Flossy73

Post wasn't rambling nor did I use a guise. And I wasn't certainly not trying to run my own programme. I was the shift coordinator. I'm am not rude.

I have always been very proactive in supporting the people I work with, if i could get an extra nurse or if the ward acuity was high ask for a new admission to be transferred somewhere else. But this has changed everything and whether it's worth sticking your neck out to improve our working environment. However we have two wards, I was booked to be a floater however one of the regular staff did not turn up for work. As a floater we were told the role was to help out not take a load. So I declined to fill in and take a patient load but another nurse wanted to extend her hours so they were covered. The hospital manager called me and I was asked why I didn't take a patient load, I said my job was to float, also it was the managers job to find staff if wards were short. The ward I was on was fill of post op patient high acuity versus the other ward that was short and which had loads of empty beds. I kind of said the ward with the high acuity need me the most. So next morning a complaint went through to my boss that I was telling the manager what to do, that I was unprofessional, rude and refused to be deployed. My manager believed the complaint and warned me about my attitude and being rude. I wasn't. Don't managers believe in their staff anymore. Is it wrong to say it's the hospital managers job to find staff and was I wrong to refused to be deployed . Was I wrong to stick up for the ward who need me most. So now I'm seen as a rude unprofessional nurse who disobeyed manager orders. I feel these days we are supposed to be meak quiet nurses who just accept what the bosses tell us. That trying to support your colleagues that are drowning under high acuity workloads is futile. Anyway my manager believed the hospital manager even when thoughout my history of working for the organisation I've never had one person patient, visitor or colleague say I was unprofessional or rude. But I did disobey the hospital manager and refused deployment. Probably I should have saved myself grief and went to the other ward. I feel like leaving and starting again.

No all the applications insist on the current charge nurse.

No where I work it's a huge hospital there's no where closer. So the first person has to be your current boss.

I can only work at my local hospital because of where I live. My boss is blocking my references basically saying I can't take feed back. So I do really well in interviews but don't get it because of the feedback. I was thinking about quitting then using my ex boss for references. That way I don't need to use her.

So I applied for another position. My boss has never said that there were any issues about my performance all year. My performance review was excellent. However the interviewer said that the boss made a statement that I had trouble with feedback. So I didn't get the job. Okay I approached my boss to ask if there was any communication issues. She said out of all the nurses on the ward I was the only one that she didn't know how to deal with. This was news to me. She also said because I changed my mind about being unpaid when I had sick leave that was an issue. I told her I changed my mind because I needed to pay bills. So I'm applying for other jobs but how can I get around someone who will say that about me. I need to use her as a reference because that's the system. I mean doesn't take feedback it sounds horrible like I become hostile or something. I've never had a problem like this with any of my bosses. I am quieter and tend to get on with my work. But a lot of the staff kiss her backside. I afraid that it will be impossible to move on.

I'm definitely not incompetent. But I do agree that if someone is more dominating I tend to have some issue with that. I'm quite soft I think in my personality hence that's why I gave her my patients. I mean if a nurse ignored you like that what would you do ? Actually I spoke to that charge nurse today. She said that she wasn't sure how to approach me like I appear anxious or something. As for running away nope I I'm over working there and the drama. I think most of my life I had issues with bully types but it's hard to handle them.

Theres more to it. Another nurse went to her and said I didn't allocate patients properly. I gave her my patients with low acuity on night shift because she wanted them. I actually didn't want to give them up but I thought she doesn't handle nights looks stressed so will do that for her. So then she stormed out of the room and said it was unfair and didn't speak to me all shift. Even when I gave her what she wanted The other nurse with us noticed it but she never stood up for me. At the end of the shift that nurse went to my boss and said I gave her the worse patients. So called into her office and she believed that person and told me I should have worked it out. I was professional friendly to that nurse despite her ignoring me all night. But what could I do. So this was brought up in the reference check too. That nurse carried on her behaviour and still does. In fact she did that to someone else calling this poor girl a snake in front of visitors patients and staff. That person went to other job. I've been a nurse for a long time never had this happen. So I'm due to go back to work and I'm worrying that I won't be able to leave. Bullying does exist and there's a couple of people doing it some directly and a few going to the boss. With this person at the center. But this nurse is the bosses favourite . I need a miracle. My husband doesn't understand the culture of nursing he believes you just say get out of my face and that sorts it. It doesn't. I feel depressed about going there.

The interviewer told me everything my boss said. And asked me if we had a good relationship. I was off for a month following surgery. So I thought I would try for a new position because I'm bored and because it's not a nice place to work. So maybe she thought I was disloyal.

Hi, I go to interviews do well. However when I get to the reference check my current boss will say I'm a excellent nurse but I have a problem communicating with her. So I lose out. I have to use her as a reference but how can I get around it. Also she brings up a incidence where a other nurse didn't talk to me for two shifts because she said I allocated incorrectly and then after the shift went to the boss and complained. In fact I gave her my patients and she had the lowest acuity on the ward. And she lied and my boss believed her. How can I move on. I plan to give four weeks notice then I won't be an employee and I have asked a former charge nurse to give a reference.

Okay, so I asked to be reconsidered. However despite obviously having good references. They have asked me to find two nurse specialists to be referees. I don't know anyone. Why do people have to make it so hard. I'm a excellent nurse enjoy the job, my patients everything.

I have to go back to my normal job on Thursday, dreading it. I feel stressed already. I lost my confidence in allocating patients because the charge said that she heard whispers that I didn't do it fairly. Ive always been a good leader on the shift, but it changed everything because it was untrue.

The charge has already given a reference. I turned down the job but the interviewer told me what the charge said. I was excellent nurse but there was a problem with my communication with her. First problem I've had in my career. But I want to ask for a second chance to apply for that job. I did say I was a little unconfident with informatics. So maybe it's too late.

Big hugs coming your way. Be positive, patient and persistent ? Do not give up. I have been through this and one day the right job appeared. Think to yourself those other jobs weren't right for me because the one I should do is coming. As for anxiety before interview, be proud of who you are and what you achieved so far ?

Thank you for that. However we have to use the charge nurse. But I have an interview next week for casual. So things are looking up.