I may be getting married while in nursing school- HELP

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Specializes in LTC.

hello everyone,

my bf and i are considering getting married in march. he has not proposed yet, and we haven't officially set a date, but we are seriously considering getting married soon. we have lots of specific reasons, that are legit. one example is that it will save us lots of money being toghether. we also don't believe pre-marrital sex so shacking up isn't an option. i graduate( hopefully) in july, we were hoping to tie the knot in march during spring break.

we don't want a big wedding. we will probably just have 50 guest, and the wedding and reception will be in the same hall.

has anyone ever gotten married while in nursing school before ? is it really stressful to plan the whole event ?

am i just flat out crazy for considering this ? my bf is so supportive of me being in school, so i know he won't distract me much. anyway, just looking for some advice here. thanks you guys in advance.

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Specializes in Pediatric/Adolescent, Med-Surg.

Two of my classmates got married while in nursing school, and both of them successfully graduated. I think it helped though, that their weddings just happened to be planned in semesters that weren't quite as stressful (psych), so they probably had a little more time to devote to wedding plans. Good luck.

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Specializes in LTC.

Thanks, its nice to know that it is possible, we are still weighing out some options, but we are happy two people done it.

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I dont mean to understand your relationship or values but...

If cohabitation is not an option because you two dont believe in pre-marital sex, are you two getting married mainly to circumvent that? (The goal being cohabitation to save money, not the sex - but it can be both, I dont know) And if you are getting married mainly for financial/secular(not sexual) reasons, it seems like you will just be exchanging the stress and expense of living separately for that of a marriage ceremony.

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Specializes in LTC.

My BF is the love of my life. I really want to spend the rest of my life with him. I was just naming the benefits of marriage, but also mainly because I love him.

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I dont mean to insinuate that you dont love him and are doing this purely for convenience. Its just that marriage is as much of a government institution as it is spiritual or romantic, it might be more pragmatic to say... go to vegas, get technically married for 50$, enjoy all the benefits of marriage and living together, then plan a big elaborate ceremony sometime in the future when its more convenient. Sure, its not as magical and storybook as having a big ceremony to begin with, but the combined stress of school and a big wedding does not sound very appealing either. Just my point of view.

Ill probably be in the minority here, or flat out alone on this one. This is a predominantly girl's forum after all, and you will probably get alot of "love conquers all" advice...:p

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Specializes in LTC.
I dont mean to insinuate that you dont love him and are doing this purely for convenience. Its just that marriage is as much of a government institution as it is spiritual or romantic, it might be more pragmatic to say... go to vegas, get technically married for 50$, enjoy all the benefits of marriage and living together, then plan a big elaborate ceremony sometime in the future when its more convenient. Sure, its not as magical and storybook as having a big ceremony to begin with, but the combined stress of school and a big wedding does not sound very appealing either. Just my point of view.

Ill probably be in the minority here, or flat out alone on this one. This is a predominantly girl's forum after all, and you will probably get alot of "love conquers all" advice...:p

And this is why I absolutely love this forum... I totally appreciate your point of view, this is why I posted it to get everyones different point of views, this will help me make a better informed decision. Thanks alot Aragornskywalker, I totally see where you are coming from ! :D

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Specializes in Pediatric Intensive Care, Urgent Care.

If you graduate in July...why not wait until then? Is your guys finances that tight that you need to do it now...otherwise it may seem like a better idea to wait...especially since your graduation is around the corner! Anyways good luck!

Mex

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Specializes in Home Health, Case Management, OR.

I got married last April during nursing school and it worked out just fine. I had a free absence for clinicals so I took the friday before the wedding off and skipped class that following monday. You may want to look into waiting until later on though for the fact that it is very hard to plan a wedding that fast! It is much less stressful if you have plenty of time to get things done as you have time. The plus side of getting married in March, even though it is fast, is that it is not wedding season and you very well may get some good discounts from your venders!! Weigh your options! Good luck with school and your upcoming wedding and marriage!!

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If its a small wedding w/ about 50 guests, and the ceremony is at the same place w/ the reception, I don't see why it would be that stressful. we planned my sisters in less then 3 months. each of us took control of something. if you delegate and see if family members could help with certain aspects it should be fine. flowers, get some from a market and tie them with a ribbon. cake it is ordered and set up by bakery, food the hall usually does that. we set up an aisle in the center of the dance floor for her to go down with an arch at the end. after the ceremony a couple cousins set all the chairs back at the tables while pics were taken and food set up. it was organized and ran smoothly. just get a planner keep everything in one place and take it task by task.

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Specializes in LTC.

Thanks. My spring break is in April , so if we did get married it would be on spring break. We did find a place that would do everything for a very low price including : wedding, reception, photos, and cake ! Thanks for all the replies. I will keep you guys updated !

But for now, wish me luck in OB and medsurg !

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Specializes in HCA, Physch, WC, Management.

I am still trying to get my boyfriend to reconsider his whole ""let's get married right away" idea because I have a feeling that since he is working full-time as an LPN I will not qualify for much-needed financial aid if we get married while I am still in school. My income is not very substantial right now because I am living at home and so I can afford to only work weekends now. I can't afford to pay for school out of pocket and it would be a strain on us as a married couple if we had to do that right now.

If your only concern is whether or not you will have time to plan a wedding while you are in school then I would say go for it and let him plan it. I told my DBF that if he wanted a wedding and he wanted it soon that not only would "he" he paying for the remaining year and a half of my schooling potentially but he could expect little to NO help from me in planning anything because my school work comes first. He decided he was okay with that so... maybe your DBF would be interested in doing the planning too??

I know of a second year student at my school who managed to plan and pull off a very large wedding last year during school so I know it can be done. Will just take some team-work!

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