I got accepted to a nursing program, but im about to give up my seat...HELP

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Hello all thank you for taking the time to sit and read about my problems......So I was accepted to a nursing program in my area :yeah:. I am about to start in August. I am married and live with my family to save money. My family is deciding to move 3hrs away, because my dad got a job offer....they really want me to move up there with them because if I stay my husband I will struggle finacially. I mean we can live but its going to be very hard because I am unable to work through the problem, even if I work its not much and my husband has 2 jobs but its not paying enough to live comfortably. I really want to do this program but I dont want to struggle to pay bills and end up stressing and failing nursing school. I told my husband that we should rent a room from a friend of ours so that we can stay but he insist that we find our own place....even if its in the slums :eek:....I am not for that idea. The programs here or anywhere a matter a fact are so hard to get into and I feel that I got this great oppertunity to do what I love and dream about doing for a while. All my friends and family are super happy for me and they are all excited. My parent feel that I will get into another program there but I dont want to give up my seat wait a whole semester or two in hopes that I "MIGHT" get in, they also suggest that I just choose a different field. I just dont know what to do anymore.....anybody have any suggestions ?????

I'm sorry to hear that, Nursing school is stressful whether your comfortable or not tho. It just about how well you can manage it, and to tell ya Im admitting to a few mental breakdowns myself... In fact I think all my fellow classmates have had mental breakdowns and we'd be on the phone calming eachother. It's tuff, and I think you should feel stable and content so that the only stress you have to endure is with school and not much else, however, life throws us curve balls. You can do ANYTHING you put your mind to. :) Good Luck... Personally I wouldnt give up the seat. YOU CAN DO IT! Apply for a small loan and live on a budget. Get all the help you can

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Specializes in NICU.

It sounds like your family doesn't really seem to comprehend what this means to you or how important it is, much less how hard it is to get into a program. Go for it! You can do anything for a couple of years, and it will be very much worth it. Not to mention, it would probably be good to get out from under your family.

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Academics.

Before I give my opinion, I have to ask you if you have kids and their ages.

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Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, LTC.

Toss your stuff in storage and rent a room from a friend! Do it now... You are lucky to be accepted. I agree with a pp... With your hubs working 2 jobs, you working pt and going to school, you aren't going to have time to properly take care of an apartment anyway. You guys will hardly ever be home anyway. Rent the room! Take out some student loans to get through school. It will suck for a few years, but it is only a few years. Then you guys can get a decent place. It is kind of your parents to allow you guys to stay/move with them, but ugg who knows if you will get into another nursing program. If that is what you really want, don't give it up that easy!

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I'm sorry for your situations. I know it isn't easy to give up what you've been dreaming of but your family issues are in the air so you are basically in the middle and have to choose what's best for you.

But I believe you shouldn't give up what you've been wanting to do because you want to live at a comfortable level. I'm not too sure how long the RN program is for you but I believe that once you are finished with your program and actually become a nurse, I bet you can live much more comfortably and dont have to worry about living in the slums or such. Think of it as you are investing in yourself and for your family by finishing a RN program. Because it will be worth it. And plus, do you know how many people are trying to become a nurse and i'm sure you know it is very competitive to get into the nursing schools. But YOU GOT IN!! I would do anything to take that spot and go for it. Good luck and dont get discouraged because of the family issues.. it is hard but it is also doable :)

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WOW....Thank you all for your wonderful comments,suggestions,and advice I really appreciate it.

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I'm with everyone else. The longer you wait, the longer you will be struggling. You should qualify for some pell/tap grants and should have no issue with getting student loans. Depending on the cost of your school, you should have a little left over to pay some bills. See if you can get a part time job -maybe 8-16 hours on the weekend to help with bills also.

Good luck!

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If you must take out student loans but do not give up your seat in the program. Even if you do wait and get in to a program later the amount of money you will lose over that year and the course of your career will far out way what you will have to pay back. Follow your heart, you know what you need to do.

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I agree with everyone else here. You worked hard for this and you knew it wasn't going to be an easy road but you did it! I say stay and finish your nursing it will be worth it in the end. I understand your struggles I am a single mom of 4 working full time also and just was accepted into a program and i have no family to help me. Its a stuggle for me every day. I believe you already know what your decision is, so stop listening to everyone else and do what you you feel is right for you. Sounds like your husband is just as supportive. Believe in yourself and do it!

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What's better, pain now for the next few years, or pain and struggling for the rest of your life if you are not able to get into another program?

Make it work!

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Stay in the program. Its not a guarantee you'll get into another program later or closer to them. You're in it now, and I'm sure you've worked really hard to get into this program. So go for it. There's always ways around money and all that other stuff.. How often does this kind of opportunity come along?

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