your post. I am not an APN yet but I am a professional and this is NOT an environment for a professional to work in. Just leave.