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sasha2lady

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  1. Last week I discovered that a spouse of one of my patients has a tape recorder in the room & has been recording staff when they come in the room. The spouse also writes down every single thing we do in the room & has been very accusatory, forgetful, argumentative & agitated towards staff. 3 nurses have seen her with the recorder and the other nurses heard themselves on it when the spouse hit the play button by mistake. I spoke to a supervisor about this and found out that management is well aware of it yet has done nothing about it. I think its illegal to record us without our knowledge or permission. If this spouse were to take this to court for whatever insane reason, it wouldnt stand most likely. I dont understand the reasoning behind it because there has been nothing to my knowledge to warrant this. The spouse stays 24/7 & is extremely suspicious of everything we do & has made countless complaints & accused staff of not checking on the patient, even though this spouse has assisted with care many many times & watches us like a hawk to the point that its more of a burden than a help. Also, after talking to the supervisor it was brought to my attention that the spouse has also smacked the patient several times demanding that they get up and walk, talk and eat etc...the patient is the victim of a massive devastating stroke that has taken most of their abilities away from them, making it impossible to return to what was a normal lifestyle 3 months ago. They have done nothing about this alleged smacking either except threaten the family with a call to DSS. I thought that if they knew of "abuse" it was to be reported immediately to a higher power...even it was just suspected abuse. This spouse has done this in front of 3 different staff members according to the supervisor. My question is this, is it legal for this spouse to be recording us? When I go in the room I dont ever go alone...none of us do. I document every single time i go in and what Ive done etc. I just dont appreciate being recorded with no good reason and without my permission. Should management not have stepped in and did something about this privacy violation to its staff? Are nurses (and c.n.a's) not supposed to have some type of privacy protection in their place of employment? Please note, all the spouses accusations and complaints prior have been unfounded according to the supervisor I spoke with.
  2. I've heard some doozies for call INS to work. 1. Dog having puppies 2. I'm having a miscarriage when I could hear a party in the background 3. I'm tired 4. I worked yesterday 5. Out of gas 6. I'm going out of town just to name a few what excuses have you heard for someone to use to not come to work
  3. Just curious here but what do you do in your free time and on days off ? In general how much free time do you actually get? In mine I work 2 prn jobs to make up for pay I lose when I take vacation time but I like going to the beach or a lake or riding through the mountains. I also play with my toddler or just catch up on tv shows or clean house . How do you keep from bringing work home with you ?
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    "Nurses Eating Their Young"

    when I was a new nurse I was terrified !! I never thought Id "get it" or "be like them" because they all seemed to know sooo much more than me I have only got to train a few nurses in the past few years but I they are still around so something must have went right. My coworkers, 2 of them actually, WERE MY nurses when I had my son in the hospital. That was a lil weird but oh well. But......what about nurses who have the same amount of experience as you do, who come to work at the same place as you yet they act and come across like they just know absolutely everything? What about the new ones who come in who think they dont need any training? And dont want to hear any help you can offer? A nurse I went to school with came to work where I do, got the most sought after positioin straight away from her hire date, charts like a textbook which is very questionable when one sees it, and manages to leave early every sngle day..out of 6 12 hour shifts in a 2 wk period, she might work one full shift. Yet, in school, she was the biggest airhead known to man kind hahaha....my how things change?
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    Nurse Vs Daughter! Help Me!!!

    Still waiting on him to call my brother back. My brother said that he is working for the next 7 days or so...but he left a message with that wife to have him call him back. Ive been keeping in touch regularly with my brother to get updates on this. I still hope he can come through for me. He is my best shot at getting this done. If my dad does call, I wonder what the best way to start off the conversation would be? I havent even let my mind wander that far ahead yet.
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    What boundaries do you set?

    yep, you can bring a good lunch to eat and never touch it sometimes. As far as the wt loss..that happens too...happened to me. Ive went from nearly 140 to 110 in the past 6 months. I dont have a good diet though....junk food mostly and caffeine to keep me going most nights....bad habits yes...but...thats how it is sometimes. And yes, you need to be able to say no in some instances. Ive been hounded on the phone to come in before and the more they do it, the less responsive I get.I also tend to pick and choose who I will work for. I will work for someone if they want to switch or if they get sick and call in IF I know that they will return the favor to me....if they are not the type to return favors or pull their share, my answer is always immediately NO NO NO! You will figure out who these people are in your workplace quick! Caller ID is a good investment. I dont even give out my cell number at work...only a few trusted coworkers have it, but no one else & its not in the employee directory.
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    Coding visitors?

    I guess in a hospital setting it would be different but I work in ltc so I personally wouldn't code a visitor unless it was a child because we woulnt have a legal responsibility for a visitor . I would call 911 though . we might be covered under the good samaritan law nut Iyself still wouldn't risk it in my setting.
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    How well do you get along with your coworkers?

    I'm not nutty..... I'm aggravated at this chicks behavior. I'm not mean to anybody I work with. And don't appreciate being her target when I've done nothing to her. I relalize not everybody believes in hood / evil but I do and she reeks of evil . If you could actually see how she does it would make more sense I'm sure . I've never said or done anything to make her want to act like a bratty five year old toward me. She changed several months ago when she started hanging out with a nurse who doesn't like me, that's when I first noticed changes in her attitude and behavior IRS just gotten worse as the days go on and it's not like I ask anybody about her. I stay to myself and my pts when I work. I cover my butt religiously.
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    How well do you get along with your coworkers?

    Ty I did consider job hunting but then I thought nope I will not leave a job because if a nasty aide who hates life and people so much she van be the one to go . I had a nurse call me to ask me about a policy tonight and she was upset with this same aide who was giving her a hard time too and this nurse never bothers nobody she overheard this aide on the phone wirh the DON complaining. My thing is this, don't be mean to people and you won't be reported . She did wrong and got caught yet blames others for it, mainly me. I keep documentation of all this just in case I need to refer back. The day she finally says her remarks about me to me or in my presence where I hear it myself I'll be filling out a writeup . All bark and no bite gets old if I was the boss I'd be suck of getting calls and complaints from the same person all the time .
  10. How well do you get along with your coworkers? Even the ones you truly dislike? How do you make it manageable ? I make an effort to get along with all my coworkers yet I'm having a huge problem with one aide.. She had a complaint made on her from several a&ox3 patients and the day nurse told e about them so I would know what to be looking for on night shift. I didn't say anything I just observed and nothing took place on my shift with her except one aphasic pt was in full blown hysterics when she would go in her room so I told her I would do that pts care til my aides on nights got there and all was well. The day nurse reported this aide who in turn must have had something said to her by mgmt, and for a while now she has been more rude and disrespectful towards only me. I figured it out... She thinks I told on her. This was confirmed to me by one of my aides whom I work with closely and often. She told me that the other girl got in her face cussing at her demanding to know if I had said anything to her about her and said complaining pts , which I had not. All I told my girls was to be extra nice to this pt because something had her in a fit, I never once said any names or made accusations . Well the ****** off aide who assumed I told on her has ignored me when I've asked her things or when I've asked for her for my vitals and outputs she gives me dirty looks, talks lodly about me, told my aide I was a "lil b----" & that shed kick my --- if I had said anything etc etc. She's not said this directly to me and that's too bad cuz if so I would walk her out and suspend her for making threats as we are allowed to do so if need be. She tries to intimidate and bully people. I hate working with her. She is full of hate and malice and I think the devils blood runs thru her. I feel an evil presence around me when she is in the building and as soon as she leaves it goes away. She would be surprised that the bubbly day nurse she sucks up to so well is the one who reported her. She tries to get nurses in trouble any way she can along with other aides. We lost several aides because of her. Her attitude is awful and she hates everything. I just don't feel like I should be a target and if I confront this or her or go to my boss nothing will be done . I have comained months ago about her attitude and was laughed at by my boss. She told me she didn't believe me. It took four aides and two other nurses saying the same thing I did for her to listen and still nothing was done. I avoid her at all costs and don't say a word to her unless I have to. What would you guys do? I've asked to be moved away from her and so far that hasn't been done either. No other coworker acts like this. We all get along despite our own quirks and annoyances with each other .
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    What's your problem???????

    Ive been keeping detailed documentation of this with times dates everything...you name it Im documenting it. Intimidation only goes so far. I have write ups on hand to use for the time when she wont do whats asked. I agree also, about what she might do behind closed doors. I dont worry as much when I can hear what she says and does from outside but I too feel like she has the potential to be harmful, whether its to coworkers she gets ****** off at or residents that annoy her. i overheard her trashing the facility to one of our brand new aides that was orientating. Now, if I was a new nurse in a place and heard it trashed my first shift, Id probably not go back...shes already run 2 good ones that we had off in their first 2 weeks. I guess these other ones are next.
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    What's your problem???????

    Well, I was right. I found out that she DID think that I told on her in relation to pt.complaints. She asked one of the aides that works regularly with me If I had said anything about her and pt x....which I hadnt. The aide told her that I hadn't said anything. But before the aide could even get it out that I hadnt said anything about her and this pt....she was calling me a B**** and threatening to do physical harm to me......why? I dont know. She would be surprised to know it was the day nurse that she seems to suck up to so well that reported her. Now, I really dont want to be around her. I was nice enough back in the freezing winter to get up early & help her get supplies to keep her family warm! Might I add that I was the one who supplied everything she needed for her family to stay warm!!!! Free of charge! And I did it because I knew she couldnt afford to get the things she needed on her income. I have never asked for return payment or anything. I did it to be nice and with the idea that if I needed some help maybe someone could return the favor to me also. I cant say anything to anyone, esp mgmt because if I do, they 1. wont believe me 2. I dont have actual proof, its just heresay from a super reliable source and 3. she didnt come out and say these things directly to me. I would be fearful that she would try to burn my house down or something since she knows where I live. If I could find a job close by that paid the same or more Id be outta there soooo fast. I cant stand working with the devil. thats what she is. The more Im around her the evil mean vibe I get from her gets stronger, its almost overpowering at this point. I honestly have never felt such a bad vibe from anyone in all my life, and ive met alot of people.
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    Nurse Vs Daughter! Help Me!!!

    I had not even thought as far ahead about him meeting my son but holding off on that aspect does make good sense and I agree. My brother told me he would be calling again today since he's off work. He was unable to get our dad on the phone the first time because he was working too. He seems very confident that he can get this done. I'm nervous and skeptical at the same time. If my dad agrees to talk to me I hope to arrange a face to face meeting just us and see how it goes. I would hope he'd be proud that I made something of myself. He has no idea that my career is in nursing. I think that's partly why I'm so curious as to what his ailment is. Maybe this was why god led me to work at this place prn to start with. Maybe it was meant for my path to collide with my former uncle who knows I'm just ready to get this all over with and get answers isn't it weird how I things work out? I went to work intending to help others and instead got help or a boost rather that may help me from a pt.
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    Nurse Vs Daughter! Help Me!!!

    True. When we were on speaking terms we were alike yet so different. Ive let go of the blame. I just want to tell him that I take responsibility for my part in it to start with. What hurt me the most was when I was in nursing school I felt like he should have been there for that....just to be an encouragement. I didnt want anything material. And since Ive been a nurse Ive seen so many of my own patients struggle, more the kids than the pts....the kids get so lost and dont know what to do or they just dont come around at all. I know how nursing staff looks at those relatives that only show up once a year or when crisis care is called in. I dont want to be in that category. From what I can remember, he is more of a "leave it alone" kind of person and Im more of the "fix it" type to a degree. sometimes I dont know how to go about it the right way. Nursing has forced me to mature and learn from not just things in the workplace, but in general. Nursing has taught me how to think more on my feet & learn from stressful situations. Still....this one is still tricky for me but Im giving it a whirl anyway Either way, I have to have some type of answer & closure or a new start.
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    What's your problem???????

    I believe so too....I asked for her to be moved one time...or we would have been together 3x thus far. I try to avoid her. When she is there she even walks toward me like she wants a conflict, Ive seen her do that to others also. I always look forward to seeing the night shift aides come in, its like when I see them its a relief because I know she will be gone. I dont understand how somebody who is so bitter can work in this field? I always hear her making comments about nurses & how we dont do this or that for the aides...the deal with that is...Im not above it ( I was an aide for 6 yrs) but I have more on my plate than I can juggle as it is and I absolutely will NOT do the aides work while they sit at the desk on the phone or texting or sit in a room hoping that someone will do it for them...Im not saying all are like this but the specific group I deal with is more or less this way. Ive seen alot of good ones come and get run off by the bad ones. I try to stay polite to all my coworkers even when they arent. Her behavior has been addressed before by mgmt but she returned to her old ways within a few weeks after she wasnt on the radar. I dont even know how I could find the time to try to be so sneaky and conniving to people. seems like a waste to me.
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    Nurse Vs Daughter! Help Me!!!

    Oh, to answer the ? about where he lives, I dont know anymore. He used to live an hour away from me, but when he remarried he has apparently moved around several times. The uncle I met said he was living in the same county as me. Ive done all kinds of online searches and found nothing, no phone numbers no addresses. Now I know my mom wasnt crazy either, a few months ago she said she saw him at the hospital in the radiology dept...(she works at the hospital) but I told her there was no way because he didnt live around here & it must just be a look alike. She said she didnt talk to him or anything but she was sure it was him.