I don't hate my job, I hate the people I work with

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Specializes in Tele.

So fast forward from LVN graduation, NCLEX testing, passing, and getting my first job. I've been at my current employer for over half a year. Like most new grads I was tossed to the sharks. (Don't get me wrong I'm thankful I have a job) I used to dread going in the first two months because I felt like I was expected to perform superiorly things I was not trained to do. I progressed greatly because I discovered quick yet efficient ways to do things. The whole time I didn't doubt my love for nursing, this is what I want to do.

Here is my problem.

I work predominantly with females and a few MDs.

They are very cliquey (talk about each other's lives in front of patients, discuss gossip etc)

Have noticed I am a hard worker so they get lazy.

Ostracize you because you don't love to get drunk or have promiscuous sex or pretend that you do and kiss their ass.

I don't go to work to make friends, but it frustrating because I feel alone.

It ****** me off. I've already told the supervisor and she doesn't really do anything about it. I feel like the harder I work the more lazy the people I work with will be. I'm not lazy because I know if I don't do tasks we'll be staying overtime. I've even told them to pick it up. I'm out of ideas. I know I can probably get a new job in a few months, but what if I go to another one and everyone is the same? Sigh.

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Specializes in Family Nurse Practitioner.

What a shame that your team isn't more cohesive. I'd definitely do share days to get a feel for the team if you do decide to change jobs. There are a couple of people I work with that aren't very motivated and I do end up doing the bulk of the work but in the big picture I'd rather stay busy anyway. Truth is there are always a few rotten apples but for my own sanity I try to appreciate their good qualities, yes they usually have one good quality even if its just a funny sense of humor despite being the laziest person to ever walk upright, lol. Hang in there.

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Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.

Are these other nurses you are working with or CNAs? I would probably slow down a bit. Not enough to stall the entire show, but in order to save yourself. I agree with Jules in that I like to be busy, but, to take on the entire load leaves room for error and frustration. I might say something like "I'll do the coverage while you do dressings" or something to that effect.

You have already acknowledged that you don't work to make friends, but you feel isolated, so I totally understand your frustration.

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Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.
What a shame that your team isn't more cohesive. I'd definitely do share days to get a feel for the team if you do decide to change jobs. There are a couple of people I work with that aren't very motivated and I do end up doing the bulk of the work but in the big picture I'd rather stay busy anyway. Truth is there are always a few rotten apples but for my own sanity I try to appreciate their good qualities, yes they usually have one good quality even if its just a funny sense of humor despite being the laziest person to ever walk upright, lol. Hang in there.

:yeah:You are so funny, Jules, and absolutely correct. There are a few, as disgusting as they are with keeping up with their share of work that do actually make my day.

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Specializes in Family Nurse Practitioner.
:yeah:You are so funny, Jules, and absolutely correct. There are a few, as disgusting as they are with keeping up with their share of work that do actually make my day.

Lol I work with a tech who I absolutely love despite the fact that she is late for almost every shift and I don't think I have seen her do one lick of work in over a year. She just cracks me up and that has to be worth something, right?

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Specializes in LTC.

I feel ya on the lazy part! I have to say that I like about 95% of who I work with...and there are just a few that I absolutely dread coming in behind or in front of b/c they are sooooooo slack and like to play like they dont know things. I watched a nurse who has several years experience and has worked at my place as long as me pretend like she didnt know how to look at someones skin....I wanted to just ring her neck for playing so naive....but seriously....the one person on my shift who absolutely irks my last god given nerve....is the laundry girl! I hate it when she works....she parks this huge linen cart in my way and if she sees me going into a room to give meds or whatever...she gets in my way and starts talking stupid to me. Shes interrupted me several times when I was drawing up insulin..and a few times i had to end up trashing the med b/c she would yell out at me and I'd get the mix wrong and start over...well....after about 4x of her pullin that stunt with me....I put her in her place and told her that if she saw me in a room or at the door to a room that she would have to go to a different one til Im done b/c their meds and bld sugars were higher up on the totem pole than getting a clothes hanger out of their closet....the fact I had killlllller pms didnt work in her favor either but hey....she doesnt park that thing in my way anymore and she dont try to shove me outta the way...and shes not as loud as she used to be. she asked me one day if i was trying to ignore her...and mind you she was steady yelling "hello hello hello..." at me over and over and i just replied..."im trying to...i heard you the first 10 times that the floor is wet.".. and she is the worst at riling up dementia patients who are already agitated...takes me hours to get them calmed down....u guys would just have to see this girl to believe it..she'd melt nerves of steel

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.

" ...I hate the people I work with " by questforloveandpeace :rolleyes: :chuckle :yeah:good one

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.

A serious thought: Over the years I've heard "I'm here to work, not to make friends" many times, but it's so much easier to positively influence a friend's behavior.

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Specializes in Telemetry Med/Surg.
A serious thought: Over the years I've heard "I'm here to work, not to make friends" many times, but it's so much easier to positively influence a friend's behavior.

I hear you systoly, however, being someone's friend just to influence their behavior is flat out devilish:angryfire

How is it possible to make friends with people that are flat out devilish?:angryfire

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.
I hear you systoly, however, being someone's friend just to influence their behavior is flat out devilish:angryfire

How is it possible to make friends with people that are flat out devilish?:angryfire

:devil: I sense your curiosity - wanna be my friend?

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A serious thought: Over the years I've heard "I'm here to work, not to make friends" many times, but it's so much easier to positively influence a friend's behavior.

Sounds like manipulation to me. Isn't this behavior some type of personality disorder we studied in psych nursing. Anyway, I'm not bashing. Do whatever you have to do to get ahead. But there are a few people who can see straight through that Maybelline....

Just like you have the uncannily ability to persuade, I have the uncannily ability to feel the intent of someone's heart so to speak...Lol!

Be careful

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.
Sounds like manipulation to me. Isn't this behavior some type of personality disorder we studied in psych nursing. Anyway, I'm not bashing. Do whatever you have to do to get ahead. But there are a few people who can see straight through that Maybelline....

Just like you have the uncannily ability to persuade, I have the uncannily ability to feel the intent of someone's heart so to speak...Lol!

Be careful

I mean no harm, friend. I am a Dale Carnegie fan.

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