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So I applied for another position. My boss has never said that there were any issues about my performance all year. My performance review was excellent. However the interviewer said that the boss made a statement that I had trouble with feedback. So I didn't get the job. Okay I approached my boss to ask if there was any communication issues. She said out of all the nurses on the ward I was the only one that she didn't know how to deal with. This was news to me. She also said because I changed my mind about being unpaid when I had sick leave that was an issue. I told her I changed my mind because I needed to pay bills. So I'm applying for other jobs but how can I get around someone who will say that about me. I need to use her as a reference because that's the system. I mean doesn't take feedback it sounds horrible like I become hostile or something. I've never had a problem like this with any of my bosses. I am quieter and tend to get on with my work. But a lot of the staff kiss her backside. I afraid that it will be impossible to move on.

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Ask her what it is about you that makes her feel she can't talk to you and work on it. It can't hurt.

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Specializes in Cardiac, Transplant, Intermediate Care.

Your boss sounds unprofessional and a little immature.

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Specializes in ICU/community health/school nursing.

Find someone else to use as a personal reference. The hospital HR can confirm your presence, status, and length of tenure.

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I can only work at my local hospital because of where I live. My boss is blocking my references basically saying I can't take feed back. So I do really well in interviews but don't get it because of the feedback. I was thinking about quitting then using my ex boss for references. That way I don't need to use her.

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I have never used a current boss for a reference. The only time my current boss learns I’m even looking is when I give notice. I would simply state that something like “my job search is confidential, so I am unable to authorize any contact with my current boss. I have my past x performance reviews and you may contact x, y, z, who all worked with me in the past.”

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No where I work it's a huge hospital there's no where closer. So the first person has to be your current boss.

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16 minutes ago, Flossy73 said:

No where I work it's a huge hospital there's no where closer. So the first person has to be your current boss.

I understand where you're coming from, as I'm in a similar situation where one corporation basically owns the entire locale. Is your boss the only manager you work under, or have you ever worked with an overnight/weekend/other off-shift supervisor you could use as a reference?

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No all the applications insist on the current charge nurse.

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On 3/5/2019 at 4:26 PM, Flossy73 said:

No all the applications insist on the current charge nurse.

Ok, there are ways to get around this.

At a previous job, the managers did NOT give references at all. If prompted, they would ignore the call or tell the HR person calling that they did not provide a reference and would refer them to the third party service which confirmed employee name, dates of service, and if the person was eligible for rehire. It was company policy. However, most nurses developed a professional relationship with a doctor, APRN, PA, etc. who you could ask to serve as a reference. If that person supervised your practice and is comfortable providing you a good reference, that might be the route to go.

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Specializes in Surgical, Home Infusions, HVU, PCU, Neuro.

Is there not another charge nurse that also works in the same unit? Surely that charge does not do doubles 7 days a week, right?

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No, do not quit and then try to get rehired. Bad idea.

You can bring up the feedback issue in an interview, by saying you look forward to any feedback during orientation. You want to succeed, and don't have a problem with constructive criticism. This undermines whatever your current manager has to say.

You are saying "charge nurse", when I think you mean manager; list your coworkers who are charge on the floor as extra references.

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