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Hello, I'm and RN who work in ICU unit since 3 years. I'm very nice open mind and very social person that I like to talk a lot to people around me. Anyway English is my second language and I had an incidents with some nurses that were making fun of my name or the way I spell some words which was not a big deal for me and I always considered that as a jock and it never got me to the point that I been mad or anything. Last week I got called on my phone by my charge nurse and she said its important to come to the nursing station and I was busy in a patient's room so she said to come asap because it's important. Any way I walked to the nursing station and there was my charge with 4 staff nurses and many people around there and she was telling me to repeat words and started to laugh loudly about the way I said it and all the other nurses were encouraging her and mocking my accent loudly and that made me really mad, I told her this is inappropriate and not professional and I walked a way while they kept laughing. I reported that to my manger and she immediately reported that to HR. Anyway I'm so worry because I never been involved in any situation like this, and I'm worry about what HR will do, I don't want anyone to get fire or discipline and I really don't know if I even did the right thing by reporting that to my manger. I feel like it's not a big deal but obviously according to my manger it is a huge deal. I need your opinion guys of what to do in cases like these because I'm really very confused because I don't want people to start avoiding me or retaliate against me after this.

You did the right thing. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself. I was in the same situations too before (2017- Jan.2018). One of my co-workers in a nursing facility, not a hospital, always did that to me too. Other nurses make fun or laugh with my accent ONLY if this one Charge Nurse was there because she always started the bullying. One day, I was tired of her for correcting and laughing at my accent in front of co-workers (nurses) and CNAs and talked to her in private. I told her that what she's doing to me is bullying and if she will not stop it, then I will report her. She apologized to me and since then she never bully or embarrasses me again in front of my co-workers.

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I'm sorry. But, I hope they get reprimanded and then some. We KNOW this is unacceptable, doing it anyway is willful ignorance and bullying.

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OP, keep your head held high, you were absolutely not a fault.

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Specializes in Cardiology, School Nursing, General.
I have worked with many nasty cliques. This group is not going to change with "training". I don't mean to scare you, but get ready to move on.

Best wishes.

I agree. Even if they were called out, they will then start to make your life harder because they will know you reported them. I would also find another job.

It will be even worse if they are good with HR.

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Shame on them! Good for you for standing up for you. When faced like things like this, remember THIS:

YOU are who you surround yourself with. If you don't want to ever be like those people who were so short sighted, unprofessional and just outright *******s in that moment.....then remember it's not a loss for you to not have them talk or associate with you. Don't let this ever make you think you are "wrong" or "not worthy".

Honestly, are they who you want to be associated with?

The people who glow and do the right things in this world will be attracted to you, as you are to them. If you let worry enter into your life over those who clearly don't deserve it, then you are allowing them take up the space that could be available for AMAZING people in your life. Free up that worry and seek out the MENTORS and people you wish to be. Surround yourself with those people because they are worth more than the many that you could allow in just due to tolerance.

Don't let people/behavior like that take up space in your life. PLEASE.

Here's some things to help:

1. KNOW WHO YOU ARE. - What are your values? Who do you see yourself being in the future? If you know this, you will never have to question or worry about what others think because YOU are doing what is RIGHT by you. STAND FIRM in who you are....don't doubt yourself.

2. BE STRONG, You are NOT ALONE - Remember you are never alone. There are many people who will benefit from your efforts. If you stand up for yourself, you have also stood up for those that follow you. Those ladies will think twice about doing that to another person. YOU ARE A HERO.

3. People deal with the consequences of THEIR ACTIONS. Knowing who you are allows you to be prepared and deal with the consequences that come from your actions. You choose to protect yourself and it is likely that it will work. Those ladies who chose to harass and discriminate against you will deal with their actions. This is the way life works. If they aren't adult enough to deal with their actions, they shouldn't be doing them. Period.

4. Forgive. First...forgive yourself for second guessing your action and perhaps for waiting too long to take action the first time it happened. Second...forgive them and pray that their ignorance is lifted. Feel sorry for them and how it must be to live with such a shallow mind.

Hope this helps. :)

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You did the right thing. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself. I was in the same situations too before (2017- Jan.2018). One of my co-workers in a nursing facility, not a hospital, always did that to me too. Other nurses make fun or laugh with my accent ONLY if this one Charge Nurse was there because she always started the bullying. One day, I was tired of her for correcting and laughing at my accent in front of co-workers (nurses) and CNAs and talked to her in private. I told her that what she's doing to me is bullying and if she will not stop it, then I will report her. She apologized to me and since then she never bully or embarrasses me again in front of my co-workers.

You were very kind and wise to not confront her in front of others. You were brave to do so too! Not many people would do this. You must be an incredible nurse. :)

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"You were very kind and wise to not confront her in front of others. You were brave to do so too! Not many people would do this. You must be an incredible nurse."

@airasalia Thank you!

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Dialysis.

Wow, your charge nurse called you away from patient care to make fun of your accent? With the rest of the staff playing along? That is so terribly wrong and I am so sorry that happened to you. I am glad your manager is taking this seriously. That behavior is beyond bullying, it's discrimination based on your race and ethnicity and that's illegal.

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Thank you everyone for your encouragement. I had and interview with HR today and I hope things better from here but I'm just worry about what will be the outcomes of this. I told my manger that I like to switch to a different shift because I wont be comfortable working with her after this but this will take at least a month so I have to just ignore her and focus on my job. I'm not looking for another job because I did nothing wrong.

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Hey you are a brave lady and did nothing wrong. Right and wrong have little to do with this. It's a toxic environment that flourished under the watchful eyes of the same hr folks and management types u talked to today. I admire you for not running from these idiots and I pray that this job isn't more trouble than it's worth for you brave lady. Good luck!!!!

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Thank you everyone for your encouragement. I had and interview with HR today and I hope things better from here but I'm just worry about what will be the outcomes of this. I told my manger that I like to switch to a different shift because I wont be comfortable working with her after this but this will take at least a month so I have to just ignore her and focus on my job. I'm not looking for another job because I did nothing wrong.

Exactly, you did nothing wrong. I respect you standing up for yourself and reporting this. If they did this to you, they'll do this to someone else as well. Hope your manager & HR are able to not only support you but educate your co-workers on such behaviors. I do hope that things improve and you are able to switch shifts soon.

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