I need advice with a personal issue...

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Has anyone here juggled school from 8am-3pm and drop off and pick up a child from middle school and then go to work, (not to mention study time as well) all at the same time with NO HELP FROM ANYONE, and paying for it all your self along with phone bill and car insurance etc..

I am almost done with my CNA and I would like to get into LPN-RN route and I take care of sister but LPN is days not nights, which I work for my BF during the day. If I leave and work else where then I will pay for my cell, car, gas, which he is paying for now...

I will try and I hope it works out but if anyone has any ideas can you let me know?

I do have 1 friend that watches my sister, but she ran into a medical crisis with her daughter and I would be foolish to continue to have my sis over there while she is going through a tough time. My BF is to busy and cannot watch my sister, she is 12 years old and really isnt responsible to be alone in the house. Ughh...no family to rely on. Please if anyone out there did this would you care to talk about it with me?

thanks a lot:o

Hello-

I can tell you from personal experience that what you want to accomplish is very very hard!...while in my BSN program I worked 30+ hours per week, studied, went to classes and clinicals. I dont have kids so I didnt have that added stressor. My advice is that you may need to find another job or rearrange your schedule, thats what I had to do and a I worked for a major corporation which was challenging but I did it. When you complete your CNA then you can find jobs with different schedules in hospitals, SNFs, etc. Also you have to commit to making your school your priority and your job second to that and then push and fight for it to work for you. The biggest thing that you need to do right from the get go is prioritize and time management. As far as paying the bills, I resisted this for so long but finally gave in, get the student loans. I am going to be brutally honest with you here....but this goal that you are setting out to accomplish is for you and your future, your BF may help you out right now but make it work on your own, its your goal and you need to take full responsibility for it, you will be so proud of yourself when you do it. Again, not to fool yourself it will be hard and there will be days that you tell yourself that you cant do it anymore, but you get up the next day and do it all over again. I too didnt have any sort of family support to rely so I understand that too. As far as your sister goes, she's gotta grow up at some time and being on her own and being self sufficient is not a bad thing. Possibly look into after school programs as well. Your education is so important and will take you further in life so dont pass it up, you dont want any regrets.

Good Luck!!!

Prayer does work. No matter who or what you higher power may be. Put your keys under your bed before you go to sleep. then when you get up you can hit your knees first thing. I promise it will help. Just try it for a month. Get a calendar and fill in all your hours ,specifically write down what you are suppose to be doing every hour.

See if anything can be elimiated. If not...then just plan, plan, plan . Allow a specific amount of time for task that you must get done.

Do not spend too much time on just one.

Thoughtfully consider what your priorities are are keep them in mind.

First things first.

Seriously Commit to giving yourself a half hour everyday to "meditate" or whatever works for you. just go somewhere be quite and still and breath deeply. If you are not self aware and caring for yourself you wont be fit to help anyone else.

Trust that most things work themselves out if we let go and allow our higher power to manage our lives without a lot of input from ourselves.

Your peace of mind is directly related to your expectations of yourself and others. When you let these expectations go ....you will be happier and more content.

Being motivated and willing to work at accomplishing your aspirations is the first and sometimes the hardest decision to make. You will be glad you did all the sacrificing when you are done.

There are many programs right now with our new President for help in going to school. Many grants ,scholarships and even programs to help with your family that needs health care.

If you want help, ask for it it is available.

The answers are available.

Get oneline find the applications. Calla local school of nursing and get into the RN program. Forget the CNA class if you want to be a RN. Get the loans, the help with childcare, the family home health issues,etc.

Many have done this without family support.

Your family of nurses will be here to encourage you.

Jesse

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okay, I understand.

Wow these posts brought me to tears literately! Thank you for the these words of encouragement and truth. Thank you so much. Im sure I'll re-read these:thankya::thankya:

Specializes in Peri-Op.

It is doable. I did it. My wife worked and my schedule was like this for pre requisite courses.

Get kids to Schiller in am.

Work 7-4

Be home when kids get out of school.

Make dinner

School 6-9/10

Sleep. And do homework on weekends when I can.

I did and online adn program that didn't require an lvn as a prerequisite. Through Delmar in corpus Christi TX. It is paced by you. I did all the work in spare time at work and would go watch the kids play on the weekends with my laptop in hand. If you don't have a good relationship with the HF this could break you up

I wish you the best of luck and success. If I can do it, you can and will:)

If your BF is busy and out of the house, that is one thing, but if he is in the house, there is no reason why he can't check on your sister every so often. He probably visits the frig on occasion, and that is when he could check on her.

How about working as a CNA during the day and taking your prereqs online through a CC (community college) for your RN? That way you can be at home while working on your RN. By the time you get done with the prereqs you are able to do online, your sister will be a bit older and able to take care of herself. Even when you finally get into the program, clinical is usually on one day and lecture/conference is another day. If you can't do it online, CC have classed in the evening and on weekends.

There are also part time programs for LPNs that take about 22 months and are usually only 2 days per week.

If you go with your original plan, see if you can a student loan and hire someone to watch your sister. College students would be a good fit. Since your sister is old enough to entertain herself, the college student could still study.

Hopefully that gives your some ideas.

Specializes in Medical Assistant, Peds.

First off, I want to commend you for raising your sister. She is very lucky to have you.

That said, you have a career under your belt. Would it be possible to work as a CNA for a year or two before going back to school for nursing? My concern would be in spreading yourself too thin. It could have negative effects not only on your schooling, but your relationship and health of both you and your sister.

What about going to school part time?

First off, I want to commend you for raising your sister. She is very lucky to have you.

That said, you have a career under your belt. Would it be possible to work as a CNA for a year or two before going back to school for nursing? My concern would be in spreading yourself too thin. It could have negative effects not only on your schooling, but your relationship and health of both you and your sister.

What about going to school part time?

My BF said to wait 4 years to go for LPN-RN bridge route:uhoh3:

b/c by then my sister will be driving (she's 12 now, I had her since she was 8 and right now Im 25). THATS WAY TO LONG!!:smackingf But I can do two years and see how things go until then. It is very hard being sister and parent at the same time. My BF is an air pilot and is currently in training with an instructor on acrobatics! He runs his own business and far to busy! I have completed a volunteer app to my local hospital and will fax it in tomorrow, Im not certified yet...

But I was trying to plan out my day based on either working 8 hour shifts in LTC or 12 hour shifts in Hospital and going to school and studying and pick/dropp my sister at school. I really dont see much time for her or studying, let alone keep up with the house cleaning and all my animals! SOOOO... I might as well have to wait! Thanks again for the advice all of you.

Specializes in acute rehab, med surg, LTC, peds, home c.

Is there and after school program or something she can go to? How about a "big sister" program you could get her involved in? Can she join some after school activities? All of these things would keep her busy and out of trouble and give you a break. Good luck.

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