my bf and i are considering getting married in march. he has not proposed yet, and we haven't officially set a date, but we are seriously considering getting married soon. we have lots of specific reasons, that are legit. one example is that it will save us lots of money being toghether. we also don't believe pre-marrital sex so shacking up isn't an option. i graduate( hopefully) in july, we were hoping to tie the knot in march during spring break.
we don't want a big wedding. we will probably just have 50 guest, and the wedding and reception will be in the same hall.
has anyone ever gotten married while in nursing school before ? is it really stressful to plan the whole event ?
am i just flat out crazy for considering this ? my bf is so supportive of me being in school, so i know he won't distract me much. anyway, just looking for some advice here. thanks you guys in advance.
My fiance and I are getting married in June, right smack in the middle of Psych for Summer Session, and I have managed to plan almost the entire wedding. We have been engaged for over a year, but I just started planning in July, and I have everything done except the minor details and we are going to have 125-150 people there. If it is something you and your BF are set on, I would say GO FOR IT! I am having a blast planning the wedding, and I still study ALL the time, obsessively!
see the vegas idea sounds great too me! i hate the idea of planning a wedding anyway. don't get me wrong, i love attending these beautiful elaborate weddings. they really end up being wonderful but, my idea of "magic" and "romance" is spending that special day with the 2 people that i want to be there most, my daughter and "the one".
to the op:
good luck and i guess an (early!) congrats to your future! lots of new exciting things coming your way at once :)
I think, where there is a will, there is a way. If God wants you to be married, then He will provide a way for it to happen... not to say that it won't be difficult... but a bit more painless...
My boyfriend and I may get married while I'm in school. Purely for financial reasons. We've been together for over 7 years, and lived together for over 3. But, with the job market the way it is, I could cover him with my student insurance if it becomes necessary. But, chances are, our "wedding" would be nothing more than legal paperwork done in City Hall. I don't need a piece of paper to prove I'm committed, and the whole idea of a big 'wedding' never appealed to me. So, I can't speak for experience, but it I'll likely join the married rank while in school.
I agree with other people in trying to get help from friends and family to get the wedding to happen (unless you can plan the whole thing before school starts). You may need to postpone the 'honeymoon' until later, but wouldn't it make a great graduation present?
I'm going to be the stick in the mud and break the positive streak of responses
It's January, he has not propsed yet, and you are looking to get married in 2 months? And you can't hold out until July?
I have to ask this question... and I am only asking from life experience.... how old are you?
I married the love of my life (AKA my ex-husband) the month after graduating from nursing school at a very young age. Planned the wedding throughout my two years in school. It wasn't terribly stressful, but it certainly was more of my priority, psychologically. I'll just say the whole thing ended up very bad.
But that's just one person's story. Obviously others prevailed. I just wish I hadn't been in such a hurry to do it.
It all depends on you and your support group around you. You need to assess what is available to you and the time you have to accomplish all you want to do. What is your comfort level. Are you able to plan a wedding and concentrate on your education too. So get out the paper and start writing down all the things already in your life and do you have the extra time and money to plan and carry out a wedding now or would later be a better time for the ceremony giving you more time to plan now. Our son got married on Feb 14, quickly planned with a Justice of the Peace, you could also ask a Pastor to do it. Then he renewed his vows in a garden ceremony in the back yard and had a nice reception under a big tent. It's all up to you and what memories are most meaningful for you. Personally as a mom I would want my daughter to give me at least 6 months to plan and execute with peace and not add the stress of time to our lives. You have the rest of your lives together 6-7 more months won't make that much of a difference. You could spend this time in pre marriage learning about each other and have fun planning and shopping for future life together. It's a special time in your life, planning your future together, take your time and don't rush, and take lots of pictures of your adventures together. If you got married after graduation you could take time off to settle into your new home before you start your new job. And you could take a nice long honeymoon to someplace wonderful.
In the big scheme of things a few months will not make a difference. You need to focus on school, your last semester and studying for the NCLEX. A secure job will make a great deal of difference in the stability of early marriage. Wait until after graduation to get married and then you can focus your time on your new job and your new husband. The first few months of marriage are sometimes difficult- you are learning how to live with someone else and to learn about your new roles and each others expectations of husband and wife. Adding the stress of nursings school and NCLEX could make this a frustrating time instead of a fun time in your early married life.
Been engaged for 2 years, waiting till I graduate. I want my wedding to be a celebration of love, and have a sense of accomplishment walking down the aisle.
Just me though ..I would wait till he proposed, what do your parents think?
In the big scheme of things a few months will not make a difference. You need to focus on school, your last semester and studying for the NCLEX. A secure job will make a great deal of difference in the stability of early marriage. Wait until after graduation to get married and then you can focus your time on your new job and your new husband. The first few months of marriage are sometimes difficult- you are learning how to live with someone else and to learn about your new roles and each others expectations of husband and wife. Adding the stress of nursings school and NCLEX could make this a frustrating time instead of a fun time in your early married life.
A resounding AMEN!!
OP, take it from someone that's been married longer than you've been on earth you really should read and REread jack_rachels_mom's post. Then read it AGAIN! I think that is some of the best advice I've seen on allnurses.
SamanthaGCSN
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My fiance and I are getting married in June, right smack in the middle of Psych for Summer Session, and I have managed to plan almost the entire wedding. We have been engaged for over a year, but I just started planning in July, and I have everything done except the minor details and we are going to have 125-150 people there. If it is something you and your BF are set on, I would say GO FOR IT! I am having a blast planning the wedding, and I still study ALL the time, obsessively!
Good luck!